unfortunately, now that Im not with him...its hard to find him being abusive...he was physically, mentally and anything else you can think of to me...but strangely enough he seems to be ok to my girls..other than, barely keeping up with them and their lives...other than his every other weekend...i would bet, no, I KNOW...he doesn't even know what their favorite shows are, what sports their in...their friends names...and just to get back at me, they'll suffer...and i'll suffer. OK im crying now...i need to go to bed, this really suks. u guys are great and i appreciate all ur help..i will def keep in touch! Thanks..peace.