Having kids overrated?

2paranoid

2paranoid

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growin up my old man would always tell me having kids was kind of a crapshoot. At first I was thinking wtf pops haha but when I got older I realized...you just don't know what you're gonna get. Certain people, to me, seem like they are just natural parents. My older cousin for instance, I remember when I was youunger she would babysit me all the time and no lie when she was a teenager she basically raised me right just like a mother would. She is currently pregnant and you just know she will persevere. However, my brother and his wife just had a kid and when I visit with them I get real strange vibes, like he and his wife are just not getting it. Its only been a few months but its kind of worrying me. kids are tough...everytime I think I want to have kids I think about some of the shit I knowingly did to piss my parents off as a young troublemaker and shake my head lol
 
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2paranoid said:
growin up my old man would always tell me having kids was kind of a crapshoot. At first I was thinking wtf pops haha but when I got older I realized...you just don't know what you're gonna get. Certain people, to me, seem like they are just natural parents. My older cousin for instance, I remember when I was youunger she would babysit me all the time and no lie when she was a teenager she basically raised me right just like a mother would. She is currently pregnant and you just know she will persevere. However, my brother and his wife just had a kid and when I visit with them I get real strange vibes, like he and his wife are just not getting it. Its only been a few months but its kind of worrying me. kids are tough...everytime I think I want to have kids I think about some of the shit I knowingly did to piss my parents off as a young troublemaker and shake my head lol
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We all pissed our folks off at one time or another. Lol.
It's all about family & doing the right thing.
 
lahadaextranjera

lahadaextranjera

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I also think there is an age whereby having kids is too late and one should take responsibility for this. We've all heard of woman artificially conceiving in their 50's and 60's. This is just wrong. Thank God for the menopause! Even late 30's and 40's is too old! IMHO!!
 
mr sunshine

mr sunshine

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No fucken way is having kids overrated they are trimmers sent from god! Who doesn't love little finger hash?
 
curious2garden

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VILEPLUME said:
Been married a couple years now. Wife is fine going either way with kids. Dont care what family thinks because...they arn't taking care of the child.

I love the pluses of bringing a child into the world, teaching them, enjoying special moments. But it seems like to get all that, 95% of the other time is a nightmare. But like a lot of other things in life(work, exercising, etc) sometimes it is worth it for that 5% enjoyment.

What do you guys think?

I am just a young cunt in his early years, so for some here that do have big families, is it worth it in the end?
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My mother once said to me, "I hope you have three, just as bad as you." The fates listened to her and I held up my end and destroyed three people. Money is not enough with children, no matter how much you provide and there was a time I provided more than most could imagine. I don't have an answer. But I will tell you you can't phone it in like I did. I love them and my heart bleeds for them. Children are your hostages to the future. I'm not sure it's even remotely possible to do it right? I have other issues to consider now and I am so grateful this is NOT one of them :)
 
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alwaysgrowing4love

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To each their own.

Its the individuals choice whether or not it is "worth it".

Every person and situation is different. Only you can decide based on what you know and understand of yourself and your life.

For me- I love hating it, and its worth every pain I suffer... why? I KNOW that no one in the world will love me as unconditionally as MY parents, and that I love my children the same... I ALSO KNOW that my children love me just as unconditionally and deeply as I love MY parents.

In a world that I feel no love from- the love of my family/children is all that I have to live for... and the hopes that the love we have and share and show will grow and spread in everything we do.... to the rest of this world that needs it so desperately.
 
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alwaysgrowing4love

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curious2garden said:
My mother once said to me, "I hope you have three, just as bad as you." The fates listened to her and I held up my end and destroyed three people. Money is not enough with children, no matter how much you provide and there was a time I provided more than most could imagine. I don't have an answer. But I will tell you you can't phone it in like I did. I love them and my heart bleeds for them. Children are your hostages to the future. I'm not sure it's even remotely possible to do it right? I have other issues to consider now and I am so grateful this is NOT one of them :)
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Your right about money.... But fucking A man it helps. I am on the opposite end of the spectrum.... I give my children everything I have and am- unfortunately money is not something this world blesses me with.... I do my best, but know that my children would greatly benefit from me doing better (money wise).
 
VILEPLUME

VILEPLUME

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Thank you for all the responses.

My wife and I still haven't made our final choice, but a lot of good insight was shared here.
 
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