Honesty, being honest, and learning to always be honest.

I've got a habit of lying to people, about insignificant things.

I don't lie about things like where I was or who I am with...more like did you take out the trash or did you ask if we could stop by?

I've been making strides and have become a far more honest man, but I lied to the love of my life, and I didn't even need to because it wasn't even worth lying about. It was about asking my friend if she could come with me. I said I did.

When she asked an hour later to verify before we left and asked for a promise I came clean. I feel terrible.

I didn't need to lie, I just did and it hurt her.

I'm trying to be 100% honest but I have a fear of disappointing people, so little white lies happen, usually without any concious thought.

What do you do to be honest all the time?

I would like professional help, any idea on how to receive cheap counciling?

get arrested...no always lie to the cops and ur girl when she asks if shes fat...

$waGgEr said:

get arrested...no always lie to the cops and ur girl when she asks if shes fat...

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Being honest will keep me from ever having to deal with the cops.

If I have to lie to my girl about my opinion of her then I shouldn't be with her. If she was fat and I had a problem with it I shouldn't be with her.

that sounds good there buddy...get married own a house and a car with a girl..have a kid..ya cant jus leave cuz she got chubby..life is simple stupid just do you go with the flowu are over complexing everything.

your girl is overly sensitive check out www.nomarriage.com lol.. i do the same thing dude, i lie about random little things like that too but u shouldnt seek therapy for that man, u should seek therapy for feeling so guilty about it. thats y i say check out that site lol sounds like your girl has u feeling pretty guilty alot if u feel guilty about that. U messed up, not like u lied to her about a bill or something. i get the idea u lied, but it was cuz u didnt wanna have to deal with the hassle of asking becuz shes the one thats insecure about knowing if its ok that she comes.. if u kno its kool, its kool, the fact that she might of asked just to find out if u lied or not says alot about ur girl too dude. idk ur past or ur relationship with ur wife but dont sweat it man. but yes try to be more honest, and never be overly honest with a cop, they will twist it on u. i cant believe some of the stupid little things cops hav tryed to pull on me.. never even did n e thing in the first place they just hassle ppl man. they are trained to not believe u and get the truth out of u still lol.

If I have to lie to my girl about my opinion of her then I shouldn't be with her. If she was fat and I had a problem with it I shouldn't be with her. ........... i agree with that tho lol.. lifes to short to not be happy making someone else happy.

My existence is a lie, my job and the manner in which i conduct myself and blend into the real world and appease my probation is a lie, I work in an office and give off the professional upstanding vibe but every day I sit here i know who I really am, they would have never hired the real me. I've infiltrated the corporate world but I'm a pot farmer at heart lol, lies are a good thing I don't think my boss would like my past when I used to spend weeks at a time on the road making runs

So do none of you consider yourself to be honest people? Everyone knows your a liar if you lie about little shit all of the time. What a shame. So how do you feel about people lying to you? Do you pick up on it? or is everyone suspect all of the time since your a liar?
Does your word mean nothing? If this is the person you are, these is the people you'll be surrounded with? Liars.
Where none of you taught that a man is only as good as his word? I get you guys never got your ass kicked for lying as a kid, right?
Look here many grow weed, and many illegally. So no one is running around telling everyone about there grow. Everyone has told and will tell lies. Frankly its one of the most difficult things to do. Honesty is contrary to human nature. We are all natural born liars. Its a conscious decision to be honest, its work. And sometimes it cost. The cashier hands you an extra $20 you hang on to it. Really? It may cost them their job, they may have to pay it back.
You your lying is about to, if not already, cost you a relationship. Honestly you don't think you've lost friends because your a liar? Hang our with honest people. You'll learn and your way ahead of the game questioning your self is hard. But you can change. You've taken a big step admitting it now take a next step. Make a commitment. If your girlfriend hasn't left she may be of help. You can do it.
That will be $50 please. See you next weeks.

Kodank Moment said:

I've got a habit of lying to people, about insignificant things.

I don't lie about things like where I was or who I am with...more like did you take out the trash or did you ask if we could stop by?

I've been making strides and have become a far more honest man, but I lied to the love of my life, and I didn't even need to because it wasn't even worth lying about. It was about asking my friend if she could come with me. I said I did.

When she asked an hour later to verify before we left and asked for a promise I came clean. I feel terrible.

I didn't need to lie, I just did and it hurt her.

I'm trying to be 100% honest but I have a fear of disappointing people, so little white lies happen, usually without any concious thought.

What do you do to be honest all the time?

I would like professional help, any idea on how to receive cheap counciling?

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Usually, that kind of lying is a defense mechanism which developed in childhood. It's a tool used to keep yourself from harm (physical or mental abuse). Once you reach adulthood it's ingrained into your psyche and the lying is an automatic defense response. This is a big mistake a lot of parents make in discipline. Punishing a child who offers up the truth voluntarily. They soon learn that truth equals pain. Then it becomes second nature to lie to avoid negative feedback. If you really feel it's a problem you can't fix on your own then I really would seek therapy if I were you.

Carne Seca said:

Usually, that kind of lying is a defense mechanism which developed in childhood. It's a tool used to keep yourself from harm (physical or mental abuse). Once you reach adulthood it's ingrained into your psyche and the lying is an automatic defense response. This is a big mistake a lot of parents make in discipline. Punishing a child who offers up the truth voluntarily. They soon learn that truth equals pain. Then it becomes second nature to lie to avoid negative feedback.If you really feel it's a problem you can't fix on your own then I really would seek therapy if I were you.

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True. 100% true. I was exactly the same. It was little things that were an automatic false response to avoid imagined terrible consequences. I never lied about big things or made up elaborate stories, but the same kind of knee-jerk 'Did you take out the trash? No.(YES)' type things.

It isn't right, these things stack up, and will probably continue to eat away at you until you fix it.


It's an impulse control thing, not you being a bad person. I know you're conscientious and sweet firsthand. Obviously a sincere enough person to be honest about your lying. Xxx

xKuroiTaimax said:

True. 100% true. I was exactly the same. It was little things that were an automatic false response to avoid imagined terrible consequences. I never lied about big things or made up elaborate stories, but the same kind of knee-jerk 'Did you take out the trash? No.(YES)' type things.

It isn't right, these things stack up, and will probably continue to eat away at you until you fix it.


It's an impulse control thing, not you being a bad person. I know you're conscientious and sweet firsthand. Obviously a sincere enough person to be honest about your lying. Xxx

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most people won't seek help until the pain of the problem overcomes the pain of the solution.

i feel like it's not the people telling the lie but the people that make us feel obligated to lie. I only lie about small things because i am an honest person overall, and i even though alot of times it causes pain telling the truth i just do it because i know at the end of the day i know i did what was right... if the people were not so judgemental and hostile towards eachother maybe we would lie less and live in a better world...

Agree with that too.

Like the classic 'Does my butt look big in this?' question.

My parents would go batshit crazy on me for the tiniest of things, even if I did nothing wrong. They were trying to make me disciplined, but then I just learned to intensely fear telling them the truth about ANYTHING.

Everyone is so afraid of how everyone is going to react for saying anything. It's not the same as feeling the need to go around insulting people or doing the whole discrimination vs freedom of speech thing, but tiny little things as aforementioned.

It's like 'Did you remember to pick up my prescription today?' 'No.' 'FUCK YOU GO AND BURN IN HELL YOU EVIL PERSON!'

'What do you think of my new ex-con boyfriend?' 'He plays with knives. I'm scared' 'JUDGMENTAL BIAAATCH!'

That's why I try to be open to everything (note: try) and why my inbox is permanently full of people telling me their embarrassing problems.

I lie about things that most people would never think to lie about. Things I have absolutely no reason to lie about because their so inane and pointless. Almost like a game because the lies have absolutely no effect on anything at all really.

"Wait one second I'll be right back." Goes to check emails.

Comes back a couple minutes later.

"What were you doing?"

"Oh nothing I just went to the bathroom."

everybody lies.

Valar Morghulis

You lie maybe because you were spanked for misbehaving so now you lie just as a defense mechanism.
Either that or you need to grow some balls and tell the little lady you didn't ask cause you didn't want her with you.
I'd go with the first choice bro.

I'm seeking counseling. Lying about anything is never good. I don't feel like a bad person. I feel like a sick person.

Honesty is important. I'm been conditioned to lie and its not good. I wanna be honest always. Nothing wrong with that.

Thanks for your responses.

first try not to lie to yourself about wanting to be honest,just be it...i know it sounds a bit dickish, not meaning to be...be simple in your approach ,Just Dont Do Lie.Stop giving a dam about petty things u think might hurt someone and be truthful, or dont say anything if u really think it will hurt someones feelings,...just my take on it.