how do you deal with heartache?

no, not heartburn. heartache. you know the kind where it feels like someone you really liked ran you over, beat you with a 2 by 4, stuck you in a freezer, pissed on your corpse then kicked your dog?

for a while now I've been distracting myself from this by getting high, but a forced sober weekend has forced me to reexamine if this plan is working. its not. it's getting to the point where I'll smoke and instead of a high, it's just really intense depression. not always, but about 30% of the time

any suggestions on how to get over this? at this point a reunion with the shit dick who did this is not looking likely and no matter who I meet (hotter, nicer, richer, available, etc), I'm just not interested in them at all.

someone make me laugh at least. haven't smoked since thursday evening and wont be able to for 16 more hours..

i could make you laugh your ass off in person. but i suck over the internet lol. smoking all the time and then stopping when cause a short depression period! im sorry bro everything eventually works it way better

wannaquickee said:

smoking all the time and then stopping when cause a short depression period! im sorry bro everything eventually works it way better

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thanks...that's what I keep telling myself anyway

savor the pain. embrace it. let it wash over you. It might last days or weeks or possibly even months. Ten years from now when you haven't thought about this person in years...you will remember and it might still have a small barb left to it.

There is no running from it...no hiding from it. Accept that. Know that this person does not feel the same way as you do. Know that well. They do not share your pain...nor would they care to hear about your pain. You will become a lesser being
in their eyes should you let them see how much you hurt. Also know that your friends will grow tired of hearing about your suffering.

It is YOUR suffering. Only you can make it stop. I am not suffering for you...nor is anyone that you tell. (well VERY close family might be the exception) Try becoming closer to a family member? Not burdening them with your problems at all
but figuring out what they'd enjoy doing with you (even if you dislike that activity) and asking them to do that with you. <---- that's as close as I've got to helpful advice I'm afraid.

Gafoogle said:

no, not heartburn. heartache. you know the kind where it feels like someone you really liked ran you over, beat you with a 2 by 4, stuck you in a freezer, pissed on your corpse then kicked your dog?

for a while now I've been distracting myself from this by getting high, but a forced sober weekend has forced me to reexamine if this plan is working. its not. it's getting to the point where I'll smoke and instead of a high, it's just really intense depression. not always, but about 30% of the time

any suggestions on how to get over this? at this point a reunion with the shit dick who did this is not looking likely and no matter who I meet (hotter, nicer, richer, available, etc), I'm just not interested in them at all.

someone make me laugh at least. haven't smoked since thursday evening and wont be able to for 16 more hours..

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f*ck the shitdicks best friend. it might not make you feel better but it will make the shitdick feel not so good. and then tell the shitdick that his friend has a bigger package then him. that should really make him feel like shit.

Fuck as many people as you can, in the shortest time possible. Trust me. The endorphins and orgasms will make you forget all about that dude. I promise. Plus a few might have big junk so what's to lose? Use pills and condoms of course.

I'm suggesting this with no sarcasm...it works.

i always use a bottle of Jack and sum Hank Williams sr. maybe its just cause im from Texas, but i enjoy drinkin my problems away.

ran you over, beat you with a 2 by 4, stuck you in a freezer, pissed on your corpse then kicked your dog?

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Has happened to me a number of times all one after another, was such good fun :/ the last time i also ended up getting my head kicked in by her ex who didn't seem to like me too much

Relly depends on the person and the feelings, but i've not found owt that sorts the feelings out, other people and settings and such didn't help me, i still had the shit on my mind, and as funny as something was, it's pretty hard to laugh when facing real depression.

I say fuck it, i get drunk and stoned and have a good time. My one christmas tip is that it's chriustmas, people will understand loud music hopefully, get some filthy dubstep on and keep moving just keep moving. No time for getting trapped in your head then.

took m e over 6 years to get over a girl many years ago, before I was married. It sucked but as time went by things just kinda got better.
accept the fact that it sucks and the only thing you can do is move on even if slowly, just keep moving forward.

and I was a whore and an alcoholic, but thats another thread.

I just rationalize it, if it isn't gonna work it isn't gonna work. they do what they do. then you deal with the emotional fallout. hangout with friends, do good things, allow the emotion to flow do not stifle it. stifling such emotion will only draw out the pain. the quick stab is easier than the drawn out dull pain. remember that.

It won't work for everyone but when I'm down I think about the universe, and how small and insignificant all of this really is in the grand scheme of things. That and drugs... and strippers... then more drugs...

The only way i've found to get through it:

In my experience, the only thing that works is time.

You WILL be happy again.

thanks everyone

I'm gonna get so shitfaced tonight

Consider the first Noble Truth of Buddhism:
Suffering is inevitable for each and every one of us; To live life is to suffer.
You will never be alone in your suffering as long as you are a Human Being.
It is my belief, as it is the belief of His Holiness the Dali Llama, that true Human nature is gentleness. This is what we all have the potential to give and share and ultimately receive from others. If you go to someone seeking solace, they will embrace their empathy, because they too (whether they make it obvious or not) strive for peace of mind, gentleness, etc. It's hard to be open about our problems with others, but the act of purging those feelings is extremely important and damn; What a relief!
Peace, good luck.
Hope you are feeling better!

Have this make you relax
LOL

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Nice Ol Bud said:

Have this make you relax
LOL

[video=youtube;iU8tJ5oCKSU]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iU8tJ5oCKSU&feature=related[/video]

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ha ha thanks man

Already went into detail of my advice in another thread... therefor

TLDR; Drink more, fight people.

that a girl. have fun and dont worry about anything tonight. have fun and be safe.

mescalinebandit420 said:

that a girl. have fun and dont worry about anything tonight. have fun and be safe.

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will do

your avatar made me realize that gonzo looks like he has a big penis for a nose

a big uncircumcised penis