how much should i pay my wife?

I've never seen a relationship where money is divided into seperate accounts work for more than a few years, ever. It seems to go against the very principal that mariage is a union, where two people join and share everything, good and bad. I can't get my head around seperate finances at all. It's a major red flag that she's already asking to be "paid" for doing her "job" taking care of your children. Yikes, good luck bro.
 
I must admit I have been a kept man on two occasions. one lady resented it, one was true heart who i often think about. The first one was very rich, the other was a heroin addict (rich parents) and most probably the nicest most loving woman in the world, though a bit of slut who had nice boobs and I'd get jealous

guess i should add how much they gave me then.

The first girl, Iona (edinburgh) would be all cool about it but i could feel she was well uptight about it, would give me roughly 5 pounds a day + drinks, food, shelter and she'd gladly allow it in her mouth and bottom.

The true heart, Clare (dumfries) would give me whatever she could, she knew i was going to share everything with her. whereas with the first one I'd score the weed and end up smoking her half too, what.
 
This is pretty sad. She acknowledges she doesnt want to work, as if any of us do, because SHE DOESNT LIKE IT? And then she asks you how much money she can have? Dude, this is not good. A good marriage exists when each person does what they can to please the other, and it goes both ways. If all she can do is think of how much she can make off of your work, there are going to be problems. I would say if this is the path you decide to take, take expendable income(after bills AND SAVINGS) cut it 60/40. Spend your extra 10 on her though, giving it to her flat out will leave her entitled not appreciating your work. Try this, try a role reversal. Tell her you hate working and want to know how much money she can give you. Watch her face as you ask. Notice the shocked "you gotta be out of your fuckin mind if you think im going to work and giving you a bunch of money to be a bum" look. But its ok for her to do that to you? Sad. Women today can be so lazy. Thats right, i said it, fuckin lazy!
 
NoGutsGrower said:
My wife works, I don't. We share a bank account. Why does either need a set amount of excess money that doesn't have to be explained to the other? You're thinking about getting married, don't you talk about and share everything anyways? I can go to the bank website and see what has been spent and so can she. Do we ask each other why we took cash out of the atm, Nope we don't! I can go spend money on what ever I want and so can she. We are both responsible adults that know our bills have to be met and we trust each other. I could pull 100 out of the account right now and burn it, the wife would never question where the money went, she would just assume I spent it on something I wanted or needed. Why does there have to be a set amount?
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I have known plenty of people that are not responsible and would love "community" money. I however like to intentionally plan things for the future, and I would like to know that money is secure. It sure would be a real bummer to set aside $500 for my own personal spending every month, and forgo lots of nice things for the next year, only to realize that the $6,000 I should have in the bank for my next purchase has been squandered by someone irresponsible because they thought it was simply community money. If you don't specifically limit some people they will spend and spend. In fact even if you do limit some people they will still spend and spend.
 
Filthy Phil said:
This is pretty sad. She acknowledges she doesnt want to work, as if any of us do, because SHE DOESNT LIKE IT? And then she asks you how much money she can have? Dude, this is not good. A good marriage exists when each person does what they can to please the other, and it goes both ways. If all she can do is think of how much she can make off of your work, there are going to be problems. I would say if this is the path you decide to take, take expendable income(after bills AND SAVINGS) cut it 60/40. Spend your extra 10 on her though, giving it to her flat out will leave her entitled not appreciating your work. Try this, try a role reversal. Tell her you hate working and want to know how much money she can give you. Watch her face as you ask. Notice the shocked "you gotta be out of your fuckin mind if you think im going to work and giving you a bunch of money to be a bum" look. But its ok for her to do that to you? Sad. Women today can be so lazy. Thats right, i said it, fuckin lazy!
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Grocery shopping, prepping meals, cleaning the house, cleaning the kitchen, cleaning the bathrooms, raising children, cloths shopping for the children, coordinating activities for the children, etc is all important stuff. I am pretty sure that's gonna be the division of labor with my wife. I will take out the garbage and cut the grass until the kids are old enough, and she will be a full time mom.
 
guy incognito said:
Grocery shopping, prepping meals, cleaning the house, cleaning the kitchen, cleaning the bathrooms, raising children, cloths shopping for the children, coordinating activities for the children, etc is all important stuff. I am pretty sure that's gonna be the division of labor with my wife. I will take out the garbage and cut the grass until the kids are old enough, and she will be a full time mom.
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It is all important stuff, but being someone who works fro home, i know how long all of that takes. Its NOT the same as working a full job. Parenting is somethong different all together, the most important job of all. But, they arent parenting YET. Basically if she doesnt want to work, and will admit it, id call that lazy. My point is, if you set precedence to get walked on, just wait untill your married.


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Purplestickeypunch said:
Fuck me running. A marriage is a partnership not a business venture. If she isn't willing to go 100% (one address, one bank account, one last name [none of that hyphenated crap], one love, one partner, etc.) then you need to cut her loose. And by the way; turn in your man-card so we may tear off a corner.
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well said.
 
Wait, i just had a good idea. Give her no money, just 2 600 watt hps, the works, have her grow bud for y'all. Its a win win, she makes money and buds, and its onpy 2 x 6oos, not too much work
 
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