labels are labels... what happens happens, if you arent open- you will be closed off, not that you cant be opened. If you are open, but unsure, then you may not cross that line. If you are closed off, but selfish, than you will hurt many. You may be open to things that only exist inside of yourself however. Its always important to catch our own skewing of perspectives... to Lust the green grass next door knowing its blades are poisonous to us
. If you are you, and there is a long time of happiness and love... thats a real relationship. Hard work and dreams... helping each other fulfill needs and goals, loving and supporting and communicating... KNOW the person... etc etc etc.. so much advice out there...
But really- Do what you want. Just like my own most common growing advice is that I give about life- "It all depends." And "Its all up to you."