In general, from my own experiences the responsible smoker stays hidden in the shadows. He/she doesn't flaunt it, despite how much they may want to. You generally wont catch the responsible smoker out in public sporting a NORML t-shirt. If a donation is made, its made privately. This is all done out of fear. Fear of repirsal from the misinformed and uneducated freinds, family, neighbors, coworkers and employers. If the cat was let out of the bag so to speak an entire lifes work of so-called responsibility would be down the drain.
Unfortunately, This is something that most of us, myself included are guilty of.