you want honesty? how about some hairstylist help?
alopecia sucks, but it GROWS BACK for more than 90% of people who have it. i know going from having long beautiful hair to nothing is hard, but at the same time , short hair on women is a big thing right now.
my best friend just had breast cancer, she fucking rocked the no hair she also had a wig made to look exactly like her old hair, no one even knew at first she was blad underneath, you can have this too
you need to find a good decent honest hairstylist and she will get your properly fitted for a wig,
if your wig is too uncomfortable, its not properly fitted and it isnt properly on your head.
search for a good hairstylist, any hairstylist is aware of alopecia but find someone who is compassionate, and KNOWS THEIR SHIT, and can help you with various decisions.
there are wig programs for people with these problems aside from cancer patients.
I know you want mens opinions but seeing as i was a hairstylist i figured i could help you out with the alopecia
Buy the nioxin line, its a while line designed specially for hair thinning, it wont bring back your hair magically but it should help in some degree ,
if youre using cheap ass shampoo or the wrong products youre going ot make it worse off on your hair
and finally, culture, in japan they wear wigs ALL THE TIME. so experiment have fun, buy funky colors, buy long buy short,
you have to embrace the new you and not get sucked into a pit
As for the relationship, dont feel obligated to be with someone just because they stood beside you through something
and youre alive and while your confidence maybe shit right now you can bring it back, at least youre not dying from some horrible form on non treatable cancer and in passive amounts of physical pain everyday and i know thats blunt, but you need to start lookng into the more positive this isnt life threatening, you just gotta find a way to figure it out
anyways if you need more help with the hair stuff inbox me, im full of knowledge