What I find sexy in a man depends on the man. It could be the way he carries himself, his smile, laugh, body, hair, eyes, lips, hands, fingers, thighs, and of course forearms! I usually don't have any idea about the penis until later, after the initial attraction. I would not be with someone just because they are hot and only because they are hot, they need a lot more going for themselves than just being a hotty. There is no way that I would leave my man for someone with a better body unless our relationship was over.