Perhaps on your path to enlightenment you should consider why you think that a persons who smoke perceives things differently than a person who doesn't. I have never understood this talk of "being on different levels." Perhaps there is just nothing to say between you two (enjoy the silence and one anothers company during these times, I for instance would rather sit in silence than talk gossip or about the ritualistic events of the day). I am guessing you have been together for a while. Even I am sometimes not in the mood: however smoking does make me very sensitive A.K.A. Horny- but the excitement in relationships fade and you must both actively try to keep that metephorical "fire" alive. I heard of a man who would rather gut deer than bed his wife "a women complained on the radio." We all have our loves, addictions, mannerisms, and rituals. Some are not meant to be understood. And one last thing pleez! We are a living people not a stereotype "set in stone" We (human-kind) all to often fall into the stereotypical roles that different cultures impinge upon us. Remember we are all just people, we all have different views and backgrounds. Some of us use drugs for personal distructive ends...Others like myself use it for health. Marijuana has never effected my memory either way. I know because I have been a smoker and a non smoker for many years. Perhaps he did not remember your conversation because men and women or more correctly "people" have different views of what is important. It is impossible for anyone to remember everything that has ever happened-(Just stating the obvious) but although even I often identify myself as a "Pot-Head" I am more importantly a "human" -by no means perfect. Perhaps you should consider a "what if...." What if...your relationship problems have nothing to do with his "Smoking Problem." Perhaps they don't, and perhaps this is why you seek us for advice. One very last thing I swear. Another person can not be held accountable for you feelings, your feelings are yours to own and onl yours. Maybe you need to actively get more involved when you feel like a "third wheel" or maybe you need to pursue activities that are more ful-filling to you. I don't mean to sound rude or anything but maybe you should let him hang out with his buddies while you hang out with your friends. Although I think it is important to share intimate time together I think it is equally important to have an independent life as well. But..I understand where you are coming from. hanging out at a bar full of inebriated man-kids is no place for me, so I always feel left out. (this is why I avoid these unfulfilling situations.) I swear to god now the last thingy here, men are socialized to be childish. We balance out you women LOL! Honestly....And you know if we were as mature as you women, we probably wouldn't need your protection, nurture, or guidance. And you would get bored of us awefully quick! (Women just love to change us men LOL!)
---ying-yang badda baddha bing bang!
