My "girl" not gf may have cheated on me, Is this how i should play this one?

bkbbudz

bkbbudz

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I do have one piece of advise though, if you are not in a legal state and not a card holder....don't piss her off.
 
sso

sso

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...yeah, chicks cant really beat the shit out of you (but are just as revengeful)

so many just go for the balls in rather imaginative ways. (fuck shit up for you)
 
cowboylogic

cowboylogic

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After reading the OPS posts I see why this is in the General growing section. The OP needs to grow a pair of balls.....and sounds like she is just playing him along and buying her time before she dumps him like Enron stock. Sounds like the OPs general insecurities in himself and his life has driven many women away. Women dont like 'needing or clingy'. They want a man that can stand up for himself and her....
 
einsteinus

einsteinus

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Sounds like your fundmental reason for having any relationship which in your case is based on trust dosen't have a firm foundation, plus you are carrying baggage from a previous relationship where now you are "on gaurd" against anything like that happening again (booze)..if you are growing you are taking a chance with all the "girls" in your "real" relationship. I found that some of my girls were cheating on on me so what I did was simple..I cut the balls off the offending hermis..since you may get into trouble doing that in this case, I advise you to take a good look at what your priorities are and in the future take a little more time to get to know someone before you put them into the "flowering stage" maybe your girl does need a little bat guano and worm casings..if she is willing to try that then she truly loves you and she's a keeper...if she wilts and grows balls..I would hang her up by her roots in a dark room and forget about her....she was probally gay anyways and would smoke harsh....you could always try and make her into "brownies" but at this stage she sounds more like a boy scout...BTW .. have you taken your meds today?:peace:
darkone said:
just for some bkg, Im 28, im kinda relationship challenged, always pretty much been a 1 hitter quitter.

so, ive been hanging with this girl for a month or 2 now, shes chill, shares the hobby etc.
I have trust issues especially when my significant other is drinking without me (conditioned response from ex-alchie gf)
We are not official, but we stayed in contact the duration of the 2 weeks she was gone.
i feel highly suspicious that she did indeed commit unadulted adultery. lol

My approach in a synopsis:
sorry for acting agitated, spare the history of my relationships, i need you to understand, i need you to help me, and understand that the only way you can help me is being completely honest no matter how much it might hurt me.

in addition:
option 1: ask her if she had "contact" with anyone while gone
-is this fair since we weren't, and aren't officially together?

option 2: ignore the last 2 weeks, let what happened happen (or at least try to rest my mind), build from here?
-am i a bitch if i do this?
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theexpress

theexpress

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be carefull!!!! women are whores these days..... dont end up getting hurt.. happend to me not too long ago................. but ive never had anything but bad relationships... last one lasted 7 plus years... most of that time sucked!!!
 
PJ Diaz

PJ Diaz

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I was in a similar situation about 10 years ago, but contfronted the girl in advance. Told her she better not fuck her ex, or I'd be gone. That gave her a wake up call, and now we're married with two kids.
 
thump easy

thump easy

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darkone said:
just for some bkg, Im 28, im kinda relationship challenged, always pretty much been a 1 hitter quitter.

so, ive been hanging with this girl for a month or 2 now, shes chill, shares the hobby etc.
I have trust issues especially when my significant other is drinking without me (conditioned response from ex-alchie gf)
We are not official, but we stayed in contact the duration of the 2 weeks she was gone.
i feel highly suspicious that she did indeed commit unadulted adultery. lol

My approach in a synopsis:
sorry for acting agitated, spare the history of my relationships, i need you to understand, i need you to help me, and understand that the only way you can help me is being completely honest no matter how much it might hurt me.

in addition:
option 1: ask her if she had "contact" with anyone while gone
-is this fair since we weren't, and aren't officially together?

option 2: ignore the last 2 weeks, let what happened happen (or at least try to rest my mind), build from here?
-am i a bitch if i do this?
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if your not together it doesnt mater it aint cheating its open relationship if she gave it up to you n you havent put a relationship on it.. if she likes to fuck n has other friends well good luck if you like her like her n her sex ask her for a steady realationship.. Aids stds r no joke...... that shit realy happends n wereing a condom n exchanging slobs can still get you introuble hep aids stds rubers break they do in my case lolz joke.... but for realz it aint official just make shure she dushes n wait a minute for the comeback.. i had a girl for about six month she was cheating on me i worked out of town n well she should have just told me i would have been cool but i think about it now man i was bare backing that shit n kissing her man i dont know n i dont wana know ahahahahaha what the dude might have been doing while i was gone n then i come home n ahhh man talk about being forced to think about another man.. discusting n the dude too he should have nown i was filling up the pie man he too fucken sick mother fucker... me to for not knowing
 
ohmy

ohmy

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All these threads about women troubles, and not one picture. Post a picture so i can decide if you should send her to me for trainning for a month or two
 
Carne Seca

Carne Seca

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darkone said:
just for some bkg, Im 28, im kinda relationship challenged, always pretty much been a 1 hitter quitter.

so, ive been hanging with this girl for a month or 2 now, shes chill, shares the hobby etc.
I have trust issues especially when my significant other is drinking without me (conditioned response from ex-alchie gf)
We are not official, but we stayed in contact the duration of the 2 weeks she was gone.
i feel highly suspicious that she did indeed commit unadulted adultery. lol

My approach in a synopsis:
sorry for acting agitated, spare the history of my relationships, i need you to understand, i need you to help me, and understand that the only way you can help me is being completely honest no matter how much it might hurt me.

in addition:
option 1: ask her if she had "contact" with anyone while gone
-is this fair since we weren't, and aren't officially together?

option 2: ignore the last 2 weeks, let what happened happen (or at least try to rest my mind), build from here?
-am i a bitch if i do this?
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darkone said:
withholding certain tidbits that were obviously withheld, also she didnt once suggest that she might even want to try to come back early to spend newyears with me?? Seems weird to me, I definitely thought it would be nice to have her at midnight, but she should think that too, right?! she's also freshly broken up with her bf (She was in that town)

I had one scanndalous ex, no shame, still not sure if she has a soul. Once seeing someone so lacking of moral fiber has made me question a few (Not all) partners
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darkone said:
Pretty sure its my underdeveloped, commitment-a-phobe, posessive, views toward relationships! Im damaged, ill admit it. IF only. There were an easy way to meet femme gardeners from my area more easily
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I'm going to go out on a limb here and suggest the problem is you, not her. If you're this immature about a partner that you're not even "official" with I can't even imagine what you would be like if it were a committed acknowledged relationship. So what now? Are you going to make her pay for cheating on your unofficial relationship? Are you going to tear her down and destroy her self-image because of something another woman did to you in the past? I'm wondering if that was entirely HER fault considering how you're reacting to this non-relationship.

Go the therapy. Deal with your shit. Don't take it out on her. Dude, don't become that guy.
 
PeyoteReligion

PeyoteReligion

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bkbbudz said:
Sounds to me like you are more emotionally invested than you admit to yourself you are. If you have true feelings for this person, ou owe it to yourself to make your feelings known. If she shares the same feelings, she may be annoyed at first reaction, but she should be honest with you.

I am kind of curious though...what does this have to do with Marijuana growing?
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Even if she didn't grow it does not matter. This is the talk n time section. He can open a topic related to anything. Look at finshaggy and his threads...

As to the topic, it sounds like your just paranoid. Let her know how you feel. Explain how women have burned you before. She will either tell you she feels the same, or not.
 
bkbbudz

bkbbudz

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PeyoteReligion said:
Even if she didn't grow it does not matter. This is the talk n time section. He can open a topic related to anything. Look at finshaggy and his threads...
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Of course he can I was just joshing him. I am not an RIU cop.LOL! And for the record the thread was posted in the general marijuana growing forum.
 
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