My parents found my weed and pieces and now treat me like a drug addict

I've already told them about the research I've done and presented facts and they've dismissed them as "A drug user trying to justify his habit to himself" What should I do

move out?

if there's one thing age has taught me, it's that if you're parents let you live with them rent free or you're under 18, you should play by the rules because it'll make your life alot easier in the future.

I'm 19 years old and i want to move but I'm not financially able and the job market has left me nothing for almost a year. They gave me the option to leave but then wouldn't let me when I chose that option. What do I do about smoking and etc now if they decide to test. I figured I'd say it stays in your system

your parents are just being parents because they don't want you to be associated with the negative stigma around pot ie...troubles with employment/education not to mention the legal hardships. if you are living with them it could also be a respect issue (how could you betray them after they raised you with such good morals and how could you bring an illegal substance into their house)...i think it would be unusual if they were ok with it. just work hard in school..assuming u are in school..and show them that it doesn't affect you negatively. my rents are not ok with it either and i respect their view and reasoning, but it still sucks...it gets better when you on your own. If your parents are paying for your general living they should have some say on your lifestyle...keep it discrete you will be on your own soon enough

poster above me nailed it. all the research in the world won't sway your parents moral stance but actually performing above expectations at school or at work will bring you the support you need, both morally and financially.

also I have to assume you are just not being stealthy enough. if your parents are snoopers you should just invest in a lockbox. this will also come in handy when you move out of your parents house and in with curious roomates.

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They gave me the option to leave but then wouldn't let me when I chose that option.

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I'm also gonna assume this means you told them you wanted out but you needed their money to do so. well this just doesn't fly with parents. you gotta earn your way out. I don't want to steer you down the wrong road but since it looks like you're going down it anyway I'll just say there are lots of opportunities to make fast cash. instead of smoking your weed why don't you sell it at a higher price. hell I know dudes who sell their dicks on craigslist to make bank. just do what you gotta do and put your past behind you when you're in the future.

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I'm also gonna assume this means you told them you wanted out but you needed their money to do so. well this just doesn't fly with parents. you gotta earn your way out. I don't want to steer you down the wrong road but since it looks like you're going down it anyway I'll just say there are lots of opportunities to make fast cash. instead of smoking your weed why don't you sell it at a higher price. hell I know dudes who sell their dicks on craigslist to make bank. just do what you gotta do and put your past behind you when you're in the future.

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I mean i don't wanna just do good in school cuz they think ive quit smoking and they'll think they were right. My mom knows i will continue but my dad doesnt (kinda sarcasm btw)

I mean being told im scum and a low life dopehead really ended me caring about my parents. I've spent my whole life trying to make my dad "love" me

Sounds like someone has a case of the Mundays haha

But seriously, it sounds like you're experiencing an important revelation in your life.

Create an image of success, then go for it.

Start watching slasher movies.

Theres nothing you can do to be able to continue to smoke even if your parents know other than to get your Rx. (If your in a medical state)

I have my Rx, my mother found out, and she can't say shit cause I'm taking my medicine. All she said is "don't tell your father" which is stupid in itself, but whatever its a grey area.

If your not in a medical state, just thank your parents for not calling the cops and having you charged. Some parents aren't as nice as yours.

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Also! If your 19 in your parents house, just stop smoking for 3 months, get a job at your local burger flipper and get yourself a studio apartment. Then you can smoke all you want in your underwear watching whatever anime you want as long as you become an adult and surrender your soul 5 days a week 8 hours a day like 75% of the modern world. None of us want to do it, we have to do it. Its just the way this planet works.

Do good in school & get yourself a job or even 2 part time jobs. Keep yourself very busy & they will see that. Do more around the house & help them out. You do live under their roof & you must abide by the rules. When you're a parent someday you will have rules for your own children. Earn their trust back. Trust me, you don't want to choose marijuana over your parents. You love marijuana, Your parents love you & marijuana doesn't love you. Love your parents & be responsible. Once you are able to be a man & support yourself then smoke your dope & do it on the DL.

Question for ya, You are 19 & what kind of school are you attending ?

Cataclismic said:

I'm 19 years old and i want to move but I'm not financially able and the job market has left me nothing for almost a year. They gave me the option to leave but then wouldn't let me when I chose that option. What do I do about smoking and etc now if they decide to test. I figured I'd say it stays in your system

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WTF is that about? You got to be kidding me? You said you were 19?, or are you 16 posing like a 19 year old? If you are 19, move out of mommies and daddies and grow up. If you didn't have mom and dads roof to live under and their refrigerator to eat out of, I guarantee you would find a way to earn money. Cold, pain and hunger are great motivators my friend. Your 19, young and strong, get off your ass and pave your own path in life.
Sounds like you just hang out with the buddies, smoking buds all day. That's no way to get your parents off your back. Step out on your own, and be your own man! You shouldn't bring "drugs" in mom and dads in the first place, unless you have a perscription, with no perscription, you are a DRUG ADDICT! that shows them no respect.

IMHO I think the best thing your parents could have done was throw your ass out!
You would grow up in a hurry then. The day I graduated from high school pops told me that he was broke and I had 30 days to move out. It took me 6 weeks to get my shit together, but I did it. That was in 1982 and the economy was in a shit hole then too. I know your saying to yourself "fuck this guy" and I hope you are, but when pops gave me the boot out the door, that was the best thing he ever did for me. I grew up in a hurry, i live a good life, I live in my own home, I have lots of land, and i smoke all the weed i want, you got to luv that.
Good Luck Bud-
TMB

all the posters said some dead on stuff! you should thank them for their honest wisdom. the fact is i dont smoke more than three times a month because i have a ton of sh#t to do! and i am just not productive enough to get it done stoned. i starting my doctoral thesis in two weeks and pot dont fit the picture. my brother has smoked allmost every day of his adult life and is not as nearly productive as his potencial would indicate. so like the other poster said ; quit untill you move out and after you learn to make your way you can do what you want

and notice, not one of us said "never smoke weed again you loser" cause its not that at all.

Its you got caught, time to man up and get your shit together and if you do it's only a matter of months before you can do it again all you want cause then your in control, not just floating through time one day after another on someone elses dime.

Wish you luck!

You could leave conspicuous evidence of hard drug use - syringes are good. When they confront you, tell them you gave up weed because it is bad.

I'm just kidding. Don't do that.

You are in a position where you should really honor your parent's wishes.

Stop smoking, but keep telling them about Prohibition and why it is so destructive to society. Prove to them that cannabis is not addictive by stopping immediately, and tell them that you are doing it out of respect for them.

Become independent as soon as you can and then smoke out.

Best of luck.

I mean some of this is uncalled for. I badgered places to death for work. It's not as if I don't want t work it's just no one is hiring and unemployment is at ten percent. Do some of u think every person over 18 is out of the house? Also I go to a community college because my fam can't exactly afford a nice 4 year school right now. But I mean really, look at how high unemployment is, people assume that just because I don't have a job that I'm just lazy even though I've applied everywhere from a janitor to mcdonalds. Also not everyone is fortunate enough to leave the nest at 18-25. I'm not choosing mj over my parents. They called me scum and a lowlife because " weed is dangerous" impressing them isn't my top priority. I've been physically and emotionally abused as a child. I was left in some regards a long time ago

And I'm not trying to come off as a snot nosed kid but I'm tired of every forum I go to that people expect everyone has a job and moved out if they are over 18. They gave me the choice to leave and when I went to leave they told me I couldn't. I'm also obv stressed from my experience sk undrstand that

Cat, for the most part I am your parents. I have 2 teens of my own and I don't want them smoking anything or drinking right now. What they elect to do in the future is their option. At 19 you may not realize is that the choices that you make will follow you for a long time. Your parents didn't call the cops because they love you and didn't feel that it was in your best long term interests. I can assure you that this is all that they really care about. As far as leaving the house so you can smoke, not a great choice. If you think that you are going to find someone who is going to love you and support you, and I don't mean just money, like your folks you are wrong. I guess that you are in college now, good for you. A good education will NEVER hurt you. Work hard, get good grades for you and your parents will be proud of your accomplishments. You should still have a few years left of school, hope that the economy turns around so there are jobs when you graduate, I am scared for my kids. Get you a good job, get a little cash in the bank, get your own place and move on with your life. That's a plan that both you and your parents can get behind. I hope that this didn't sound to preachy but, every decision that you folks is driven by the fact that they love you, don't take it for granted.

I can totally understand! I'm not saying getting a job right now is easy, it sucks ass big time! I'm not saying everyone over 18 is out of the house, believe me I tried, and they didn't let me either. I was walking down the road and they had to get in the car and come beg me to come back, because god damnit I was 18 and I was out of there.

Its a crappy world right now and smoking can help cope with the stress and the crap of life. Your obviously an intelligent person, just in a shitty situation, I feel for you! I'm in a shitty situation that I can't afford to get out of either, but once you get out of it, your happy life can begin and that's all you have to look forward to now. Sure, you can try to keep hiding it and smoke and what not, but then you have to worry about testing clean if you do happen to get a call back for a job.

Don't let their berating get you down, you know that you did your research and its not going to kill you. I smoked for 8 outta the 9 months I was pregnant, my kids almost 2, she turned out fine, the doctors at the hospital when I delivered gave me so much crap, telling me that I was lying to them and I must have taken other drugs other then marijuana, telling me my newborn child was having reactions and jerky shakes, I even had a uniformed police officer come into my hospital room and threaten if he ever got a call to my house he would be certain they took my kid.
So, no matter how bad they make you feel, you know you were doing the safe thing being at home enjoying some nice marijuana, instead of being at a friends getting drunk and going for a joyride.

Just, man, take it easy, if you have a hidden stash, smoke a bowl. Make a plan and keep looking for a job, surprisingly craigslist lately has been more beneficial than other sites like monster, careerbuilder, etc. but it will get better. And your not a drug addict, your medicating an illness that has yet to be diagnosed by a practicing doctor.