The Hippy
Well-Known Member
Marriage eh.....maybe the most fucked up bad deal on the planet.I get to take her back next year as part of the original agreement. In the original agreement she had to sign off and did that there would be no increase as the payments were based on what I was making at the time. Also had her sign off on any win-falls like a lottery, inheritance or selling off my business. And she couldn't initiate a review/increase, any increase in her income had to come from self-sufficiency. But that's only because I fought her for 3 years and after $45k. Bottom line is in the clauses, if you don't get them into the agreement you end up in court all the time.
But a big part of the agreement was that she'd have to attempt to become self-sufficient over that period of time and they (judges) put a lot of weight into that clause. She hasn't worked a day since we split so I'm going for a full stop on payments and maybe settle for 1/2 with a specific end date. She obviously needs an incentive to get off her ass
The thing is, after going through the family court system there is no justice and it all comes down to which judge you get and the mood they're in that day. I could get lucky and get one who tells her to get on with her life or I could get a judge who thinks that because I make what I make, she should have a life of luxury while sitting on her ass. It's a f'd up system which I have no faith in but I'll roll the dice, $5 to $10k is nothing compared to what I pay her.
I would never ever ever ...do it again.