My wife told me she will call the police

My wife told me she will call the police to "turn me in" if she ever sees weed in my possession or in our house (or even thinks I'm doing it). I didn't smoke when we got married. Now I do. And she hates it. I don't even do it except for 1 to 3 times a week, on average. That doesn't matter to her though.

I thought maybe we could make this work, but at this point, I don't see how. The way I see it, a wife who is willing to have her husband put in a jail and get a potentially career ruining criminal record over a plant God made is not a wife in the true meaning of the word.

I told her I'd stop doing it. Yes, I lied to her. Yes, lying is wrong. But the way I see it, I'm allowed to lie to anyone who is threatening to harm me. So, in the next week or so I plan on renting an apartment somewhere without telling her where it is or about it at all. Then I'm going to come home early one day while she is still at work, and I'm going to move all my shit out of our house and into the apt. If I can't keep my stash in my own home, then I'm not going to keep my belongings or myself there any longer either.

I guess if things don't change I'll be filing for a divorce soon. Hell, I'm considering doing so even if she "changes her mind" when she sees that I mean business. I don't know that I can ever trust someone who has threatened me like that.

jsn9333 said:

My wife told me she will call the police to "turn me in" if she ever sees weed in my possession or in our house (or even thinks I'm doing it). I didn't smoke when we got married. Now I do. And she hates it. I don't even do it except for 1 to 3 times a week, on average. That doesn't matter to her though.

I thought maybe we could make this work, but at this point, I don't see how. The way I see it, a wife who is willing to have her husband put in a jail and get a potentially career ruining criminal record over a plant God made is not a wife in the true meaning of the word.

I told her I'd stop doing it. Yes, I lied to her. Yes, lying is wrong. But the way I see it, I'm allowed to lie to anyone who is threatening to harm me. So, in the next week or so I plan on renting an apartment somewhere without telling her where it is or about it at all. Then I'm going to come home early one day while she is still at work, and I'm going to move all my shit out of our house and into the apt. If I can't keep my stash in my own home, then I'm not going to keep my belongings or myself there any longer either.

I guess if things don't change I'll be filing for a divorce soon. Hell, I'm considering doing so even if she "changes her mind" when she sees that I mean business. I don't know that I can ever trust someone who has threatened me like that.

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Alright, sounds like a plan. Now... I don't know your situation beyond what you have stated.

Keeping that in mind, before you pack your shit up and leave, try sitting her down and having a CALM, ADULT CONVERSATION about it. No raising voices, no threats... just a conversation. Person to person. Ask her why she feels that way about your marijuana use and why she thinks it's bad. More than likely it's just what she's heard from the government that has taught her to hate it. If you're smooth enough with your words you might convince her to try it. Let her form her own opinion through her own experience.

If that doesn't work go to plan B, whatever that is for you.

Once again, I don't know you, your wife, or your situation. Just trying to help.

I would say take the high road like Yeah previously said, but I simply can't. Your wife is supossed to be your life long partner, roadie, friend, and confidant, and if they're willing to ruin you because you wont conform then they're not really your wife. They're the people who enter into "Contracts" and not "Partnerships". I'm sure you probably had a conversation. Started civilly, and when you didn't concede she threatened to call the police. Life and marriage is stressful enough...you don't need your right hand turning on you as well. I don't know the whole story, but it seems like she isn't going to change. It would be one thing If she just didn't like it, but she's willing to involve the authorities. I could understand if you were growing, but simply smoking it? This woman seems hell bent on getting her way no matter what. I can't tell you how to live your life or what to do simply because my wife supports everything to do with marijuana. I will say it's good that you have a plan, and you have the balls to stand up for what you believe in...no matter what. Love is not a conditional act. People make it that, but if you truly love someone you accept faults, and you work around them, and try to see the other persons point of view. Marriage is a journey, and it seems that your wife doesn't see it that way. It's her and you in toe carrying all the baggage.

I didn't read the other responses fully but this really pisses me off. Is this for real?

I'm right there with you. I would give her one chance to change her mind. I would sit her down and ask her to watch this video:
http://blip.tv/file/1356143/

Then look at change.org and see what everyone says about it. That all the negaitves are lies etc...

Even still I think I'd leave too after that. Once you have proven your point I'd say something like:

See bitch it was harmless. But you threatening to turn me in etc is inexcusable.

Fuck you and the high horse you rode in on. We're through!

I don't know the whole situation.There, I gave a disclaimer for what's to come.




Get away from that bitch, and make sure she doesn't know where the hell you moved to, because she will still narc.Anyone who threatens to put you in jail,narc you out,for smoking a little weed is a fucking asshole.This isn't about weed, it's about control.She's shown her true colors, man, through and through.This is Ms. Wrong. When you get the divorce, she will probably bring it up in court.Be clean.Make sure you gather all the info you can on her to make your case.Take pic of her with another guy if you can,(if you think you can get her to slip),make detailed notes of mental abuse you've suffered under her tyranny, if applicable.It's too bad you don't have a sister or friend like me to kick her ass.But then again, that's probably the wrong way to go till it's all over.Good luck.

jsn9333 said:

My wife told me she will call the police to "turn me in" if she ever sees weed in my possession or in our house (or even thinks I'm doing it). I didn't smoke when we got married. Now I do. And she hates it. I don't even do it except for 1 to 3 times a week, on average. That doesn't matter to her though.

I thought maybe we could make this work, but at this point, I don't see how. The way I see it, a wife who is willing to have her husband put in a jail and get a potentially career ruining criminal record over a plant God made is not a wife in the true meaning of the word.

I told her I'd stop doing it. Yes, I lied to her. Yes, lying is wrong. But the way I see it, I'm allowed to lie to anyone who is threatening to harm me. So, in the next week or so I plan on renting an apartment somewhere without telling her where it is or about it at all. Then I'm going to come home early one day while she is still at work, and I'm going to move all my shit out of our house and into the apt. If I can't keep my stash in my own home, then I'm not going to keep my belongings or myself there any longer either.

I guess if things don't change I'll be filing for a divorce soon. Hell, I'm considering doing so even if she "changes her mind" when she sees that I mean business. I don't know that I can ever trust someone who has threatened me like that.

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Yeah said:

Alright, sounds like a plan. Now... I don't know your situation beyond what you have stated.

Keeping that in mind, before you pack your shit up and leave, try sitting her down and having a CALM, ADULT CONVERSATION about it. No raising voices, no threats... just a conversation. Person to person. Ask her why she feels that way about your marijuana use and why she thinks it's bad. More than likely it's just what she's heard from the government that has taught her to hate it. If you're smooth enough with your words you might convince her to try it. Let her form her own opinion through her own experience.

If that doesn't work go to plan B, whatever that is for you.

Once again, I don't know you, your wife, or your situation. Just trying to help.

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Stoney McFried said:

I don't know the whole situation.There, I gave a disclaimer for what's to come.




Get away from that bitch, and make sure she doesn't know where the hell you moved to, because she will still narc.Anyone who threatens to put you in jail,narc you out,for smoking a little weed is a fucking asshole.This isn't about weed, it's about control.She's shown her true colors, man, through and through.This is Ms. Wrong. When you get the divorce, she will probably bring it up in court.Be clean.Make sure you gather all the info you can on her to make your case.Take pic of her with another guy if you can,(if you think you can get her to slip),make detailed notes of mental abuse you've suffered under her tyranny, if applicable.It's too bad you don't have a sister or friend like me to kick her ass.But then again, that's probably the wrong way to go till it's all over.Good luck.

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Tell him Stoney. His wife is a cancer. No self-respecting wife would ever do that to her husband.

Not being in a serious relationship like that myself, I wouldn't entirely know what to do. But I still stand by my advice. You loved the woman enough to marry her, is this not just a bump in the road?

If all else fails, do what you gotta do. You have to keep moving forward, whether that means staying on the same bumpy road or finding a new smoother one is up to you. Just keep moving.

Yeah said:

Not being in a serious relationship like that myself, I wouldn't entirely know what to do. But I still stand by my advice. You loved the woman enough to marry her, is this not just a bump in the road?

If all else fails, do what you gotta do. You have to keep moving forward, whether that means staying on the same bumpy road or finding a new smoother one is up to you. Just keep moving.

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Bro speaking from a position of being married this is not a bump in the road. This is the crater the size of a geo prizm. No wife...no self respecting wife would ever do this to her husband. Most wives want and look forward to waking up to that face every single day. Having a family with this person, looking forward to all the anniversaries, birthday parties and graduations. My wife is my best friend. How could your best friend put you in a position like that? If your boy did that to you you'd write him off. Now look at it from his perspective. Shes more than a boy. She's a lover, friend, confidant, support system, etc...the list goes on and on. If a woman...especially your wife puts you in this position..ever. You leave...you hear me? Cause the woman doesn't love you. She doesn't even love herself if she'd give up her marriage because her husband tokes a couple g's a week.

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Bro speaking from a position of being married this is not a bump in the road. This is the crater the size of a geo prizm. No wife...no self respecting wife would ever do this to her husband. Most wives want and look forward to waking up to that face every single day. Having a family with this person, looking forward to all the anniversaries, birthday parties and graduations. My wife is my best friend. How could your best friend put you in a position like that? If your boy did that to you you'd write him off. Now look at it from his perspective. Shes more than a boy. She's a lover, friend, confidant, support system, etc...the list goes on and on. If a woman...especially your wife puts you in this position..ever. You leave...you hear me? Cause the woman doesn't love you. She doesn't even love herself if she'd give up her marriage because her husband tokes a couple g's a week.

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Aye aye cap'n. I might just not get married, it sounds horrible.

I agree with Biggravy.This is not a cop calling offense.If he's punching you repeatedly in the face, yes.If he's touching the kids inappropriately, yes.If he's smoking a doobie..no.You're supposed to stand by one another through most of the bad shit, barring the two examples I set above.If someone is gunning for your man, you gun back.You don't threaten him with cops and make him your bitch.Where's the trust?

that is BS; you need to loose you wife ASAP.

That is not cool. She sounds like a kook. I always said: If I gotta choose between weed or a girl I am going to choose weed every time cuz that is bull shit!

Yeah said:

Aye aye cap'n. I might just not get married, it sounds horrible.

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If it's not for you...no doubt, but i'm not gonna lie to you. Marriage is a great thing with the RIGHT person. You find your equal and you wont experience stuff like this.

it's nice and refreshing to hear from people who have already experienced this. kinda nice to know that there /are/ marriages that work out great. kinda nice to see the two polar opposites.

I dont get it,why on earth would your wife threaten you with a situation that would change the rest of your life for the worst ?

Unless your not beating your spouse or abusing a family member then there is no reason on earth for a spouse to call the police & turn their husband/wife in for a felong conviction,a marrige is supposed to be for the good of the family where both people have each others back,under any circumstances.

Its not the fact that its weed causing this threat but that fact that she weilds calling the police as a weapon against you to force you to stop being who you are,if i were you i'd split that scene asap but i'd leave on a good note,leave her ass everything & get down,she's bad news waiting to hammer you.

I'd rather have my wife cheat on me over threatening to call the police on me,that i could not ever forgive,the police have nobodies best interest at heart.

Having been in a similar situation, not about herb, but about CONTROL. If you give in on onething, then what's next?
it starts.."just do this ONE thing "and life will be great...Until the next"one thing"..and the next..and the next..
While comprimise in any type of relationship is necessary, if it's all one sided, then it's not compromise..it's dictatorial .

RUN FOREST RUN...

Once a chic Acts like that , NO GOOD will come out of it .. Unless your willing to give whatever spine you have to the blender ..... Run away .. Sell the house and split the profit . run far and clear of her ,,,

Once you give a person power .... You cant take it back...

haha spine in a blender . .. nice

poplars said:

haha spine in a blender . .. nice

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Why thank you ........................................

Anotheroldephart said:

Having been in a similar situation, not about herb, but about CONTROL. If you give in on onething, then what's next?
it starts.."just do this ONE thing "and life will be great...Until the next"one thing"..and the next..and the next..
While comprimise in any type of relationship is necessary, if it's all one sided, then it's not compromise..it's dictatorial .

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i agree....first its no pot, next something else is taken away, next thing you know your peeing sitting down and watching Lifetime.

no seriously, she's poison. and shell kill you slow.