need some advice please

I don't see the point of bringing up something that happened over a year ago. If she had just done it and knew she was wrong, that's one thing. But digging up a long past incident does no one any good

johny112 said:

She wanted closure. And how is that not cheating since it was over year ago, if yall were together then its cheating. Sorry man.

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i never said it wasnt cheating. i said "she doesnt seem like she is cheating on me now"
you guys bring up valid points. she knowns im mad. i havent really said anything to her since she told me. i want to know how she plans on fixing this. i didnt do anything wrong. shes the one who caused it so she can look for a solution. but as of now its always gonna be in my head.

fungus- that is true! we both would have been better off if she didnt tell me that. aslong as she isnt cheating on me now.

obijohn said:

I don't see the point of bringing up something that happened over a year ago. If she had just done it and knew she was wrong, that's one thing. But digging up a long past incident does no one any good

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yeah that is true. she says she knows she fucked up. and i would say so too if i were her. im only nice to her i help her out all the time on things she needs help with. i would say i am a good guy. atleast compared to others that i ether see or hear of from people. digging it up does no one good except the person holding it in. its somewhat very selfish. she should of had to suffer because of it not me.

depends on you man. do you think you can trust her again? i had this happen to me. she didn't wait a year to tell me though. like 4-5 weeks. i thought i could forgive her but as time went on i just realized i couldn't and was always going to distrust her. so it ended. you may be a bigger man than me though. forgiveness is hard. forgetting even harder.

Living The Dream said:

depends on you man. do you think you can trust her again? i had this happen to me. she didn't wait a year to tell me though. like 4-5 weeks. i thought i could forgive her but as time went on i just realized i couldn't and was always going to distrust her. so it ended. you may be a bigger man than me though. forgiveness is hard. forgetting even harder.

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yeah see thats what i think is going to happen. maybe it wont tho. cause she is real cool. i would hate to be with girls my friends are with. always bitching at them and stuff. ive always thought mine was a somewhat keeper cause shes real calm and relaxed and we like the same things. we have a real good friendship.

can't hurt to try and forgive her. it's the least she can do for you. try it out and see how it goes. you'll have some "credit" to do some crazy shit. lol. try and get a 3-way out of it. haha.

dank smoker420 said:

i never said it wasnt cheating. i said "she doesnt seem like she is cheating on me now"
you guys bring up valid points. she knowns im mad. i havent really said anything to her since she told me. i want to know how she plans on fixing this. i didnt do anything wrong. shes the one who caused it so she can look for a solution. but as of now its always gonna be in my head.

fungus- that is true! we both would have been better off if she didnt tell me that. aslong as she isnt cheating on me now.

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Sorry man i miss read. But its a shitty situation to go through since you didnt do anything. Its always good to get advice but it all boils down to you and no one else. Youre the one who is going to call the shots not her or anyone else. So i guess give yourself some time and think about it.

It would help to know the circumstances more. Did she cheat once or was it a full on affair? Did she have feelings for the other person or was it just sex? If it was a one time thing, maybe she just did a stupid thing, felt awful about it, and will never do it again. If it was a full on affair...it'll probably happen again. UNLESS she had feelings for the persom before the cheating happened, like if he was an ex or something, then it probably won't happen again, and she was just weakened by unresolved feelings. If she developed feelings for him AFTER she started sleeping with him and while she was still with you, it's a problem, and it'll happen again. If it was just sex, you really just need to go down on her more often. A lot more often. In fact I think guys should just go down a lot more often in general.

see could look you in the face for the past year and a half and think this jack ass has no idea i was sucking on another mans cock and he blew his load on my face

If you take her back and she cheats again it may cause you to seriously think about killing her lying, cheating arse..!

Just a friendly word of warning...

Some men in this thread sound really hurt man... Its easier on a forum eh guys?

Hey man I don`t think you should be scared to find out some details about this. 1.5 years is a long time, its a very long time. You need to keep your stuff together and ask her about it. What was she thinking? Ask her why she told you about it on the finals too. Make your fucking points, but don`t walk off on her. She sounds like a nice girl, and you don`t get nice girls often... A long relationship is a special thing (you find this out after it ends, 2 months after my 4.5 year relationship here) and you build a bond you won`t find quick.

I mean I got with a girl one night after I argued and told my GF I was breaking up with her, it was a 3 year relationship. I told her 2 weeks later. I was rolling balls on E and it was only a snog but still wanted to tell her, to get it off my chest ya`know. But she being comfortable with it for 1.5 years is a bit DODGY to say the least?! I don`t think I would be able to gaze into a persons eyes with love after that, but every person is different...

You need to tell her you two need to have a serious talk AFTER your exam. Once the exams over find out whats what and think if you want to be with this person. I hope it was not guilt keeping that relationship going though??

And remember, all the answers you know deep inside man... Good luck in your exam... your life, your exam, your girl... Exam comes first.

A cheat's a cheat and fuck 'em. Who needs to be in a relationship that's all about trust when that trust has already been fucking broken. I wouldn't date a chick that cheated on anyone, period.

dank smoker420 said:

so i have been going out with this girl for about 3 years and today she tells me she cheated on me when she was visiting her dad a year and a half ago. and i dont know what to do now. im pretty sure that she hasnt since then since were normally always together but idk. i dont know what to say or do. and i also have my finals today which makes it even more awesome.

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sorry to read that. if it is any consolation while i was queuing up for my history final i was handed a letter that my girlfriend wrote her 'friend' detailing how she cheated on me, when and with who. Never great. it was the big pay back; not as if one was the most faithful boyfriend in the area.

I always seem to get more action when i am with someone, why is that?