you also would be good to buy shit off ebay. Your personal information is never shared with anyone and your identity is kept private when buying from places like HTG supply through ebay,and other gardening shops like that. that are pretty good about it. Just make sure the feedback is positive, and make sure it says that your identity will be kept private. Even your screen name wont show up on anyones records.
But if your gonna buy from your local dro shop, do like everyone else says, n just pay cash. I personally make it a point to not buy anything more than simple ducting, soil, nutes, ect from those stores in person. I never make any type of big purchase cuz my ass is paranoid just like you lol.
Also, just because your buying a carbon filter and a light setup dont mean its obvious your growing pot. Alot of plants n vegetables that you grow indoors tend to give off a smell of some kind, and they sell the filters for that very reason. When you have an indoor growroom, no matter what your growing, you dont want your whole house smelling like tomatoe plants. If it was all directly relateable to pot growers, the hydro shops wouldnt be able to sell it bro. The shops are there for a reason, and it aint to grow pot (alledgedly
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