I am certain that daily smoking of MJ made me a better and more tolerant father. I have a lot of asshole tendencies, short on patience with a low tolerance for stupidity. Plus, playing with your kids for more than 20 mins at a time every day is fucking BORING, especially when they are young. Weed made it so much more interesting and gave me a big shot of patience. I was a single dad before my kid even turned two, and I had him every weekend and Wednesday evenings. My boy (now 19) told me recently that when he was small, he looked forward to me going into my office after we arrived home from picking him up from school, fighting traffic, and going grocery shopping. He said that he didn't know why I went into my office all grumpy and stressed, and when I came out after a few minutes I was fun and nice
He found my grow when he was about 12, and we talked all about it and why he shouldn't ever say anything as it was illegal back then (not even medical yet.) He never did. We had talked about drugs since he was about 8 or so, and the risks associated with each one. I told him that if he chose to alter his mind when he was of age, weed was definitely the way to go. I am glad that we had all those talks - over the years he's watched a lot of friends drink excessively, get high and do stupid shit on opiates, speed, etc.. A few were in and out of rehab, and these were affulent suburban kids. But he has always just stuck with weed. He now helps me with my grows and is learning a lot quickly, and earns his small share of the harvests. My advice would be to not get intoxicated in front of your kids when they're young. You wouldn't get high in front of your small kids for the same reasons you wouldn't drink in front of them. But it isn't difficult to take a quick walk to the garage, or take an extra long shit to get a few hits in. You'll be fine. Kudos on the twins, best of luck, and sleep as much as you can before they get here...