Hello, this is my first post here. I thought this was the most appropriate section to post but please move if I'm mistaken. I am not a frequent marijuana smoker, so I'm sorry if I come across as ignorant. I hope I don't embarrass myself. I'm just really desperate for some advice and thought this might be a good place to come.
My boyfriend and I have been together over 5 years and have known each other for over 6. We are very close. In the past he would smoke weed on occasion, at a party or with friends. We would sometimes smoke together at parties. It was always fun and never a big deal.
However last year I was studying for major uni exams and we ended up being apart for over a month. This is the longest time we have been apart. During this time he and a friend started smoking far more frequently. They were smoking 7-8 joints a day. My boyfriend is also a student and at the time he had no income. He spent approximately £1500 on weed in the space of about 3-4 months. When he visited me just before my exams, I noticed he wouldn't come to bed without smoking. If I would ask him to come to bed, he would become extremely distressed and insist that he wasn't tired. It was only after he left that I realised he was staying up to smoke. He was also exceptionally irritable and was having terrible mood swings because he was not able to smoke as much as he had become accustomed to.
Long story short he felt he was becoming too dependent on weed and couldn't sleep or leave the house without it. It was also more expensive than he could afford. Things seemed to go back to normal.
However I have recently discovered that he has been stealing money from me and spending it on weed. His brother has also told me that whilst I am away at uni he is constantly high. He has told his brother he feels he cannot cope without weed. Aside from the fact that he is stealing from me, he has his dissertation deadline coming up. When he smokes he becomes extremely apathetic and unproductive. He is currently failing at university and has made no progress on his dissertation. There has never been anything else that has come between us like this. It's not in his character to steal or lie but since this whole thing began he seems to have changed a lot.
I am completely lost and have no idea what to do. Very grateful for any advice.
My boyfriend and I have been together over 5 years and have known each other for over 6. We are very close. In the past he would smoke weed on occasion, at a party or with friends. We would sometimes smoke together at parties. It was always fun and never a big deal.
However last year I was studying for major uni exams and we ended up being apart for over a month. This is the longest time we have been apart. During this time he and a friend started smoking far more frequently. They were smoking 7-8 joints a day. My boyfriend is also a student and at the time he had no income. He spent approximately £1500 on weed in the space of about 3-4 months. When he visited me just before my exams, I noticed he wouldn't come to bed without smoking. If I would ask him to come to bed, he would become extremely distressed and insist that he wasn't tired. It was only after he left that I realised he was staying up to smoke. He was also exceptionally irritable and was having terrible mood swings because he was not able to smoke as much as he had become accustomed to.
Long story short he felt he was becoming too dependent on weed and couldn't sleep or leave the house without it. It was also more expensive than he could afford. Things seemed to go back to normal.
However I have recently discovered that he has been stealing money from me and spending it on weed. His brother has also told me that whilst I am away at uni he is constantly high. He has told his brother he feels he cannot cope without weed. Aside from the fact that he is stealing from me, he has his dissertation deadline coming up. When he smokes he becomes extremely apathetic and unproductive. He is currently failing at university and has made no progress on his dissertation. There has never been anything else that has come between us like this. It's not in his character to steal or lie but since this whole thing began he seems to have changed a lot.
I am completely lost and have no idea what to do. Very grateful for any advice.
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