Sorry but no toy can replace the feeling of warm firm dick inside u, the way a man holds u as he thrusts deep inside u. But when I thinK about it penetration is not what makes me have an orgasme
I suggest U discuss how u feel with ur lady, explain how her taste,smell drives u crazy.If U want to pleasure her try eating her out while using a good not cheap toy on her. Go buy a fancy one that does it all, make sex exciting again. Avoid any negative talk such as " I don't want to fuck u I want to eat u" this will confuse and upset her. Just take charge and make her beg for u dick, tell her she needs to earn it
Make her cum a few times and she wont want it lol
Bring back dry humping, heavy petting and hard core make out sessions, sex should always offer pleasure, if u can't tell ur partner what u want why even bother???