Pot and your kids: what is your opinoin?

My adobted parents found out when I was 14 because I had some plants growing in my closet....When they saw how much work and thought I put into it they let me continue.. Id prolly aproach it the same way cant really force some one what to think once they have made their mind up...Id rather my kids come ask me for weed then get shot buying it off some crack dealer..

my father has smoked since he was in his teens (now about to retire, he uses this account as well, i am in my 20's)
he stoped smoking after he had kids and took it back up after me and my siblings left the nest for college... at that point he knew his children had all tried it (pretty open family) and told us that now that we were gone he will probly start smoking again and might even start his own garden.
it was somewhat of a shock, seeing as growing up he never expressed his interest or passion for the plant, as to not feel as he was skewing our point of view as we got older. it was obvious in my house hold that weed was not the enemy and my parents really didnt worry about it when we were going through the "just say no" shit and D.A.R.E program. but oddly even in this relaxed and trusting environment about substances my siblings and i never really experimented.

i can remember asking him about acid (had seen it on a movie or something) i was not even in my teens and his description was he could "taste sound and hear color"

i think this is how i will raise my children, always be honest but not overly forceful with my views. i think it worked out pretty well IMO. now my father and I can enjoy a joint together and he knows he had nothing to do with making me WANT to smoke.
but this is just my experience

Jr.

I've thought a lot about this subject. There is a natural tendency for youth to want to rebel against something, anything. This is readily apparent by the "emo" kids who live in wealthy neighborhoods. They find self satisfaction in their tears and believing how their "pain" is misunderstood. Now with this in mind I want to establish a method of parenting. My best friend growing up smoked A LOT of weed. His dad caught him with weed, but told him to "make the right decision" about pot. He did and we continued to smoke. His dad didn't endorse our smoking but being a former smoker himself understood completely, as I latter found out. In my case what this caused was an increase in our stealth modes to avoid detection. The same method we employed to hide the weed from our parents eventually led us all to avoid arrest on a later situation. He knew we smoked and allowed our behavior to continue without informing us of his knowledge. I want to guide my child through the rebellious years, not try to prevent that rebellion. If my child believes that he will achieve rebellion by smoking pot, I want to subtly encourage that. I do not however want my child to think doing hard drugs would be rebelling against me. If I have a child that goes through that stage, I want them to do the healthy "rebelling" behavior I silently approve of.

also once my parents found out i smoked they showed me a NORML movie about your rights when encountering the po po...thought that was pretty smart....

Sounds like your parents were hippies in their youth, cool deal lol. My mom works at the police department (clerk/admin, not an officer) and everytime I see her, she tells me some new restriction or ridiculous law to follow. She's a big fan of legality and kissing cop ass. Glad I had my dad to balance her out. Chicken fighting ftw >.>

jamiemichelle said:

Found it! Although its bad quality taken from my cell about 2 years back. Its just a lingerie playboy but she was so into it I couldnt resist taking a pic.

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that's classic! I love it. Cute kid btw. Wish I had one

CaliGurl said:

my parents were both honest and forth right with me and my brother. they both smoke. My dad recently quit because he has no interest. but niether me or my brother started to smoke until we where about 17ish and we both have jobs and go to college and I believe have it as a managable hobby due to my parents being honest.

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That's awesome, I wish my parents were honest about, both still deny it completely even though I know for a fact they used to smoke. as my uncle put it, my mom used to smoke like a chimney ( and this was talking about before she smoked cigs)

my dad knew i smoked since i started around about 13-14
my mother found out whn i was 15ish she found my pipe draw..
she let me keep all my pieces i explained to her how i felt about cannabis she agreed...
but said she tried it once herself and didnt like it..
my dad tried it many times didnt ever really like the effect though..
still tokes up with me every now and again all the same

man... I wish my parents were as cool, I could never even think about trying to smoke with my parents. they know I do, but I have not given them confirmation that I continued to smoke after I told them I quit. I have never been able to really have a conversation with my parents about it. they are both roman catholic so they are not very open minded, even though they used to smoke, it sucks.

both of my parents are roman catolic too Lol..
just explain to them how its less damaging then alcohol..and majority of over the counter described drugs and the fact you cant OD on it and also that youve been smoking all this time and they havent even noticed.. so this shows it dosent have a bad effect on you..

it dosent change your mood attitude etc..
just sit down and have a discussion.. they'll respect you more.. and may even toke up with you..
my mam at first sent me to a phycoligist
or summit like that ''counciller''
counciller said i had no underlined issues or summit after 20 mins of talking to me..so idk and i pretty much smoked everyday back then too..
anyway..tis better coming out in the open with it.. youll feel better too Lol..

believe me, I have..... although I was much younger when I did. haha thats halarious, my parents sent me straight to one when they found out I smoked, they thought it would make me sucidal.... so when i talked to the shrink, he just told me and my parents that I use pot as a medicine, at 16! they had not guided me obviously, but I was using it to control my depression. I had a set schedule that I smoked, always smoked the same amount, and that's what got me through the day. at that point my parents completely backed off about it, and that's why I think they don't say anything to me now, because I have a full time job (I'm acually there right now), I go to college full time and only got about 2 semesters left after this one. pot does not effect my life negatively at all and I think they know that and would rather just leave it alone rather than have to try and talk to me about it, they know that I do research about things that interest me and that I get facts, they know they wouldn't stand a chance in a debate with me about it.

Same here dude keep her lit

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