I dunno...this is a tough place to give advice or opinion. We don't really know the entire situation. I don't disagree with the aspect of under his roof, his rules. I think that's pretty standard. My assessment and interpretation of what you have said so far includes the following:
1. blowing a wad at anybody never solves anything except makes you feel a little better (very short term) because it is an expression of having some control in a situation where the control actually lives elsewhere. I say its short term cuz in time, the deterioration of the relationship, the immediate disrespect and painful attacks by both parties only further alienates each other and that's not a happy place to be.
2.blowing a wad (either his or yours) is usually the expression of a lot of other emotions often totally unrealted to the specific incidence at hand.
3. As has been said above - the moment anything starts to control you and not you it, its a problem. if there are behaviours and or circumstances that are negative for you as a result of your actions (watching TV or picking your nose or chewing your fingernails or smoking or watching pron, or smelling girls underwear...or whatever...), then there is a problem, whether you want to accept that or not. If what you are doing is having a bengative influence on you to have the life that you want...then its a problem. and if you want a different life then you have to change what you are doing.
A couple of quotes for you to ponder:
Sometimes we are forced in a direction we must go.....
you can't change anything by digging a deeper hole in the same place.
good luck and all the best wishes....I hope things can work out in a good way for you.