My boyfriend has been smokeing like A LOT of weed. When I say a lot i mean like pounds and pounds and Im starting to worry.
He is acting like an asshole all the time and is really paraniod and now today he just quit his job. I need ways to convince him to quit weed its RUINING HIS LIFE and its so sad to see him turn into such a loser
. Do any of you have advice on what I can say to him to get him to quit pot? He has a big glass jar of weed and like 1000 dollars worth of pipes I think tomorrow Im going to throw it all in a dumpster. Help, any advice is appreciates as im really really worried hes addicted to pot and its got to stop.
Actual Response:
He sounds like a loser and an asshole and I doubt weed created that monster. It may help nurture it, but he's not going to quit anytime soon from outside pressure. Unless weed directly leads negative repercussions in his life multiple times, he probably won't look at getting rid of it.
You won't be able to convince him. Throwing stuff away is definitely the worst thing you can do, because then he'd be examining his relationship with you and not marijuana...
Honestly, it doesn't sound like he can be rationalized with if he has already quit his job and has his mind set on dealing. If he's okay with dealing, I sincerely doubt he is going to look at quitting smoking anytime soon. You could throw out an ultimatum and threaten to leave if he doesn't either quit or cut back (and make his life about something else)...but honestly, I think he might just move on if he has been as bad as you sound...which would probably be the best thing for you.
Weed doesn't turn you into an asshole... at least none of the potheads I know. I think he just is one. Also, potheads don't have to be losers (I consider myself pretty successful... I earn around 6 figures in my 20s)...but starting before brain development completes (~20-22) can cause long term implications.
Basically, what I'm saying is that it's ultimately completely up to him. There's not much you can do...but also realize there is only so much you can blame on weed. If there are a number of character flaws you are now seeing in him,
consider that they were there the entire time. If this is a dealbreaker for you (from the sounds of it, it should be) then you need to accept you might have to move on from this relationship...
