should she keep it?

to avoid confusion and protect the innocent i will create random names i just now thought of.

i have a friend, we will call her indica.
Indica has a sister, Sativa.

Sativa had unprotected sex with a guy she was friends with bennies with, we will call him Herm.
sativa is in her late 20's and herm is in his early 30s.
sativa is now pregnant.
sativa does not want an abortion.
Herm was shocked at the news.

Herm was ok with it at first, but now hes feeling regret, and does not want to be responsible and is trying to convince sativa to abort.

Sativa is thinking about keeping the child, even if Herm chooses not to be in the babies life.


i dont see a wrong or right in this situation.
herm says its irresponsible to bring a baby into the world in this situation and he feels trapped.


its hard to pick a side in this situation.
i'm glad this has nothing to do with me. but me and indica were having a conversation and she doesnt want to advise her sister to do the wrong thing. so she said she will support whatever decision sativa decides. and will even help her out when she needs it.


i told her she should support her sister in what ever her decision is, as should herm.


again this is no ones business but sativas and herms, but i'm curious as to what you guys would advise your best friend/sister if this situation arose.


there seems to be no solution that will make everyone happy.

if she keeps it, it would not be fair to herm, but he should have been responsible enough to strap up if he didnt want a child. if she doesnt keep it, its not fair to her because its going against what she wants to do, plus i think deep down she wants a child.


what do you think?

The pregnant bitch is the only one who has a say in the matter,if she dont want it she dont want it thats it.

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The pregnant bitch is the only one who has a say in the matter,if she dont want it she dont want it thats it.

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lmao hahahaha

well spoken dots nigga

It's her choice to keep it or not. And he will probably have to help support the child. If they both weren't responsible enough to use protection,and they bring the kid into the world, then, as adults, they must ensure the kid has as good a life as possible. Nothing else to be done, since she won't abort. He may be able to sign away rights, but that doesn't guarantee he won't have to pay support anyway if she goes after him. I'm not sure.
As an aside, if she's having the baby because she thinks it will make Herm love her, that's dumb.

ImTheFireMan said:

to avoid confusion and protect the innocent i will create random names i just now thought of.

i have a friend, we will call her indica.
Indica has a sister, Sativa.

Sativa had unprotected sex with a guy she was friends with bennies with, Herm.

sativa is now pregnant.
sativa does not believe in abortion.
Herm was shocked at the news.

Herm was ok with it at first, but now hes feeling regret, and does not want to be responsible and is trying to convince sativa to abort.

Sativa is thinking about keeping the child, even if Herm chooses not to be in the babies life.


i dont see a wrong or right in this situation.
herm says its irresponsible to bring a baby into the world in this situation and he feels trapped.


its hard to pick a side in this situation.
i'm glad this has nothing to do with me. but me and indica were having a conversation and she doesnt want to advise her sister to do the wrong thing.


i told her she should support her sister in what ever her decision is, as should herm.


again this is no ones business but sativas and herms, but i'm curious as to what you guys would advise your best friend/sister if this situation arose.


there seems to be no solution that will make everyone happy.

if she keeps it, it would not be fair to herm, but he should have been responsible enough to strap up if he didnt want a child. if she doesnt keep it, its not fair to her because its going against her beliefs, plus i think deep down she wants a child.


what do you think?

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Really? Bitch? Can we not all be bitches and hoes before you even get to know us? Thanks.

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The pregnant bitch is the only one who has a say in the matter,if she dont want it she dont want it thats it.

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well if she wants it herm should be a man and be his childs father now im not saying he has to be with her but he should be a father did herm have a father growing up if so how would he feel if his dad didnt want nothing to do with him and if not he knows how it feels to not have a father. just my opinion i hope all works out well for all involved

Stoney McFried said:

It's her choice to keep it or not. And he will probably have to help support the child. If they both weren't responsible enough to use protection,and they bring the kid into the world, then, as adults, they must ensure the kid has as good a life as possible. Nothing else to be done, since she won't abort. He may be able to sign away rights, but that doesn't guarantee he won't have to pay support anyway if she goes after him. I'm not sure.
i concur


As an aside, if she's having the baby because she thinks it will make Herm love her, that's dumb.

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ya i dont think herm loving her is a factor for her.

thanks for the feedback.

feva said:

well if she wants it herm should be a man and be his childs father now im not saying he has to be with her but he should be a father did herm have a father growing up if so how would he feel if his dad didnt want nothing to do with him and if not he knows how it feels to not have a father. just my opinion i hope all works out well for all involved

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ya man i am with you there.

i know first hand what its like not having pops around.

this is something i would never do to my child.

Tell Herm to act happy and be there for her, hang out all the time and care for her. Then one night say "babe we should celebrate and go into the hot tub and have some drinks!". Wine, redbull, coffee in mornings, hot tubs n booze.

Herm can thank me later.
Sativa can hate me for the miscarriage.

sex, drugs and rock & roll
speed, weed and birthcontrol
1 night of pleasure, 18 years of pain
id advise herm to jump on the next plane.

Just my opinion but is it worth it for a child to have that sort of life just because she has "beliefs" about abortion being wrong. if you take personal beliefs out of the equation its a clear answer, she should abort and wait for marriage or someone who is willing to be there for their child.

how about this analogy, just because al qaeda "believes" america is pure evil doesnt make it so or what they are trying to do to us right. (i know extreme analogy but its simple and to the point i dont mean any offense). if she has to have the child but cant support him/her adoption is always an option. but then the child is in the system permanently and you never know who would adopt the child, could work out great or it could be a nightmare for the child. its a very hard decision but I think abortion would be the right choice here.

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Just my opinion but is it worth it for a child to have that sort of life just because she has "beliefs" about abortion being wrong. if you take personal beliefs out of the equation its a clear answer, she should abort and wait for marriage or someone who is willing to be there for their child.

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its not about beliefs, its wright and wrong. kill the babie or not to kill a babie. abort wuld be a total no no. adoption wuld be the best thing for everyone in this case..closed adoption of coarse.

this is the classic case of jackasses procreating

kkday said:

its not about beliefs, its wright and wrong. kill the babie or not to kill a babie. abort wuld be a total no no. adoption wuld be the best thing for everyone in this case..closed adoption of coarse.

this is the classic case of jackasses procreating

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I have to concur!! belief s and your personal morals is what will make the outcome....if your ok with abortion and dont give a fuk then its easy to jus say fuck it route ....on the other hand if you have beliefs and moral about a certain religion or what not then you are more inclined to want to keep the fetus and mature it to an unborn baby all the way unitl it is born and then sum!!

damn fire!! you prolly gunna start a babies momma war on this thread !!! good luck to the both of them no matter the choice!! but i hope they both catch siflis from this and that'll teach the both of them to think and act a little wiser !!

kkday said:

its not about beliefs, its wright and wrong. kill the babie or not to kill a babie. abort wuld be a total no no. adoption wuld be the best thing for everyone in this case..closed adoption of coarse.

this is the classic case of jackasses procreating

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well no, she wants to keep the baby.

she wants to raise it.

but i agree its not about beliefs.
saying "remove the beliefs part" and then look at the situation. is like sayin, "forget about your goals in life" and then look at the situation.

i dont think adoption is a choice.

if she has the baby she will raise it, its not like she just wants to have it to not go against her beliefs, that just also happens to be how she feels.

well herm definatly has a say in it.
im sure she let him go unprotected. my gf begs me to take the cap off and finish in her.
so its a tricky situation id ask how old they are first and give an answer from that.
the last thing we need is another child brought into the world and a struggle to raise and keep it healthy.
you shouldnt have children until your ready. id remind the girl that and say that there is always time to bring a child into the world and the being prepaired is 80%
of the battle.

but cmon kids wear protection i couldnt tell you how many phone calls ive gotton saying im 2 or 3 ect days late.

and without getting into a religous battle here
i dont see anything wrong with aborting a child who will be brought up in a struggle.
if my parents would have waited until they were 25 or somthin my brother and i wouldnt have grown up with parents who splitup cuz they hated each other and had money problems.
she should wait untill the time is right where the child will have TWO loving parents and all the oportunites possible

And for those of you who i have not reached please turn to mtv 16 and pregnat to see a few issues with young parents.

this is a classic example of why you should let millions of your potential kids die on their face !!! LMAO!!

CyberSecks said:

well herm definatly has a say in it.
im sure she let him go unprotected. my gf begs me to take the cap off and finish in her.
so its a tricky situation id ask how old they are first and give an answer from that.
the last thing we need is another child brought into the world and a struggle to raise and keep it healthy.
you shouldnt have children until your ready. id remind the girl that and say that there is always time to bring a child into the world and the being prepaired is 80%
of the battle.

but cmon kids wear protection i couldnt tell you how many phone calls ive gotton saying im 2 or 3 ect days late.

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i think she wants to have a baby. i think she might have tried in the passed and had miscarriages, so i think she is taking this as a sign she should try to take care of herself and her new fetus.

she's in her late 20s, i think herm might be early 30s but thats just an educated guess.

ok well seeing as they are older and mature gives me a sigh of relief.
sorry for assuming they were teens..

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ok well seeing as they are older and mature gives me a sigh of relief.
sorry for assuming they were teens..

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its all good i figure i better clear that part up. i'll edit the OP as well.

but its a very tricky situation for the guy.
ive been in his shoes before and its tough. when you look into the future and see you having kids
its never a hectic thing where it wasnt planned and your not sure that she is the girl you see as the mother of your child.
it is all up to her tho. all you can do is tell her how you feel about it and then suport the rest.

if she chooses to keep it id want to be there for my son or daughter.
and if she feels she is ready then thats her decision to make

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this is a classic example of why you should let millions of your potential kids die on their face !!! LMAO!!

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Lol cron.... :big joint:..... Fireman I think she Is going to keep it.. Sounds like she Is by what u say... I'd say keep it... If U know she wants it then abortion shouldn't be an option