What's Wrong With Civil Unions?

sunshine17542

Well-Known Member
Proponents of same sex marriage cite equal rights for Gays as the main reason why same sex marriage should be allowed.

Others, believe that redefining marriage is not necessary to ensure equal rights for Gays because this could just as easily be accomplished with civil unions.

Civil unions would ensure all the same rights afforded by traditional marriage but would also keep the historic definition of marriage intact.

So, the question I pose is, what is wrong with civil unions?
The government should just classify everything as civil unions. Its up to your religion to decide whether it should be marriage. It's kind of funny though, gay people have more freedom than any other minority. They act as if its the end of the world because they can't get married. I tell you the truth gay people need a little less pride and a little more patience.
 

ancap

Active Member
Secondly, I will repeat yet again that nobody has a RIGHT to be married. Now since you seem to have especially poor reading comprehension I'll say it again. Nobody has a RIGHT to be married.
I'm not trying to frustrate you with excessive language, but it is important for me to point out that the statement you made contains no argument, so there is nothing for me to address here. You like using the word "right", but given your context, I doubt you really understand what the word means.

Right (noun): a just claim or title, whether legal or moral.

Given the definition, there are only a couple interpretations for your statement "Nobody has a right to be married"...

1. You could be saying, "Nobody has the legal right to be married." I'm willing to assume that this is not what you were trying to say, as this would be absurd.

2. You could be saying, "Gays do not have the legal right to be married." If this is your argument, then I guess we have found a point of agreement given the ridiculous obviousness of the statement.

3. Lastly, you could be saying, "Gays do not have the MORAL right to be married." If this is what you meant, then it is important for you to know that you cannot prove a proposition just by stating the proposition itself. You must actually prove the legitimacy of your proposition using the logically consistent application of ethical principles proving WHY gays do not have this moral right.

All you have done is say, "Marriage is not a right." Again, this is not an argument without first proving that the government gives us our rights, which it does not since that would mean in the event of a government collapse, we would no longer have rights. This fails on the grounds of logic and consistency.

Nobody is proposing legislation to prevent anyone from doing as they please and there is no force being used to stop Gays from Marrying. All the State is doing is saying that it will not endorse such a union.
The only way for a contract to be valid in our society is if it has a legally binding effect. Otherwise, it's just make believe scribble on a piece of paper. Saying, "there is no force being used to stop gays from marrying" is incorrect because gays cannot legally get married! It's like living in 1919 and saying, "there's no force preventing a woman from voting." There was force... it was illegal!


To NOT ENDORSE and to PREVENT are two different things. The law says that if you rob a night club people with guns will come and put you in jail. That is a use of force.
Yes, not endorsing something and preventing something are two very different things. I am racking my brain trying to understand how you think the government is not preventing gays from getting married seeing as there are active laws PREVENTING gays from marrying each other.

There is no such use of force preventing Gays from marrying.
I can see how on the surface you could think there is no force, but you really need to remove your blinders here. The government IS using its force to inact laws preventing gays from legally marrying. However, there is no reason for the government to use direct force to prevent gay marriage since there is literally NO WAY for a gay couple to skirt the law and still be married.

IF there was a way to skirt the law (which there is not), these gays would be charged with breaking the law and either arrested or fined after their marriage was nullified. The only reason the government doesn't use direct force to stop gay marriage is because they dont have to. Instead, they simply refuse to grant a license which is much easier than using a gun.


Nobody is threatening to put them in jail if they have a wedding ceremony.
So they won't be arrested if they play make believe, pretend they are married and throw a wedding party? I sure hope not.

But not issuing a marriage license to everyone who wants one is not a use of force.
The federal government interfering with two individual's moral right to enter into a voluntary contract that has NOTHING to do with anyone else is a use of force.

On the other hand Gays do want to use force to force others to accept their lifestyle.
Other than a gay person putting a gun to your head and demanding that you accept his/her lifestyle, please demonstrate how ONE gay person has ever forced you accept their lifestyle. People have the moral and legal right to make decisions that you may personally disagree with. This does not mean that they are FORCING you to accept their choices.

(As a matter of clarity, it might help for you to define what you mean by "accept")

Really, I have stated all this several times. Why don't you read back a few pages and you will see that this is true. I don't know why you are saying I haven't answered your questions. The only reason I can think of is that you just aren't understanding my answers.
The reason I say this is because you will make a statement, I will make a rebuttal, then you will dismiss my rebuttal without pointing out the holes in my logic. You may have responded to some of my points, but only a few of them relative to everything I have put out. I take the time to address each and every one of your points line by line. If you will not afford me this same respect, then this is not a real debate and we are both wasting a lot of time. This is either an examination of ideas or it's not.
 

doobnVA

Well-Known Member
Just for shits and giggles I read RickWhite's last post. This "Jennifer A. Marshall" person who wrote the article he pasted works at a self-proclaimed "conservative thinktank", the Heritage Foundation. This is where he pulls most of his "scientific" information from. No matter that they are inherently biased against homosexuals by nature (being "conservative", he still seems to think their writings somehow validate his bigotry.


Hilarious.
 

ancap

Active Member
Marriage: What Social Science Says and Doesn't Say
by Jennifer A. Marshall
WebMemo #503
Social science data indicate that the intact family—defined as a man and a woman who marry, conceive, and raise their children together—best ensures the current and future welfare of children and society when compared with other common forms of households. As alternative family forms have become more prevalent since the 1960s, social science research and government surveys have indicated an accompanying rise in a number of serious social problems.
Government’s interest in marriage has been based primarily on its interest in the welfare of the next generation. Among the many types of social relationships, marriage has always had a special place in all legal traditions, our own included, because it is the essential foundation of the intact family, and no other family form has been able to provide a commensurate level of social security.
In all other common family and household forms, the risk of negative individual outcomes and family disintegration is much greater.....
Rickwhite,

Thank you for posting this article. However, it does not do much to refute the points I made on 10/14 page 10. The claims this article makes are the following...

1. Studies support from a large sample of Americans that children from stable families with two heterosexual parents breed a much healthier child than children from alternative households.

This does not prove causation that the "traditional family" produces healthier children than children of gay couples. This only compares the traditional family model with every other model. This is important because a disporportionate number of single parents are poor minorities living in more dangerous neighborhoods. Furthermore, single parents produce much less income than two parents which means that these "alternative families" are living in comparably worse conditions than children of "traditional families." There is no surprise that this would produce negative effects in the development of a child.

2. There are currently children living as the children of gay parents, however, we have no idea if this effects them in any negative way.

"...data on the consequences of children being brought up by same sex couples remains scarce."

Interesting, I found some sources and studies that contradict this statement claiming such scarcity...

Reuters September 2009 study - Gay couples as fit to adopt as heterosexuals. "We found that sexual orientation of the adoptive parents was not a significant predictor of emotional problems," Paige Averett, an assistant professor of social work at East Carolina University, said in a statement. (Reuters)

WebMD Oct.12, 2005 (Washington) -- Children growing up in same-sex parental households do not necessarily have differences in self-esteem, gender identity, or emotional problems from children growing up in heterosexual parent homes. "The vast consensus of all the studies shows that children of same-sex parents do as well as children whose parents are heterosexual in every way," says Ellen C. Perrin, MD, professor of pediatrics at Tufts University School of Medicine in Boston.

Studies from 1981 to 1994, including 260 children reared by either heterosexual mothers or same-sex mothers after divorce, found no differences in intelligence, type or prevalence of psychiatric disorders, self-esteem, well-being, peer relationships, couple relationships, or parental stress. (WebMD)

"There is no credible social science evidence to support that gay parenting -- and by extension, gay adoptive parenting -- negatively affects the well-being of children," said Adam Pertman, executive director of the Evan B. Donaldson Adoption Institute. "It's quite clear that children do fine in homes led by gays and lesbians. That's a pretty basic bottom line." (CNN)

"Several organizations -- the National Adoption Center, the American Medical Association, American Psychological Association, the American Academy of Pediatrics -- also say that having gay and lesbian parents does not negatively affect children." (CNN)

Other proponents, like Rob Woronoff of the Child Welfare League of America, argue shutting off adoption and foster care to gays and lesbians adversely affects children because it narrows the pool of potential parents.

"There's no rational reason to exclude someone [who clears the vetting process]," he said. "Anyone who clears all of those hurdles ... should be able to have a child." (CNN)

Also...

See Bailey, J.M., Bobrow, D., Wolfe, M. & Mikach, S. (1995), Sexual orientation of adult sons of gay fathers, Developmental Psychology, 31, 124-129; Bozett, F.W. (1987). Children of gay fathers, F.W. Bozett (Ed.), Gay and Lesbian Parents (pp. 39-57), New York: Praeger; Gottman, J.S. (1991), Children of gay and lesbian parents, F.W. Bozett & M.B. Sussman, (Eds.), Homosexuality and Family Relations (pp. 177-196), New York: Harrington Park Press; Golombok, S., Spencer, A., & Rutter, M. (1983), Children in lesbian and single-parent households: psychosexual and psychiatric appraisal, Journal of Child Psychology and Psychiatry, 24, 551-572; Green, R. (1970, Sexual identity of 37 children raised by homosexual or transsexual parents, American Journal of Psychiatry, 135, 692-697; Huggins, S.L.

Rickwhite,

YOU are the one willing to gamble and "experiment" with the life of a child by refusing to allow a gay couple to adopt a child out of an already PROVENLY corrupt system. You cannot continue to dismiss this mountain of evidence against your baseless claim that children of gay parents are somehow disadvantaged.
 

RickWhite

Well-Known Member
I'm not trying to frustrate you with excessive language, but it is important for me to point out that the statement you made contains no argument, so there is nothing for me to address here. You like using the word "right", but given your context, I doubt you really understand what the word means.

Right (noun): a just claim or title, whether legal or moral.

Given the definition, there are only a couple interpretations for your statement "Nobody has a right to be married"...

1. You could be saying, "Nobody has the legal right to be married." I'm willing to assume that this is not what you were trying to say, as this would be absurd.

2. You could be saying, "Gays do not have the legal right to be married." If this is your argument, then I guess we have found a point of agreement given the ridiculous obviousness of the statement.

3. Lastly, you could be saying, "Gays do not have the MORAL right to be married." If this is what you meant, then it is important for you to know that you cannot prove a proposition just by stating the proposition itself. You must actually prove the legitimacy of your proposition using the logically consistent application of ethical principles proving WHY gays do not have this moral right.

All you have done is say, "Marriage is not a right." Again, this is not an argument without first proving that the government gives us our rights, which it does not since that would mean in the event of a government collapse, we would no longer have rights. This fails on the grounds of logic and consistency.



The only way for a contract to be valid in our society is if it has a legally binding effect. Otherwise, it's just make believe scribble on a piece of paper. Saying, "there is no force being used to stop gays from marrying" is incorrect because gays cannot legally get married! It's like living in 1919 and saying, "there's no force preventing a woman from voting." There was force... it was illegal!




Yes, not endorsing something and preventing something are two very different things. I am racking my brain trying to understand how you think the government is not preventing gays from getting married seeing as there are active laws PREVENTING gays from marrying each other.



I can see how on the surface you could think there is no force, but you really need to remove your blinders here. The government IS using its force to enact laws preventing gays from legally marrying. However, there is no reason for the government to use direct force to prevent gay marriage since there is literally NO WAY for a gay couple to skirt the law and still be married.

IF there was a way to skirt the law (which there is not), these gays would be charged with breaking the law and either arrested or fined after their marriage was nullified. The only reason the government doesn't use direct force to stop gay marriage is because they dont have to. Instead, they simply refuse to grant a license which is much easier than using a gun.




So they won't be arrested if they play make believe, pretend they are married and throw a wedding party? I sure hope not.



The federal government interfering with two individual's moral right to enter into a voluntary contract that has NOTHING to do with anyone else is a use of force.



Other than a gay person putting a gun to your head and demanding that you accept his/her lifestyle, please demonstrate how ONE gay person has ever forced you accept their lifestyle. People have the moral and legal right to make decisions that you may personally disagree with. This does not mean that they are FORCING you to accept their choices.

(As a matter of clarity, it might help for you to define what you mean by "accept")



The reason I say this is because you will make a statement, I will make a rebuttal, then you will dismiss my rebuttal without pointing out the holes in my logic. You may have responded to some of my points, but only a few of them relative to everything I have put out. I take the time to address each and every one of your points line by line. If you will not afford me this same respect, then this is not a real debate and we are both wasting a lot of time. This is either an examination of ideas or it's not.
See, this is what I'm talking about. Every statement you posted above is false and I will explain why.

By "rights" I mean legal rights as should be obvious. Your legal rights are spelled out in the Constitution. For example, freedom of speech is a right. There is no such right with regard to marriage. Now one could make arguments based on other rights such as freedom of association or anti-discrimination laws. This would then become an issue for the Court to decide. But as it stands, marriage isn't a right. Perhaps if you should learn a little about our legal system before posting nonsense.

As far as the morality of the situation. I have made no effort to make such an argument. The only concern I would have in this area is that I believe there would be negative ramifications in the form of how people view marriage. Think of marriage as a product. There are things that make a product more attractive and things that make it less attractive. In particular there is a concept known as dilution. This is when a knock off product is introduced that is of inferior quality. In this case one can argue that their product image has been tarnished in the minds of the consumers by an inferior product. I fear that if traditional marriage is redefined to include unions that many people feel are unholy or unhealthy (regardless of whether or not they in fact are) it will have the effect of diluting the significance of marriage. Now, does Gay marriage actually change traditional marriage in a way that can be measured in a lab, of course not. Are people wrong in seeing marriage as less legitimate if it includes Gays, probably. But when dealing with people and public perception, logic isn't necessarily the determining factor.

As far as contracts, this is a silly argument for a few reasons. 1) The key terms of a marriage are not enforced by the Court in the first place. No Court enforces the commitment to love each other or even to be faithful. 2) The only things the Court does enforce deal with property and child custody - neither of these are specific to marriage. 3) Gays certainly can enter into legally binding contracts independently of marriage. About the only thing they would have trouble doing is being on the same health care policy and that is because the health care laws are unfair.

As far as your comments on the Government using force to prevent Gays from living as spouses, your comments are simply nonsense. Are you saying that if the next time a Gay marriage initiative is on the ballot, everyone who sits home instead of voting is using force against Gays to prevent them from living as they wish?

Really, I think you are quite confused on the question of what constitutes force. Right now gay marriage is legal in some States. Others, say they will not recognize these marriages. Now how exactly does a State's refusal to recognize something translate into that State using force to prevent it? In fact, our state had a ballot initiative to amend the Constitution to outlaw both gay marriage and civil unions. I voted AGAINST this initiative. But even if it would have passed, I don't see any actual police action to stop them from doing as they wish. However, I welcome examples if you have any.

"Saying, "there is no force being used to stop gays from marrying" is incorrect because gays cannot legally get married!"

This is circular reasoning and it is false. Marriage is nothing more than a recognition from the state. If a college refuses to recognize you as an expert in a given field is that college using force to prohibit you from being an expert? To refuse to recognize something is not the same as to prohibit it.

"IF there was a way to skirt the law (which there is not), these gays would be charged with breaking the law and either arrested or fined after their marriage was nullified. The only reason the government doesn't use direct force to stop gay marriage is because they dont have to."

Absolute rubbish. Can you give recent examples of the State using the power of law enforcement to stop any Gays from living as spouses or calling themselves married?

If you want examples of Gays wanting to force their lifestyle on others here you go.


A collection of 'gay' organizations has filed a friend-of-the-court brief in a Massachusetts lawsuit, claiming they have every right to teach their doctrine to grade-school students.
Parental rights, according to the brief filed this week, "have never meant that a parent can demand prior notice and the right to opt a child out of mere exposure to ideas in the public that a parent disapproves of."
That includes, according to the brief, religious or any other ideas.
The new brief was filed in a Massachusetts District Court lawsuit by Lexington parent David Parker, whose civil rights case is pending, by the Human Rights Campaign, the ACLU, Massachusetts Teachers Association, Gay & Lesbian Advocates & Defenders and others.
"The amici organizations urge this court to grant the school defendants' motion to dismiss because the scope of the rights of religious freedom and parental control over the upbringing of children, as asserted by the plaintiffs, would undermine teaching and learning in the Lexington public schools," the brief alleges.
"Why are all these groups – especially the national groups – so interested in a parent's right to decide what moral issues are taught to his children by adults in elementary, especially regarding homosexuality," asked Brian Camenker, president of MassResistance.
That group said it is a "pro-family action center for Massachusetts" which equips citizens to fight attacks on freedoms, constitutional government, children and parental rights.
"This is outrageous and very frightening. They must see David Parker's case as quite a threat to their ability to push their message on children," he said.
He said the "true agenda" of the sponsors of the brief is apparent in the demands that the state has a legal obligation to teach homosexual issues to young children in the public schools – and parents do not even have the right to remove their kids or be notified.
Parker was arrested and jailed in Lexington in April 2005 over his request – and the school's refusal – to notify him when adults discuss homosexuality or transgenderism with his 6-year-old kindergartner. That despite a state law requiring such notification.
The incident made news around the nation and even Gov. Mitt Romney agreed with Parker.
However, in April 2006 the same school presented the book "King and King," about homosexual romances and marriage, to second-graders and again refused to provide notification.
Parker and other parents followed with the federal civil rights lawsuit, alleging school officials and the town were refusing to follow state law.
Just days later, David Parker's now-first-grade son, Jacob, was beaten up at Estabrook Elementary in Lexington, officials said. MassResistance said a group of 8-10 kids surrounded him and took him out of sight of "patrolling aides," then pummeled and beat him.
Joining David and Tonia Parker in the lawsuit were Joseph and Robin Wirthlin. They allege district officials and staff at Estabrook Elementary School in Lexington violated state law and civil rights by indoctrinating their children about an immoral lifestyle, circumventing parental responsibilities.
The school is claiming a state law permitting parents to pull their children applies only to classes in which such sensitive topics are the main focus, and the books promoting homosexuality were not the main focus.
In Massachusetts, the 'gay' groups said: "If a parent chooses to have his or her child attend the public schools, that child has a right to a broad and high quality public education, not one constrained by individual parental beliefs."




The Massachusetts arguments were remarkably similar to a recent European court's conclusion.
The European Human Rights Court just a few weeks ago concluded in a case involving similar objections that parents do not have an "exclusive" right to lead their children's education and any parental "wish" to have their children grow up without adverse influences "could not take priority over compulsory school attendance."
That court said a German family had no right to provide homeschooling for their children.
In the case that originated in Germany, homeschooling parents Fritz and Marianna Konrad argued for that right because they said Germany's compulsory school attendance endangered their children's religious upbringing and promotes teaching inconsistent with the family's Christian faith.
But the court conclude, "The parents' right to education did not go as far as to deprive their children of that experience." "The (German) Federal Constitutional Court stressed the general interest of society to avoid the emergence of parallel societies based on separate philosophical convictions and the importance of integrating minorities into society," the European ruling said.


Or this


A federal judge in Massachusetts has ordered the "gay" agenda taught to Christians who attend a public school, finding that they need the teachings to be "engaged and productive citizens."
U.S. District Judge Mark L. Wolf yesterday dismissed a civil rights lawsuit brought by David Parker, ordering that it is reasonable, indeed there is an obligation, for schools to teach young children to accept and endorse homosexuality.
Wolf essentially adopted the reasoning in a brief submitted by a number of homosexual-advocacy groups, who said "the rights of religious freedom and parental control over the upbringing of children … would undermine teaching and learning…"
David and Tonia Parker and Joseph and Robin Wirthlin, who have children of school age in Lexington, Mass., brought the lawsuit. They alleged district officials and staff at Estabrook Elementary School violated state law and civil rights by indoctrinating their children about a lifestyle they, as Christians, teach is immoral.
"Wolf's ruling is every parent's nightmare. It goes to extraordinary lengths to legitimize and reinforce the 'right' (and even the duty) of schools to normalize homosexual behavior to even the youngest of children," said a statement from the pro-family group Mass Resistance.
It also is making available background information about the lengthy dispute.

David Parker in handcuffs
"In the ruling, Wolf makes the absurd claim that normalizing homosexuality to young children is 'reasonably related to the goals of preparing students to become engaged and productive citizens in our democracy.' According to Wolf, this means teaching 'diversity' which includes 'differences in sexual orientation.'
"In addition, Wolf makes the odious statement that the Parkers' only options are (1) send their kids to a private schools, (2) home-school their kids, or (3) elect a majority of people to the school Committee who agree with them. Can you imagine a federal judge in the Civil Rights era telling blacks the same thing – that if they can't be served at a lunch counter they should just start their own restaurant, or elect a city council to pass laws that reflect the U.S. Constitution?" the organization said.
Lawyers for the families said they already had planned an appeal of the judge's opinion.
But Wolf's claims followed very closely the reasoning submitted earlier in a brief by Human Rights Campaign, the ACLU, Massachusetts Teachers Association, Gay & Lesbian Advocates & Defenders and other advocates for the "gay" agenda.
Earlier, Mass Resistance President Brian Camenker had wondered why such national groups were "so interested in a parent's right to decide what moral issues are taught to his children by adults in elementary, especially regarding homosexuality."
"They must see David Parker's case as quite a threat to their ability to push their message on children," he had said. His organization has posted information about the judge's ruling on the Internet for readers to review.
But the judge concluded that even allowing Christians to withdraw their children from classes or portions of classes where the religious beliefs were being violated wasn't a reasonable expectation.
"An exodus from class when issues of homosexuality or same-sex marriage are to be discussed could send the message that gays, lesbians, and the children of same-sex parents are inferior and, therefore, have a damaging effect on those students," he opined.
"Under the Constitution public schools are entitled to teach anything that is reasonably related to the goals of preparing students to become engaged and productive citizens in our democracy," the judge wrote. "Diversity is a hallmark of our nation. It is increasingly evident that our diversity includes differences in sexual orientation."
And, he said, since history "includes instances of … official discrimination against gays and lesbians … it is reasonable for public educators to teach elementary school students … different sexual orientations."
If they disagree, "the Parkers and Wirthlins may send their children to a private school …[or] may also educate their children at home," the judge said.
Parker was arrested and jailed in Lexington in April 2005 over his request – and the school's refusal – to notify him when adults discuss homosexuality or transgenderism with his 6-year-old kindergartner. That despite a state law requiring such notification.
The incident made news around the nation and even Gov. Mitt Romney agreed with Parker.
However, in April 2006 the same school presented the book "King and King," about homosexual romances and marriage, to second-graders and again refused to provide notification.
Parker and other parents followed with the federal civil rights lawsuit, alleging school officials were refusing to follow state law.

David Parker's son brought home the book 'Who's in a Family?' in school's 'Diversity Book Bag' (Image: Article 8 Alliance)
Just days later, David Parker's son, Jacob, was beaten up at Estabrook Elementary, officials said. MassResistance said a group of 8-10 kids surrounded him and took him out of sight of "patrolling aides," then pummeled and beat him.
"The state must fight 'discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation' in ways that 'do not perpetuate stereotypes,'" the lawyers for the school district had argued at an earlier motions hearing. They also explained to the judge that, in their opinion, parents have no right to control what ideas the school presents to elementary schoolchildren.
"David Parker's dilemma … threatens the parental rights and religious freedom of every Massachusetts parent, and indirectly every parent in America," said John Haskins of the Parents' Rights Coalition.
"As the Lexington schools themselves are arguing, the state's right to force pro-homosexuality indoctrination on other people's children arises directly from former Gov. Mitt Romney's nakedly false and unconstitutional declaration that homosexual marriage is now legal." Haskins said when the Massachusetts state Supreme Court demanded homosexual marriages in the state, it didn't have the constitutional or legal authority to order the governor to act or to order the Legislature to make any changes, and the creation of same-sex marriages in Massachusetts actually was accomplished by executive order from Romney.
 

RickWhite

Well-Known Member
How about this one. Man, this sure seems like forcing ones lifestyle on others to me. Evidently it's horribly wrong to deny Gays their rights but Church doesn't have a right to their faith?

WESTMINSTER, May 26, 2008 (LifeSiteNews.com) - Under the leadership of Cormac Cardinal Murphy O'Connor, the Catholic Church in England has recently disaffiliated itself from three of the country's largest adoption agencies. The Church stated that its adoption agencies 'cannot remain Catholic and conform to the Sexual Orientation Regulations."

In an effort to put an end to discrimination against same-sex couples, the British Government released an official statement in 2007 declaring that all adoption agencies must allow same-sex couples to adopt children with equal consideration, regardless of the sexual orientation of the adopting couple. At the time of the statement, Tony Blair and his cabinet gave a 21-month "delay" as a "sensible compromise" to allow Churches to adjust their respective protocols to become more 'tolerant' of same-sex couple adoption.

This past week, the Church in England cut ties with the Surrey-based Catholic Children's Society; one of the country's largest adoption agencies, with operations covering much of the south-eastern region of the country. As well, the dioceses of Northampton and the diocese of Nottingham have ended their involvement in all adoption agencies in their respective locales. There remain ten other adoption agencies in Britain and Wales whose decisions are due to be released in the coming weeks as the 21-month period comes to a close.

When Blair, who has since inexplicably become a Catholic, first announced the new attempt at opening the doors for adoption to both homosexual and heterosexual couples, many MPs were aware that this move towards 'political correctness' posed several implications.

At the time of the statement's release, as well as throughout this past year, Cormac Cardinal Murphy O' Connor made several attempts to compromise with the government on this point, hoping for some kind of exemption for the Catholic adoption agencies, but was met without sympathy.

"Here the Catholic Church and its adoption services are wishing to act according to its principles and conscience and the government is saying: 'No, we won't allow you to ... you have no space, you have no place in the public life of this country,'" said Cardinal Murphy O'Connor in an interview with the BBC last winter.

As has often been said, the government's promotion of homosexual "rights" will inevitably lead to discrimination towards people of faith. Catholic adoption agencies are known for providing care for the hardest cases, particularly disabled children, and forcing them out of adoption services will be a great blow to these children. Moreover, with the closure of these Catholic-run adoption agencies, there will be more incoming children elsewhere than accommodations permit.

In a 2005 interview with Fides (Agenzia Fides, Vatican news), the late Cardinal Alfonso López Trujillo, former President of the Pontifical Council for the Family, was adamant on the need to hold fast to the family unit "in its traditional sense" to ensure healthy children and a healthy society.

"[Adoption by homosexual couples] would destroy the child's future, it would be an act of moral violence against the child. The United Nations Convention dated 1998 says that the greatest principle is the good of the child, the rights of the child. This is a central principle in the constitutions of the many countries which signed the Convention," said Cardinal Trujillo.

The Cardinal went on to speak about the sacred right of each child to belong to a "real family" where the child is loved and enabled "to grow and to develop harmoniously". Cardinal Trujillo then noted that when he presented these points to the United Nations Convention of The Hague in 1996, he was met with unanimous accord.

"Now I am criticized for my work which is something the Church has always preached to the whole world. It has been preached by John Paul II, the then-Cardinal today our beloved Pope Ratzinger, the Bishops Conferences. It is not a personal opinion it is my duty because my mission is to promote and protect the family", said Cardinal Trujillo.

In a Vatican document released in 2005 entitled "Considerations Regarding Proposals to Give Legal Recognition to Unions Between Homosexual Persons," then-Cardinal Ratzinger wrote, "Allowing children to be adopted by persons living in (homosexual) unions would actually mean doing violence to these children, in the sense that their condition of dependency would be used to place them in an environment that is not conducive to their full human development."

The Church is not only being forced to abandon its own adoption charities in England, but she has also been subject to much "moral cornering" in Massachusetts. The state has experienced similar government 'strong-arm' tactics, causing the Church to scramble in implementing adoption restrictions that ensure healthy family lives for the adopted children.

To see Vatican document and interview transcript, respectively:
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RickWhite

Well-Known Member
Rickwhite,

Thank you for posting this article. However, it does not do much to refute the points I made on 10/14 page 10. The claims this article makes are the following...

1. Studies support from a large sample of Americans that children from stable families with two heterosexual parents breed a much healthier child than children from alternative households.

This does not prove causation that the "traditional family" produces healthier children than children of gay couples. This only compares the traditional family model with every other model. This is important because a disporportionate number of single parents are poor minorities living in more dangerous neighborhoods. Furthermore, single parents produce much less income than two parents which means that these "alternative families" are living in comparably worse conditions than children of "traditional families." There is no surprise that this would produce negative effects in the development of a child.

2. There are currently children living as the children of gay parents, however, we have no idea if this effects them in any negative way.

"...data on the consequences of children being brought up by same sex couples remains scarce."

Interesting, I found some sources and studies that contradict this statement claiming such scarcity...

Reuters September 2009 study - Gay couples as fit to adopt as heterosexuals. "We found that sexual orientation of the adoptive parents was not a significant predictor of emotional problems," Paige Averett, an assistant professor of social work at East Carolina University, said in a statement. (Reuters)

WebMD Oct.12, 2005 (Washington) -- Children growing up in same-sex parental households do not necessarily have differences in self-esteem, gender identity, or emotional problems from children growing up in heterosexual parent homes. "The vast consensus of all the studies shows that children of same-sex parents do as well as children whose parents are heterosexual in every way," says Ellen C. Perrin, MD, professor of pediatrics at Tufts University School of Medicine in Boston.

Studies from 1981 to 1994, including 260 children reared by either heterosexual mothers or same-sex mothers after divorce, found no differences in intelligence, type or prevalence of psychiatric disorders, self-esteem, well-being, peer relationships, couple relationships, or parental stress. (WebMD)

"There is no credible social science evidence to support that gay parenting -- and by extension, gay adoptive parenting -- negatively affects the well-being of children," said Adam Pertman, executive director of the Evan B. Donaldson Adoption Institute. "It's quite clear that children do fine in homes led by gays and lesbians. That's a pretty basic bottom line." (CNN)

"Several organizations -- the National Adoption Center, the American Medical Association, American Psychological Association, the American Academy of Pediatrics -- also say that having gay and lesbian parents does not negatively affect children." (CNN)

Other proponents, like Rob Woronoff of the Child Welfare League of America, argue shutting off adoption and foster care to gays and lesbians adversely affects children because it narrows the pool of potential parents.

"There's no rational reason to exclude someone [who clears the vetting process]," he said. "Anyone who clears all of those hurdles ... should be able to have a child." (CNN)

Also...

See Bailey, J.M., Bobrow, D., Wolfe, M. & Mikach, S. (1995), Sexual orientation of adult sons of gay fathers, Developmental Psychology, 31, 124-129; Bozett, F.W. (1987). Children of gay fathers, F.W. Bozett (Ed.), Gay and Lesbian Parents (pp. 39-57), New York: Praeger; Gottman, J.S. (1991), Children of gay and lesbian parents, F.W. Bozett & M.B. Sussman, (Eds.), Homosexuality and Family Relations (pp. 177-196), New York: Harrington Park Press; Golombok, S., Spencer, A., & Rutter, M. (1983), Children in lesbian and single-parent households: psychosexual and psychiatric appraisal, Journal of Child Psychology and Psychiatry, 24, 551-572; Green, R. (1970, Sexual identity of 37 children raised by homosexual or transsexual parents, American Journal of Psychiatry, 135, 692-697; Huggins, S.L.

Rickwhite,

YOU are the one willing to gamble and "experiment" with the life of a child by refusing to allow a gay couple to adopt a child out of an already PROVENLY corrupt system. You cannot continue to dismiss this mountain of evidence against your baseless claim that children of gay parents are somehow disadvantaged.
Here as before, you posted some comments supporting your argument. These however are merely comments. Do you have any actual research text you can post?

Clearly, you understand that many people will say many things to support their ideology. The APA which you quoted earlier once said that divorce had no negative impact on children. This was later proved to be false. The APA also defined Homosexuality as a disease until some time in the 70s when their new president, who was gay, had it removed from that classification.

Fact is, there is little to no evidence of the effects of raising children in gay homes. I would be interested to see some actual research but I doubt I can access those journals.

Anyway, a handful of opinions doesn't constitute proof.

And by the way, it is not true that there are hoards of children in need of adoption. I actually know someone who was trying to adopt. People are actually outbidding each other for healthy white babies and the bids are in the $20,000+ range.

Older children found in foster homes are a bad indication of anything because it stands to reason they are messed up to begin with. To blame this on the foster home is to confuse correlation with causation.
 

Stoney McFried

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Adams HE, Wright LW Jr, Lohr BA. Department of Psychology, University of Georgia, Athens 30602-3013, USA.
The authors investigated the role of homosexual arousal in exclusively heterosexual men who admitted negative affect toward homosexual individuals. Participants consisted of a group of homophobic men (n = 35) and a group of nonhomophobic men (n = 29); they were assigned to groups on the basis of their scores on the Index of Homophobia (W. W. Hudson & W. A. Ricketts, 1980). The men were exposed to sexually explicit erotic stimuli consisting of heterosexual, male homosexual, and lesbian videotapes, and changes in penile circumference were monitored. They also completed an Aggression Questionnaire (A. H. Buss & M. Perry, 1992). Both groups exhibited increases in penile circumference to the heterosexual and female homosexual videos. Only the homophobic men showed an increase in penile erection to male homosexual stimuli. The groups did not differ in aggression. Homophobia is apparently associated with homosexual arousal that the homophobic individual is either unaware of or denies.
PMID: 8772014 [PubMed - indexed for MEDLINE]
 

Leothwyn

Well-Known Member
How about this one. Man, this sure seems like forcing ones lifestyle on others to me. Evidently it's horribly wrong to deny Gays their rights but Church doesn't have a right to their faith?
They have a right to their faith. Has that been taken away? No. If they are in a democratic society where discrimination against gays is no longer allowed, then they're free to either follow the law, or do some other charitable work aside from adoption.

If I was part of a white supremacist church that did adoptions, but only to people whose skin wasn't too dark, would that be alright with you Rick?
I assume you'd support my right to my faith.
 

Hollander

Member
It must be AWESOME to be ignorant. We are supposed to be governed based on the fact that all men (people) are created equal. With that in mind, we should all be allowed the same legal opportunities and rights. I'm offended by some of the things posted in here, not due to the content, but rather by the level of stupidity that some of you have exposed me to. Can someone PLEASE tell me where the grown-ups post?

Ancap- well played sir, let's be friends.
Doobnva-some nice posts, cheers.
 

ancap

Active Member
See, this is what I'm talking about. Every statement you posted above is false and I will explain why.
Every statement? Every single one is false? I didn't even luck out on one statement? :sad:

By "rights" I mean legal rights as should be obvious. Your legal rights are spelled out in the Constitution. For example, freedom of speech is a right. There is no such right with regard to marriage.
Let's be clear, I fully understand what you are saying. If you make the assumption that governments are ethically legitimate, voluntary organizations not fueled on violence, what you are saying would have great validity. However, we obviously do not see the government in the same light, and I do not look to any violent organization to grant me rights and liberties.

As far as the morality of the situation. I have made no effort to make such an argument.
You are claiming that allowing gays to form a civil contract and calling it "marriage" would be unethical, no?

The only concern I would have in this area is that I believe there would be negative ramifications in the form of how people view marriage. Think of marriage as a product. I fear that if traditional marriage is redefined to include unions that many people feel are unholy or unhealthy (regardless of whether or not they in fact are) it will have the effect of diluting the significance of marriage.
Again, I want you to be sure that I fully understand what you are saying here. I do follow your logic. Here is what I think however...

1. I don't care how people view marriage. I don't care if people start thinking marriage is complete shit. We should not enact laws (or sustain laws) for the purpose of making sure other people value our values.

2. "Significance" does not exist in reality. It is a concept in one's head based on one's set of values. Thus, including gay unions in the legal definition of marriage will actually change nothing in reality. If nothing is being changed in reality, then there is no force present against people who do not morally approve of gay marriage.

It is simply not ethical to use the government to protect a word that Christians do not own in the first place. And IF Christians do own the word marriage (i.e. it is distinctly a Christian ritual), then it should not be adopted by the state which governs ALL people. Are you with me at all?

Now, does Gay marriage actually change traditional marriage in a way that can be measured in a lab, of course not. Are people wrong in seeing marriage as less legitimate if it includes Gays, probably. But when dealing with people and public perception, logic isn't necessarily the determining factor.
If you believe that...

A. Gay marriage would not effect traditional marriages in any tangible way.

And B. People that believe gays would dilute traditional marriage are presenting fears that are logically inconsistent with reality,

Why in the world would you advocate using the federal government to create or sustain a law that supports segregating individuals based on their unchosen nature?

As far as your comments on the Government using force to prevent Gays from living as spouses, your comments are simply nonsense. Are you saying that if the next time a Gay marriage initiative is on the ballot, everyone who sits home instead of voting is using force against Gays to prevent them from living as they wish?
That's not quite what I said. I said the government is using force preventing gays from marrying each other. However, if you follow that logic, then gays would not be legally able to live together as spouses since being a "spouse" by definition assumes you are married.

You have to remember, force is not always visible. You can't always look for the gun or billy club when trying to locate force.

Really, I think you are quite confused on the question of what constitutes force. Right now gay marriage is legal in some States. Others, say they will not recognize these marriages. Now how exactly does a State's refusal to recognize something translate into that State using force to prevent it? I don't see any actual police action to stop them from doing as they wish. However, I welcome examples if you have any.
Allow me to use an analogy to address this specific issue. This does not relate to gay marriage, it is simply meant to demonstrate how a "refusal to recognize" can actually be a display of force. I'm going to use an extreme example...

Let's pretend that an organization somehow controlled the entire water supply and decided to whom it would grant the legal ability to receive water to drink (in this scenario, there is no government or police action to stop this). If this organization then decided that it would not recognize blonde haired people's right to drink water, it would then be exerting a form of passive aggression against them, though it is not using a gun or billy club. They effectively don't have to lift a finger to initiate this force against blonde haired people.

When the government (who monopolizes contract validation) decides not to recognize a gay person's right to marry, they are certainly using a passive force against them. Though clearly denying someone water would have more severe consequences, there is a similar display of force in both scenarios.


If a college refuses to recognize you as an expert in a given field is that college using force to prohibit you from being an expert?
This is a great question.

The answer is, only if that college monopolizes the "expert", title granting process, and if being an "expert" in your hypothetical was neccessary to obtaining a job in your field.


If you want examples of Gays wanting to force their lifestyle on others here you go.
I read through these articles you posted which give examples of gay groups using the force of the government to propagandize to children. Yes, that is evil. It is also true that this kind of thing would not happen if the government did not control the schools.
 
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