As stated, even your own wife/spouse will rat on you, i'm living proof of that.
I don't know about your guy's states but, cultivation isnt a misdemeanor. That's just funny to think about...
I have yet to go to trail, infact i was just indicted today. I spent 20 days in jail before being able to bail out... so i'm jelous of your friends that got out the next morning. My bail was set high, 100,000 to be precise, then changed to 50,000 but set at 100% cash bond, if you don't know what the means, it means 50,000 cash. no bondsman, no 10 or 20% and no properties, which made my bail about 5 times worse.