What to do when your close friends want a share of your harvest?

Dabu

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I have a pretty good friend of mine who helped me with advice and stuff on my grow. There's no way in heck he'd ever steal anything from me, or rat me out to the police. Every week or so he gets a kick out of coming over and checking out my grow, and seeing how it's going and stuff.

But now that it's like 2/3 of the way through flowering, he jokes around every so often "so... how much do i get? You know if you gave me some, I'd smoke you out when you came over" etc.

What should I say? In all honesty, I'd say he deserves about 1/8 ounce for moral support and smoking me out with his own weed. This is my first grow, and I honestly haven't smoked much weed. I've been stoned off my fucking ass about 5 times, properly high a total of maybe 10 times, buzzed another 15-20 times. That's it. He's been high like 100+ times, and smoked so much more than me. I've never really smoked by myself. Even when I had my own stuff (1/4 ounce), I smoked it with other people including him.

This grow is finally a chance for me to get a ton of my own shit, and have nice relaxing fun toking up on my own. But, I feel like it's being threatened by people wanting a share of the weed. An experienced pot smoker who doesn't grow, wanting the weed of an amateur pot smoker who took the initiative and the risk to grow.

Any advice?

In addition, I would like to note that yes, I have a backbone, and yes, I could tell him to fuck off if I really wanted, but no, I don't want to be a complete dick. What I really want to do is just have all my own shit, and just smoke him out whenever we hang out, etc.

The reasons for this: He's never actually given me weed to take home to smoke by myself; so why should I give him weed to smoke by himself? Especially when I am the inexperienced guy who has SO MUCH CATCHING UP TO DO! Amiright?

Also, I spent about $400 total on sunk costs such as two 150w HPS systems, a dozen or so CFLs, four lamp reflectors, some CFL y-splitters, an ELF carbon filter and 4 inch inline fan, and soil, pots, and hours and hours and hours of time.

None of my friends have really spent any money on the grow, so it's 100% my own. If that makes sense.

Advice from a noob pot smoker? :)


P.S. I'm expecting somewhere between 1 and 3 ounces harvest for the first grow (two plants). I have some insanely tall outdoor plants but they are just starting to show sex, and I'm not sure how well they'll do, or if I'll even be able to find a place to hide them until harvest.
 
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matman4444

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If he is a really good friend and smokes you out often, why not toss him a couple grams so he can test it out. Plus if your grow goes well and you get a couple ounces, a few nugs really won't change anything.
I wouldn't give him over an 1/8th though, but a couple gram nugs or so would be nice.
 

{Kottonmouth.King}

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How much info did he actually contribute? Was it good info? I mean if he helped increase your yield you should just roll up a FAT FUCKIN BLUNT and smoke it with him. Or go and get a bong with a huge slide and pack it up and be like here you can smoke this. BTW I wouldnt tell anyone that you grow. Even if you know they wouldnt rat you out it is still a crazy thing to do because what if he accidentally mentioned it to someone and then they accidentally mention it to someone... you see where I'm goin.

Just smoke the first harvested stuff with him and both of you get WAY BAKED!!!
 

Golden Ray

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Yeah I agree I would Kick him a 1/8th and say thanks for the support. You put in all the risk hard work energy/cost ect. And just say hey bro I need to cure this weed so.....
 

msdsm39

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Smoke him up when he is at your place. You don't owe him anything. If he's a friend, he wont be an ass by asking for your smoke.
 

Johnnyorganic

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I have a pretty good friend of mine who helped me with advice and stuff on my grow. There's no way in heck he'd ever steal anything from me, or rat me out to the police. Every week or so he gets a kick out of coming over and checking out my grow, and seeing how it's going and stuff.

But now that it's like 2/3 of the way through flowering, he jokes around every so often "so... how much do i get? You know if you gave me some, I'd smoke you out when you came over" etc.

What should I say? In all honesty, I'd say he deserves about 1/8 ounce for moral support and smoking me out with his own weed. This is my first grow, and I honestly haven't smoked much weed. I've been stoned off my fucking ass about 5 times, properly high a total of maybe 10 times, buzzed another 15-20 times. That's it. He's been high like 100+ times, and smoked so much more than me. I've never really smoked by myself. Even when I had my own stuff (1/4 ounce), I smoked it with other people including him.

This grow is finally a chance for me to get a ton of my own shit, and have nice relaxing fun toking up on my own. But, I feel like it's being threatened by people wanting a share of the weed. An experienced pot smoker who doesn't grow, wanting the weed of an amateur pot smoker who took the initiative and the risk to grow.

Any advice?

In addition, I would like to note that yes, I have a backbone, and yes, I could tell him to fuck off if I really wanted, but no, I don't want to be a complete dick. What I really want to do is just have all my own shit, and just smoke him out whenever we hang out, etc.

The reasons for this: He's never actually given me weed to take home to smoke by myself; so why should I give him weed to smoke by himself? Especially when I am the inexperienced guy who has SO MUCH CATCHING UP TO DO! Amiright?

Also, I spent about $400 total on sunk costs such as two 150w HPS systems, a dozen or so CFLs, four lamp reflectors, some CFL y-splitters, an ELF carbon filter and 4 inch inline fan, and soil, pots, and hours and hours and hours of time.

None of my friends have really spent any money on the grow, so it's 100% my own. If that makes sense.

Advice from a noob pot smoker? :)


P.S. I'm expecting somewhere between 1 and 3 ounces harvest for the first grow (two plants). I have some insanely tall outdoor plants but they are just starting to show sex, and I'm not sure how well they'll do, or if I'll even be able to find a place to hide them until harvest.
Your 'buddy' is preparing you for the shakedown. This is why you never tell anyone.

If this clown thinks he's entitled to a share of your harvest, as he obviously does, make him name a weight and then make him justify it. Negotiate down from there.

After he gets the cut you both agree on, tell him the party is over. Specifically state that your payment makes you even, and he has no more claim to your grow. And be prepared to stop growing completely at the present location if he gives you any static.
 

csd7025

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personally i would way up how much it's cost and how many $'s worth you've got after the grow... if you have like an Oz left free (so to speak) then yeah share a bit with him.

If your smoking him out and hes smoking you out (sounds wrong but whatever) then all is fair surely?


Remember he's a pal so treat him like one?!?
 

Ravioli

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Why would you wanna smoke 1-3 ounces on your own? Isn't it much more entertaining to be social? I always have more fun seeing my friends cough until they puke. Considering it's your first grow and everything, have some fun, man. If you're not looking to make money, put half of it in mason jars and cure it for a month or whatever, and smoke the rest. That way you have half (or more, whatever you decide) of your crop to yourself, and have half to smoke with your buddy.
 

catnips

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I'd give him some bud, then work to back-peddle out of the situation. Get paranoid. "Yeah, man, have some of this bud because I can't keep on doing this it's making me too paranoid so enjoy it while you can"

Then when you start to grow again, if you do, remember that the safest way to grow is to not tell ANYONE what you're doing. Live and learn.
 

Johnnyorganic

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If you do not take charge of this situation immediately, you will forever be this guy's weed bank.

This dude has enormous leverage over you now and you BOTH know it. If you continue your relationship, do not ever discuss your grow with him again. Change the subject when he brings it up, or lie like a rug. 'I had to give it up. Too much risk.'

Never allow him anywhere near your grow, ever.

Another thing, if he's such an expert, where is his grow? Trading nugs between growers is quite common. Based on your description, your friend is a shithouse grower. A Weed Baron who knows all, but has never seriously grown.
 

nowstopwhining

Too many brownies
I have a pretty good friend of mine who helped me with advice and stuff on my grow. There's no way in heck he'd ever steal anything from me, or rat me out to the police. Every week or so he gets a kick out of coming over and checking out my grow, and seeing how it's going and stuff.

But now that it's like 2/3 of the way through flowering, he jokes around every so often "so... how much do i get? You know if you gave me some, I'd smoke you out when you came over" etc.

What should I say? In all honesty, I'd say he deserves about 1/8 ounce for moral support and smoking me out with his own weed. This is my first grow, and I honestly haven't smoked much weed. I've been stoned off my fucking ass about 5 times, properly high a total of maybe 10 times, buzzed another 15-20 times. That's it. He's been high like 100+ times, and smoked so much more than me. I've never really smoked by myself. Even when I had my own stuff (1/4 ounce), I smoked it with other people including him.

This grow is finally a chance for me to get a ton of my own shit, and have nice relaxing fun toking up on my own. But, I feel like it's being threatened by people wanting a share of the weed. An experienced pot smoker who doesn't grow, wanting the weed of an amateur pot smoker who took the initiative and the risk to grow.

Any advice?

In addition, I would like to note that yes, I have a backbone, and yes, I could tell him to fuck off if I really wanted, but no, I don't want to be a complete dick. What I really want to do is just have all my own shit, and just smoke him out whenever we hang out, etc.

The reasons for this: He's never actually given me weed to take home to smoke by myself; so why should I give him weed to smoke by himself? Especially when I am the inexperienced guy who has SO MUCH CATCHING UP TO DO! Amiright?

Also, I spent about $400 total on sunk costs such as two 150w HPS systems, a dozen or so CFLs, four lamp reflectors, some CFL y-splitters, an ELF carbon filter and 4 inch inline fan, and soil, pots, and hours and hours and hours of time.

None of my friends have really spent any money on the grow, so it's 100% my own. If that makes sense.

Advice from a noob pot smoker? :)


P.S. I'm expecting somewhere between 1 and 3 ounces harvest for the first grow (two plants). I have some insanely tall outdoor plants but they are just starting to show sex, and I'm not sure how well they'll do, or if I'll even be able to find a place to hide them until harvest.
If you really feel this way just tell him exactly what you just said here and im sure he will understand. Just tell him you will be the one smoking HIM out with YOUR weed not the other way around. The advice he gave you is what friends do for eachother, you dont owe him anything for that. I personally only hook up close family members with a couple free nugs here and there. My friends get smoked out whenever they around and im getting high though. :joint::peace::blsmoke:
 
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Rocky Top High

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You broke the cardinal rule!!!! DON'T TELL ANYONE!!!! This situation is exactly why you don't tell your nearest and dearest. I see these posts everyday on here and for some odd reason, some find it a must to tell someone. I just don't get it.

The earlier advice about distancing yourself from the grow, at least in your friends eyes, the better you will be. I can't stress enough how important it is to keep it quiet. Good luck.
 

jstreete01

Active Member
I couldnt agree more with these guys. If hes a friend hell take anything and be appreciative. After you harvest put 1/2 away, and do as you please with the rest. Dont give him more than a 1/8th. Dont smoke him out so often either (or he'll always expect it). Let him know how you feel. The truth hurts, but the truth solves problems the best possible way, regardless of anything (even if it doesnt seem so in the beginning of the situation). Other than that, you shouldnt tell anyone about your grow EVER. Weed equals Money. Everybody loves money. =)
 

Johnnyorganic

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Go polish your jackboots and iron your brown shit.

-rep coming your way.

Fucking anti-Semite.
 
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Twistyman

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A real friend doesn't start that wink, wink shit..but its a rock & hard place thing..pissed friends can do nasty shit, plus you may need the old 2 heads are better then 1 thing in the future..plus when all is said and done, that ton like may end up being once like.. Give him some..but slowly exclude bystanders....you don't want enemies so do it slowly.. Your risk, money, place, time.......your WEED..
 

Seamaiden

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Smoke him up when he is at your place. You don't owe him anything. If he's a friend, he wont be an ass by asking for your smoke.
Yep, that's where I'm feelin' it, too.

I've got a different situation. We've got a couple who we've become very good friends with. They share some of theirs, at first for nothing but I don't feel right, so I told my husband I want to pay them. Then, I decided it was so full of seeds and hey, why don't I give it a try? So, what's ended up happening is that we've worked out a deal (which will work just fine if I don't fucking kill the plants!), they hook me up, and yes, we're keeping track, and then when I harvest they get a share. They're thinking it's gonna be equal=equal straight across, but I'm gonna try to hook them up better than what they've done for me. It works for me because they're reliable and discreet. It works for them because they'll be able to stop making a 2-3 hour ride out to Fremont to hook up once I harvest. :)

Your situation is not the same, though.
 

Twistyman

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hey newbie....fuck off with the racial shit....you're lucky I'm not staff...you'd be gone for good..
 
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Seamaiden

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A second time for everything. Post reported! We don't want that here, so lock it up or find another place. :D
 
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