UncleBuck:
I wasn't working or making any contributions to the partnership. I was sitting on a forum 12-16 hrs a day amassing 10's of thousands of hateful posts where 9 of 10 involved me calling someone names. She worked and went to school trying to better her life and would come home every day to find me spewing hateful stuff on my forum. I say it's my forum because that was the attitude I had. I had no skills, no life experience but thought I was an expert in every subject, vehemently defending my stance by attacking personal those that disagreed. My obsession got so bad that I even stalked men across the internet trying to find personal info about them I could use to "win" an argument. I wasn't so much trying to convince anyone of my ridiculous uneducated position, i was just trying to cause harm. Her parents were supporting us because they loved their daughter, they even tried to get me to earn some money for my allowance by paying me to empty the kitty litter, but I didn't time for that, there were names to be called.
Finally, the wife decided she would try to help me be productive so she left her family and paid for us to move to another state. I continued with the same behavior of manic forum posting instead of helping to support our family. I convinced her that it wasn't me, it was where we moved to so we went back home. In a last ditch effort to save our marriage, she agreed to move yet again. Her parents were fed up at this point and declined to pay for yet another move so I was forced to go into my own money that I squirreled away by not helping with bills. When I tried to strong arm the wife for half the costs I knew she didn't have it and would have to go to her parents. Her parents had finally had enough and refused saying a man in his 30's should be grown up enough to take care of his own.
They finally convinced her to leave me and in hindsight I understand and don't blame her. Although at first I did. In fact, I have always blamed others for my shortcomings which is how I got there in the first place.