soo who here has a real social life?

[tyler.durden]

I am also a bit of a recluse. I could have five times the social life I have now, but I choose not to. I play tennis (indoors when it's cold) or racquetball once or twice a week with a buddy, and I'll have a couple of close friends over once or twice per week for chamber music. That is more than enough socializing for me, as I prefer to be alone to study and practice most of the time. I see some cool people on music gigs almost every weekend, as well. My grow room is a small room in my place that I used as my office before I retired from the corporate world. I looked around it once during a stressful, shitty work day and thought, 'Hey, I could grow weed in here'. So now I do just that. The door locks, of course, but I usually get a little anxious when I have people over. Absolutely no one knows that I grow, so before I have anyone over I have to look over the entire place attempting a different perspective: did I get EVERYTHING out of the ordinary and put it away? I always think that I do, but I've had a few people ask, 'what's this?' picking up my PH pen, or, 'why is this dixie cup dirty and have holes in the bottom?' Not to mention the occasional, oddly shaped dried fan leaf. I'm so used to seeing my own place, I simply can't catch everything 100% of the time. I regret that I've had to kill a few friends because of my negligence, I feel bad about that. J/K... It hasn't come to that yet...

 

[ODanksta]

I live a private life, I got a couple bootie calls. I have about, 5 ride or die friends. Everyone else is just acquaintances. My brother is my best friend. Other then him I am a little distant from my family. I trust girls more then guys. Its just me and my dog for the most part. But I love going to a dog friendly bar. And taking my pooch with me, my dog is a chic magnetc!

 

[thump easy]

Fuck no I stay away from people most want something for nothing or barrow money time n shit fuck that!!

 

[Hookabelly]

I am also a bit of a recluse. I could have five times the social life I have now, but I choose not to. I play tennis (indoors when it's cold) or racquetball once or twice a week with a buddy, and I'll have a couple of close friends over once or twice per week for chamber music. That is more than enough socializing for me, as I prefer to be alone to study and practice most of the time. I see some cool people on music gigs almost every weekend, as well. My grow room is a small room in my place that I used as my office before I retired from the corporate world. I looked around it once during a stressful, shitty work day and thought, 'Hey, I could grow weed in here'. So now I do just that. The door locks, of course, but I usually get a little anxious when I have people over. Absolutely no one knows that I grow, so before I have anyone over I have to look over the entire place attempting a different perspective: did I get EVERYTHING out of the ordinary and put it away? I always think that I do, but I've had a few people ask, 'what's this?' picking up my PH pen, or, 'why is this dixie cup dirty and have holes in the bottom?' Not to mention the occasional, oddly shaped dried fan leaf. I'm so used to seeing my own place, I simply can't catch everything 100% of the time. I regret that I've had to kill a few friends because of my negligence, I feel bad about that. J/K... It hasn't come to that yet...

Chamber music? Seriously?

 

[ChingOwn]

Fuck no I stay away from people most want something for nothing or barrow money time n shit fuck that!!

Can I borrow $5 bro

 

[oldtimer54]

Social life....... WTF is that ?
I'm to busy with the family !

 

[tyler.durden]

Chamber music? Seriously?

Sure. It is my absolute favorite thing in life. I'm a classical violinist and manage one the top classical ensembles in the city, so most of my friends are also very accomplished musicians. There's nothing like playing great works of music with others, feeds the soul, you know?

 

[WHATFG]

Playing any kind of music feeds the soul.

 

[abe supercro]

Chamber music? Seriously?

 

[Hookabelly]

Sure. It is my absolute favorite thing in life. I'm a classical violinist and manage one the top classical ensembles in the city, so most of my friends are also very accomplished musicians. There's nothing like playing great works of music with others, feeds the soul, you know?

Awesome! A violinist hmm? Very nice. Do you find that your music peers like to smoke also? Or are you in the minority?

Playing any kind of music feeds the soul.

So does dance… Totally relate to feeding the soul through music/dance.

 

[tyler.durden]

Awesome! A violinist hmm? Very nice. Do you find that your music peers like to smoke also? Or are you in the minority?

Almost everyone I know smokes weed. Most smoke only occasionally, but a few are daily smokers like me. We usually take a hit or two from my bong before starting rehearsal, and if in the evening, we usually have a glass of nice single malt or a fine bourbon. Music sounds even better with a slight MJ and bourbon buzz

So does dance… Totally relate to feeding the soul through music/dance.

Fo sho. That's the purpose of all fine arts; dance, music, literature, painting/drawing/sculpture, acting and film-making. Existence would be bleak and pointless without them imo...

 

[TheHermit]

I hang out with my cat quite a bit. Does that count?

 

[Hookabelly]

Almost everyone I know smokes weed. Most smoke only occasionally, but a few are daily smokers like me. We usually take a hit or two from my bong before starting rehearsal, and if in the evening, we usually have a glass of nice single malt or a fine bourbon. Music sounds even better with a slight MJ and bourbon buzz



...

Then why hide your grow? Or did you mean your non smoking friends?

 

[tyler.durden]

Then why hide your grow? Or did you mean your non smoking friends?

I hide my grow because MJ is illegal in my State, a 5 year minimum mandatory sentence if I'm caught. I like to trust people to a certain degree, but I don't trust ANYONE with my freedom. There's really no need since I have these forums in which I can share my illicit activities. I swear, if I didn't, I would go insane with loneliness and pent up pride...

 

[WHATFG]

I hide my grow because MJ is illegal in my State, a 5 year minimum mandatory sentence if I'm caught. I like to trust people to a certain degree, but I don't trust ANYONE with my freedom. There's really no need since I have these forums in which I can share my illicit activities. I swear, if I didn't, I would go insane with loneliness and pent up pride...

I totally get that...my family HATES the fact the I'm allowed to grow legally. My kids refuse to acknowledge that it embarasses them and my spouse tries to control what happens when, where and why. I get to come here whenever I want and be serious or a complete ass and it's ok! I can honestly say that if I'm in a shitty headspace, this place will snap me out of that in no time....fuckin' stoners! Lots of great people here.

 

[Hookabelly]

I hide my grow because MJ is illegal in my State, a 5 year minimum mandatory sentence if I'm caught. I like to trust people to a certain degree, but I don't trust ANYONE with my freedom. There's really no need since I have these forums in which I can share my illicit activities. I swear, if I didn't, I would go insane with loneliness and pent up pride...

I hear you there. You're smart to keep your private life private in that respect. This forum has surprised me in many ways, freedom of speech/opinion in all other areas besides MJ being one of them. I thought this was mainly a grow site when I first joined. Had been away from cannabis for years and wanted to find out what was new or dif. about it. I never thought it had all the layers it does.

I totally get that...my family HATES the fact the I'm allowed to grow legally. My kids refuse to acknowledge that it embarasses them and my spouse tries to control what happens when, where and why. I get to come here whenever I want and be serious or a complete ass and it's ok! I can honestly say that if I'm in a shitty headspace, this place will snap me out of that in no time....fuckin' stoners! Lots of great people here.

Agreed. I think in some respects you can be more real on RIU or any forum for that matter, b/c you have the veil of anonyminity (crap I can't spell that word) that you don't have with your flesh and blood friends. I'm who I am IRL pretty much.

The older I get the less I want to be around people. I've got lots of hobbies/projects and I live with my absolute best friend on the planet so I'm not as motivated to form new friendships. I know it is healthy, especially as your kids grow up, to have connections to other people, and I wrestle with that. I'm happy now so why force it?

OTOH, I know I shouldn't put all my eggs in one basket. It's healthy to engage with others. Hard though b/c ppl can be such dicks.

Is it just me or is the human race becoming increasingly cold and hateful to one another? I sound like my mother now ranting about how the world isn't what it used to be, but I swear, folks were nicer to their fellow man about a decade ago. I still marvel at how selfish the general public is. Little things like manners, dick maneuvers while driving, and inconsiderate behavior towards others in public.

 

[WHATFG]

No it's not you Hooka...people are more pricky these days. I make my kids hold doors open for old people or let them on the bus first, I figure just because others don't have manners no need for us to join them.

 

[tyler.durden]

I hear you there. You're smart to keep your private life private in that respect. This forum has surprised me in many ways, freedom of speech/opinion in all other areas besides MJ being one of them. I thought this was mainly a grow site when I first joined. Had been away from cannabis for years and wanted to find out what was new or dif. about it. I never thought it had all the layers it does.

That surprised me, too. This site was my very first time joining any forum; I had made the decision to grow weed and gradually quit the corporate world, so I started with RDWC. I thought that I was a genius because my first two grows went without a hitch, and it was pretty good even under CFLs. Then brown slime reared its ugly head, so while looking for a cure (since I learned no one at any grow shop had a fucking clue how to grow after spending hundreds on bullshit products) I found Heisenberg's Bennies Thread. Dude was SO intelligent and helpful, cured my shit right up. He invited me to the S&S&P since he saw my atheism and rationality would be useful to combat the manic irrationality going on there. I had been there almost exclusively for 4 years before coming over to T&T. You're right, many layers here and I am also pretty much the same IRL...

Agreed. I think in some respects you can be more real on RIU or any forum for that matter, b/c you have the veil of anonyminity (crap I can't spell that word) that you don't have with your flesh and blood friends. I'm who I am IRL pretty much.

The older I get the less I want to be around people. I've got lots of hobbies/projects and I live with my absolute best friend on the planet so I'm not as motivated to form new friendships. I know it is healthy, especially as your kids grow up, to have connections to other people, and I wrestle with that. I'm happy now so why force it?

That was the most difficult aspect of me being anti-social. I had my young son with me every weekend, and I knew not a single other family with children that he may play with. He'd meet and make friends at parks and the beach, but they were SIngle Serving friends, good for that day only. So, it was only me and him almost all the time and that could have been healthier for both of us. I did a pretty damn good job for a single dude, no parent has it all together...

OTOH, I know I shouldn't put all my eggs in one basket. It's healthy to engage with others. Hard though b/c ppl can be such dicks.

Is it just me or is the human race becoming increasingly cold and hateful to one another? I sound like my mother now ranting about how the world isn't what it used to be, but I swear, folks were nicer to their fellow man about a decade ago. I still marvel at how selfish the general public is. Little things like manners, dick maneuvers while driving, and inconsiderate behavior towards others in public.

I think this is simply in the larger cities and mostly in this country. The people I've encountered in smaller communities and other countries seem much more decent to others. I may more out of the US when my kid grows up, I just don't get this place anymore...

 

[TripleMindedGee5150]

My social life ain't what it used too be.

I love being social. Gotta be to keep it sane. But then socializing to me was drinking. I love drinking and I love Bars.

I used to run a bar for 2.5-3 yrs. All I lived was a social atmosphere.

I got a decent social life but not what it used tobe. Either everyone to busy or got their own families. And I try to not drink to much. I dont ....

I get home today and I see two new kids from the neighborhood. My son's friends. So I think "awww fuck this is my social life " LMAO

Friday- Sunday- I'm hella social or at least try to be family social at least. But turn down for what

Monday - Antisocial AsF

Tuesday -Thursday- Depends on the enviroment .

Today I'm a damn elf fixing toys n shit

 

[Hookabelly]

I think this is simply in the larger cities and mostly in this country. The people I've encountered in smaller communities and other countries seem much more decent to others. I may more out of the US when my kid grows up, I just don't get this place anymore...

Seattle is the worst IMO (I live here) and there's a phenomenon called the Seattle Freeze, meaning folks are the nicest ppl, but only let you in so far. Very very clannish and exclusive. They'll fix your flat tire and buy you coffee-just won't sit with you and have the coffee. If they do, that's the end of the exchange. I grew up here and I hear about this over and over from many people who are transplants. And with our culture as it's evolving today, well… it makes being reclusive more attractive by the day. I've often seriously considered moving to Belize.