Not starving or abandoned, the home care is plenty. If she can't see that you struggle to pay out of the goodness of your heart then she's selfish. Why are you responsible for her cigarettes? Your husband will not be okay with someone anyone taking advantage of the love of his life. You should keep helping her to a certain extent that's mom, but understand that you are not responsible for her. Once you give birth you'll realize where your responsibility lies.. You need to focus on things you can change. You can't change other people. Its cool that you're giving her, her own money.. But what happens when it runs out? this could cause problems between you and mr sunni just keep that in mind and tread lightly...
theres no problems with me and mr sunni
my mom is old with several mental health issues, fully diagnosed, she did everything for me as a single mother, now i return the favour the only thing that upsets me is that she wont work with me on money budgeting so that she can have her money last her the whole month with a possibility for a little saving for a rainy day
but everytime i speak to her about it, she flips out she wont listen to me.
thats all it is, i dont care about paying for her phone, i need that to stay in contact with her and she needs it to call 911 in the event of an emergency, and she also needs it to contact her caretaker for groceries, and doctors appointments etc,
im not struggling financially , she is because she cant budget which i understand is apart fully of her mental health issues, shes not fully aware of how to manage money because she doesnt understand it due to her limited ability of monetary skills
were not dealing with a cracked out mother who uses money i give her to enable her drug addictions, were talking about someone who has severe mental health disorders who needs to learn how to properly manage her money but is too embarrassed and stubborn to take advice from me
i dont care i give her 500$ a month extra, she birthed me, she worked several jobs as a single mother to try and give me the best life she could while dealing with depression and anxiety, she could have 4000$ a month if i could afford that much, fuck i would buy her a goddamn house ifi could...the money from CPP and disability is enough for a good breathe easy at the end of month life, but i want to make sure she has opportunities in order to go out if and when she does leave the house from her agoraphobia...so when she grocery shops if she passes by a cute shop with a nice top in it she can purchase it
the problem is she doesnt know how to manage the money, because she doesnt cognitively understand