Is it ok to be a pretend christian?

[matthew]

So I became an atheist about the time I got married. My wife knows how I feel and she knows I read a lot about religion (she is a devout "I am nothing without God" Christian.) So I have been thinking about becoming a "pretend christian", by that I mean tell her that I have "seen the light" and converting to her religion and getting into the church.

What say you mighty potheads?

 

[Dfunk]

You shouldn't pretend who you are in my opinion. You should instead discuss your feelings with her & realize it's O.K. to have different views. Love should overcome that difference just like any other.

 

[Microdizzey]

being atheist while your spouse is a firm believer... that is very very hard to work with. i suppose if you aren't offended that she loves God more than you, you can work it out. (no offense or anything, that's just the way it is for believers. God is before everybody)

if she's happy being a Christian, that is something you should think about.

 

[Lacy]

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So I became an atheist about the time I got married. My wife knows how I feel and she knows I read a lot about religion (she is a devout "I am nothing without God" Christian.) So I have been thinking about becoming a "pretend christian", by that I mean tell her that I have "seen the light" and converting to her religion and getting into the church.

What say you mighty potheads?

I say it is one of the most rediculous things I have ever read.
1st of all if you respect this woman you are seeing then don't redicule her by doing such a thing.
I don't personally believe in religion BUT others do and it is their RIGHT to do so without the interferance of us non-believers.
There are more wars created over the religion than anything and to start off a relationship with such a HUGE lie is just not right and is unfair for both her and you.

Don't ever pretend to be something you are not.
Many people spend their lives trying figure themselves out.

Its outrageous that you would even consider this idea.
Do you really think she will think more high;y of you?
Or even better question.....will you 'think' more highly of yourself?

If you are any kind of decent human being this SHOULD not sit right with your consciousness.

Many people have a very high regard for religion. Most of them have been raised this way and to take this and make a mockery of it, just isn't right on any level.

I don't believe in religion BUT I do believe in GOD big time. It is every person's individual right to believe what they want to, including you.

Don't disrepect yourself like this.
If you do then you are just living a lie.
How many other changes will you make just to please your lover?

It sounds like a relationship that could end up like this:


kiss-asskiss-asskiss-ass

and unless you are into this.......
think again more wisely

You shouldn't pretend who you are in my opinion. You should instead discuss your feelings with her & realize it's O.K. to have different views. AMEN!!! YES indeed. Love should overcome that difference just like any other.

well said!

 

[pamaris]

Don't do it. Your wife will figure out really quickly that you're full of crap.

If you simply want to go to church with her and share that aspect of life with her, just say so. Tell her you don't believe but you want to go with her. That it's such an important part of her life you want to share it. But be upfront; don't fake a conversion! She would be really devastated if you lied about this. There is a lot of baggage here. Don't play with her emotions.

No part of a marriage should be based on a lie.

 

[sarah22]

................................confused:I say it is one of the most rediculous things I have ever read.
1st of all if you respect this woman you are seeing then don't redicule her by doing such a thing.
I don't personally believe in religion BUT others do and it is their RIGHT to do so without the interferance of us non-believers.
There are more wars created over the religion than anything and to start off a relationship with such a HUGE lie is just not right and is unfair for both her and you.

Don't ever pretend to be something you are not.
Many people spend their lives trying figure themselves out.

Its outrageous that you would even consider this idea.
Do you really think she will think more high;y of you?
Or even better question.....will you 'think' more highly of yourself?

If you are any kind of decent human being this SHOULD not sit right with your consciousness.

Many people have a very high regard for religion. Most of them have been raised this way and to take this and make a mockery of it, just isn't right on any level.

I don't believe in religion BUT I do believe in GOD big time. It is every person's individual right to believe what they want to, including you.

Don't disrepect yourself like this.
If you do then you are just living a lie.
How many other changes will you make just to please your lover?

It sounds like a relationship that could end up like this:


kiss-asskiss-asskiss-ass

and unless you are into this.......
think again more wisely

well said!

LACY!! ur back! lol. and feisty as ever i see...lol. i can understand where he's coming from though...his wife kinda has a stick up her ass...(no offense matthew!). but hun...dont pretend to be a christian. its ok to believe different things. and it will definitely come back to bite you in the ass if you do pretend. if you are an atheist...then be a proud atheist. your wife should love you exactly the way you are...you shouldnt have to change for anyone.

 

[Lacy]

well yeahhhhhhh

LACY!! ur back! lol. and feisty as ever i see...lol. ...lol




i can understand where he's coming from though...his wife kinda has a stick up her ass...yeah but its HER ass

(no offense matthew!). but hun...dont pretend to be a christian. its ok to believe different things. and it will definitely come back to bite you in the ass if you do pretend. if you are an atheist...then be a proud atheist. your wife should love you exactly the way you are...you shouldnt have to change for anyone.

 

[havocdb]

Lying about that is retarded. My woman's old country italian catholic, and im basically agnostic. we communicate well, and we both maintain a certain amount of discourse with each other's beliefs, but i could never tell her "Hey Babe, I think I'm Catholic now!"

Actions like this actually represent a severe disrespect for the tenacity of a "believer's" conviction. It basically means that you don't comprehend how important it is, or that you don't take it seriously. Believe me, she takes that shit seriously.

If you're just looking for something to believe in, well, that's a different story. Jump on in. As far as I'm concerned, one's no better'n the others. My dad once told me that "religion and US politics are very much alike. They basically all mean the same shit, it just came from a different animal." He still gives me shit for voting...

 

[ElBarto]

why would you even want to do that?

 

[mane2008]

So I became an atheist about the time I got married. My wife knows how I feel and she knows I read a lot about religion (she is a devout "I am nothing without God" Christian.) So I have been thinking about becoming a "pretend christian", by that I mean tell her that I have "seen the light" and converting to her religion and getting into the church.

What say you mighty potheads?

Hell naw. Dont pretend to believe in something u dont. Your wife will understand.

 

[Twistyman]

Why not.. the Christian right do that every day.. they claim to have a higher moral compass than everyone else, yet they are the least forgiving and the least tolerant of all others that don't meet their supposed moral high ground... As in the bible Jesus was supposed to have understanding and compassion for all..gay, gamblers, prostitutes, lepers...etc.. but the religious right now has NO tolerance for anything.. one of us or not worthy of life sort of ideal... Look what religion has done for the world...... jihad..... crusades....Northern Ireland.....
Republican intolerance........ Want me to be religious.. ?? not on your life..
pretend away.......they do..

 

[pamaris]

Why not.. the Christian right do that every day.. they claim to have a higher moral compass than everyone else, yet they are the least forgiving and the least tolerant of all others that don't meet their supposed moral high ground... As in the bible Jesus was supposed to have understanding and compassion for all..gay, gamblers, prostitutes, lepers...etc.. but the religious right now has NO tolerance for anything.. one of us or not worthy of life sort of ideal... Look what religion has done for the world...... jihad..... crusades....Northern Ireland.....
Republican intolerance........ Want me to be religious.. ?? not on your life..
pretend away.......they do..

Hi... ummmm seems obvious to be but the "Christian right" does not have anything to do with being a Christian. The OP's wife may actually be a sincere believer in Jesus who is forgiving and tolerant. They do exist.

Yeah and the Northern Ireland conflict had nothing to do with Christianity either- just tribalism which doesn't exist in God's kingdom.

Edited to add that of course you are right- plenty of "believers" do fake it anyway.

 

[Stoney McFried]

Matthew......don't pretend.You can't hide from yourself.The more you post,the less compatible your wife and yourself seem.Friendly advice:Being alone isn't that bad.You really can get to know yourself.Spread your damn wings and fly.JUST LET GO.

So I became an atheist about the time I got married. My wife knows how I feel and she knows I read a lot about religion (she is a devout "I am nothing without God" Christian.) So I have been thinking about becoming a "pretend christian", by that I mean tell her that I have "seen the light" and converting to her religion and getting into the church.

What say you mighty potheads?

 

[tipsgnob]

I used to pretend to be a christian so I could get some good mexican food.......

 

[natrone23]

don't pretend you are right in the first place

 

[MaryJaneDoe]

So I became an atheist about the time I got married. My wife knows how I feel and she knows I read a lot about religion (she is a devout "I am nothing without God" Christian.) So I have been thinking about becoming a "pretend christian", by that I mean tell her that I have "seen the light" and converting to her religion and getting into the church.

What say you mighty potheads?

I would just leave it alone. Pretending to be Christian and going to church is just a plain waste of your time. Do you realize how long you have to sit there and listen to crap you don't believe in? I say this because my " Family" is a holier than thou group of Christians and I think they will sniff you out. You'll be trapped into church functions all the time until they " Break" you and you'll cry and say yes, yes, your right I lied!!! Do you think it's worth stirring all that up? Just stay home do your thing while she goes to church. She married you knowing all about it right?

 

[tipsgnob]

I would just leave it alone. Pretending to be Christian and going to church is just a plain waste of your time. Do you realize how long you have to sit there and listen to crap you don't believe in? I say this because my " Family" is a holier than thou group of Christians and I think they will sniff you out. You'll be trapped into church functions all the time until they " Break" you and you'll cry and say yes, yes, your right I lied!!! Do you think it's worth stirring all that up? Just stay home do your thing while she goes to church. She married you knowing all about it right?

what if you get free mexican food??

 

[MaryJaneDoe]

I say by all means eat it!

 

[tipsgnob]

that's what I'm talking about...........

 

[Barrelhse]

Why pretend? It only encourages them. Be a proud, thinking, atheistic person.