Well, well, this has turned into a fascinating conversation, (coming from a beginner's status). I have read all the posts at least twice and greatly appreciate ALL of the feedback.
So I am still experimenting with some slightly different methods, thanks to all of you. My personal theory is I have been drowning the poor little guys. Whether I leave it in a cup of too long or have the paper towel too wet.
Let it be said that I am using tap water and always at room temp, I fill my cup and let stand for 4-6 hours before I use it.
I have heard in the past that a seed can stay in a cup of water for up to 72 hours, I have done that and you can guess the result...death. But in that time, the seed did swell but did not open (that I could see anyway). I do think that is way too long to be in water, but I just had to know if it would make a difference. None the less, I have only seen 1 that actually popped thus far. When I do take them out they get set on a sopping wet PT, witch I now know is wrong, and now only keep it moist, but not dripping wet. Thus supporting my theory I am drowning them, my bad.
I also am experimenting with the straight soil method as well, I have started 2 this way, the first was just dropped into moist soil 1/2 inch deep and 1 ounce of water dribbled on top (after gently covering with soil) and the other 1 out of 3 got doped into water, but I only put the 1 that sank right away into the prepped soil. Planted same as first.
I have to do the hardest thing of all now and wait, but I have a new question for those who have a good success rate with the soak in water method, when you drop the seed in, should it sink right away, or float for a little while? I hope that question isn't like the chicken and the egg debate, but I get so few that will sink to the bottom right away, they do sink but takes up to 8 hours sometimes. Does that say anything for my predicament?