Communist Dreamer
Well-Known Member
I've already tried to reason with him. He won't listen, and therefore brings it upon himself. If he ever decides to knock it off, I will too. I'm not controlled by anyone. He's a clown. Sometimes I like being a clown, but it requires the right circumstances.allowing the actions of others to dictate your actions means they control you....
Upaya can be unconventional; something not normally associated with Buddhist doctrine or practice. The most important points are that the action is applied with wisdom and compassion and that it is appropriate in its time and place. The same act that "works" in one situation may be all wrong in another. However, when used consciously by a skilled bodhisattva, upaya can help the stuck become unstuck and the perplexed to gain insight.
I'm unable to change him, so it works to make me feel better.