Yeah it's a misconception to assume smaller countries means less commute or smaller range requirements. Averages don't differ much but in countries like NL it's actually more. It's not uncommon to work in a different city (often in the west or south) or drive to the "other side of the country" or drive to south France or Denmark. In addition to the distance, it's busy traffic most of the road. Almost 1 out of 5 cars here is a leased company car, another 5th are company cars bought and paid for. Employers hand them out like they're mobile phones (adds 20% of value to yearly income for tax so it's not actually free). Since they are replaced every 2-3 year, they also form a big chunk of the used car market. Those who don't get a company car almost always still get a compensation per km. Basically we drive so much we get paid for it, or at least compensated, either by an actual car, or additional salary. So when you need to drive 100-200miles a day for work, you do want a fast charging outlet at home. 1 x 16 A (3,6 kW) and 3 x 16 A (11 kW) are common, but some have 16-22kW. The main reason people want to have decent charging option at home is because it's (with exception for a few weeks last year) a cheaper option and they can use their solar power. Whether it takes hours or all night isn't a major consideration.
That said, while range and daily use is still an issue, a small densely populated country does mean high concentration of charging options. . Like every major parking spot, whether it's at a mall, supermarket, or in a multistore parking garage or office complex. That's in addition to many more spread out parking spots where the meter is also the charger (I.e. you pay for parking and charging). Specifically, we got 107K public charging 'poles' and 3200 fast chargers (like gas stations along highway). Does not include the ones at restaurants and employers and others on private ground. There are only a little over 300K EVs in NL. 40-50 public parking+charging spots in a mile radius around my place, so yeah, I can't relate to charge phobia.
Last time I heard complaints about range was 4-5 years ago, taxi drivers were not happy with the actual range (of iirc a prius) being so much less than the advertised range (without airco on, in good weather conditions, radio off, etc).