Question

[GanJulia]

Gah its been forever since I've said anything on here. Months, actually. I've been busy with life, as im sure it happens to all of us. I just have a random question that I thought i'd put onto you stoners for a few minutes of entertainment.

So basically I was diagnosed with Anxiety Disorder, apparently I don't fit into any specific anxiety disorder but all together my symptoms create an Anxiety Disorder. So my symptoms are that I always fear impending doom on my loved ones. I'm always afraid something terrible is going to happen to them. There are others, but this is what matters.

When my boyfriend or other friends or parents/siblings go somewhere (driving/traveling) I always need to make sure they're safe after wards. My boyfriend lives 30 minutes from me and I'm always worried when he's driving here or back that something is going to happen. This being said, I'm VERY good at answering my phone/a text. However, I am trying to subdue some of this crazy anxiety. ATM, I have no herb which is usually my go-to medicine when I get really anxious or have panic attacks. So basically I havent heard from my boyfriend at all today. Left his house around 10amish and thats about it. I've called him once at like 7pm and texted him earlier today. It really bothers me that he can't just text me back and let me know he's okay.

So, the question. I know that my anxiety is crazy, I know that how much I worry is excessive and unnecessary. However, that's just me. I've always been this way. Herb has become my miracle drug. Is it really too much for me to be upset about this? I'm worried (ironic) that my worrying is just too much for people to handle.. I dont want to be that obnoxious person that needs to know whats going on in his life all the time because thats not true, I just really want to know that he's okay. Even if he just texted back 'haha' or ANYTHING to let me know he's safe, im fine. But nothing.. all day nothing. And to be honest, its not like him to go this long without atleast letting me know he's okay. So yeah, im a little worried right now. I wanted to ask all of your opinions. I think that I have the right to know if he's okay or not, especially since he knows about my anxiety. But, I also think that I can be a little excessive at times, and need to trust him more that he's an adult human being who can take care of himself. I trust him as a boyfriend and im not worried about that, im worried that he's hurt or dead somewhere and I cant find out.

Should I leave him alone the rest of the night? Take this an opportunity to control my anxiety and not worry about him. Let him answer when he wants to. ORR...should i bug the fuck out of him until he answers me? Call his friends? because I WILL! oh, I will. <--- but the calling friends thing can be embarrassing especially when I find out he's fine and his friends are like 'wow your gf is a tad crazy'. gahhhhhhhhhhhhh

HE SHOULD JUST ANSWER ME DAMMIT!

/rant

love you all, I miss stonedpony

 

[Dizzle Frost]

texting or calling off the hook will usually get most dudes pissed off, and thier buddies will make sure lol

good to see ya back around

 

[cannabineer]

I recommend option A. It does make you stronger, even if it feels awful while it's happening. cn

 

[neosapien]

Its a sticky situation. My wife is the same way. She used to constantly worry about me whenever we were apart and still does occasionally. At first I didn't believe her and thought she was a psycho. She would call repeatedly if I didn't answer. It was very embarrassing. Then I pretty much told her if she truly does care about me she needs to change her thinking or she's going to drive me away. She lets me be for the most part now. But there's a thin line between the interpretation of genuine concern and jealousy. So I would say stop calling. Or you might drive him away. Just my $0.02. Nice to see you again by the way!

 

[medicalmaryjane]

really sucks to worry so much. i was an ocd worrier a few months ago and i got an antidepressant and it knocked out about half of my neurosis. perhaps a higher dose would knock out the rest. i am actually a bit manic and enjoying it because i am usually anxious and down and worried. i feel a lot better. i think you should see if there is something out there that you can take once a day that would help keep you feeling less neurotic and ocd worried. i usually am not big on medication but since this has worked for me, i feel like others may benefit from it too. worrying is unhealthy and can cause physical symptoms if you allow it to persist.

i definitely would not continue to call him. if he is so unappreciative of you that he can'te ven answer your call, he may be an asshole. i hate when my bf doesn't answer. he gets really mad when i don't answer. it's stupid to play that game with a person you've lived with for 10 years but sometimes you have to teach them a lesson

 

[GanJulia]

Thanks guys, I agree. I need to better myself and our relationship by not bothering him. I havent called him or texted him since. 2 texts, 1 call. Thats all i've done today. I feel like thats enough, too. It is VERY unlike him to not answer me like this all day. So, I worry that he's hurt OR that he's ignoring me. If its the latter, he can go fuck himself cause I won't do it for him anymore. However, if its the first one. Like he's dead, or he's severely injured... I don't know if I can handle that.

 

[Phillip J Fry]

Thanks guys, I agree. I need to better myself and our relationship by not bothering him. I havent called him or texted him since. 2 texts, 1 call. Thats all i've done today. I feel like thats enough, too. It is VERY unlike him to not answer me like this all day. So, I worry that he's hurt OR that he's ignoring me. If its the latter, he can go fuck himself cause I won't do it for him anymore. However, if its the first one. Like he's dead, or he's severely injured... I don't know if I can handle that.

Bugging him will not prevent injuries or death. These are the things that happen in life to everybody. Dealing with them can be hard but what don't kill you only makes you stronger.
"Don't fear the reaper" -Blue Oyster Cult