Urca love is emotion you can deeply love someone you never see. You honestly just don't know love yet this is your first taste buts its not real love due to the fact the feelings are onesidednot being in love doesnt mean you dont care deeply for them.
i mean, sometimes i think "wow, maybe i love this guy"
but you cant love someone who you arent dating or seeing alot.
I wasn't saying you loved him or not. I don't care...not being in love doesnt mean you dont care deeply for them.
i mean, sometimes i think "wow, maybe i love this guy"
but you cant love someone who you arent dating or seeing alot.
Are you reading these also?????? ???i know, thats why i make sure i dont say i love him and tell myself that i dont. he already told me he doesnt love me, so why would i love him?
Don't learn like this.lol ive never even had a boyfriend, i have no clue what love is
Exactly and you should move on, he expressed his feelings and now you should move on so you don't get hurt, because you don't love him now but you do care and sound like you want more than fwb were he doesn't and won't want anymore and your feelings towards him will just continue to grow causing you pain in. The end so why not just go ahead and fold your cards and get steppin so you don't hurt yourselfi know, thats why i make sure i dont say i love him and tell myself that i dont. he already told me he doesnt love me, so why would i love him?
Haha ....welcome to the club!You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to Finshaggy again.
Love is.........Growing!!!lol ive never even had a boyfriend, i have no clue what love is
I like that there's a club for thatHaha ....welcome to the club!
lol ive never even had a boyfriend, i have no clue what love is
This might help:why so mean? im sitting in tears over here
Ive been on several dates with this guy who seems to show more interest and put in more effort when I start caring less. The reason I started caring less is because he was not being that considerate about our plans (i.e. canceling). When I care less, he tries harder and puts in more effort which causes me to end up liking him more again.
Maybe my situation is unusual, but in general , after several dates, is it okay for a girl ask a guy to hang out sometimes? Or, should she keep letting the guy initiate plans until they are actually in a relationship?
I thought it would be okay for me to initiate plans, but with this guy, but it seems like he cares more when I care less so another question is: Is that normal or is this guy a screwball?
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This is a good question. The situation that youre describing actually illustrates something that Ive talked about before.
In previous posts, Ive talked about how when a guy is being flaky, doesnt text back, or isnt doing something you want him to do, the worst response is to become needy.
In your case, you werent needy you didnt make a big deal about it and you backed off when he wasnt putting in the effort that you expect. As a result, he started putting in more of an effort because you gave him space to do so.
I have to tell you, my e-mail box is FILLED with e-mails about how some guy didnt text back or didnt call or didnt set his Facebook status to say In a relationship, etc. The majority of these issues could be resolved by just doing what you did backing off, giving the guy some space and letting him come to you and put in the effort.
Too often I see girls smothering or nagging a guy when he doesnt do what they want him to. That always results in the guy becoming more withdrawn. After all, why would he want to commit himself more to a girl whos nagging him already, right at the beginning of a relationship!
So to answer your question, I dont think this guy is a screwball at all. Like most guys, hes probably just figuring his situation out and simultaneously figuring out if a relationship with you is really what hes looking for. I think hes a normal guy and I think you are handling the situation well.
Sooner or later he will figure it out and, as long as youre patient, theres a good chance he could get into a stable relationship with you. On the other hand, it can take some guys longer than others to figure out what they want, so you need to have a good sense of how patient you want to be.
If you hit a breaking point, theres nothing wrong with putting your thoughts out there and letting him know where youre coming from. If you reach that point, just make sure you are clear on what you really want yourself, say what you need to say and be done with the conversation. Dont drag it out into a conversation that you keep revisiting.
In regards to this guy, you asked if its OK for you to initiate plans. In general, theres nothing wrong with you initiating plans with a guy. However, you mentioned that he shows more of an effort when you care less, so I would say that if thats what works, why not hang back and let him put in the effort.
When it comes to people, it doesnt matter what you think people should respond to it only matters what they actually do respond to. If you like this guy, go with what seems to be working best with him give him space and let him put the effort in. Less work for you, too.
Hope that helps.
- eric charles
You sound experienced. Does your offer of fellatio ever patch up a broken relationship?sooo......... urca.............ten pages later.... u blowed some guy now he doesnt want anything to do with u?.......seems kinda strange have u offered to blow him again?.......
You sound experienced. Does your offer of fellatio ever patch up a broken relationship?