I Want To Be Happy.

[Hepheastus420]

First off, I would like to say I'm not bitching lol.

I remember when I was younger, I never had a sad moment. Life was just full of joy and no worries. Now, society and the world in general has turned me into someone I hate. Fuck, I really just want to be happy. I don't know how to go back to normal, It's like the flame of my life has turned off. And now that I'm in the dark, I have to blindly find the match box while constantly smacking myself agianst shelves and doors. I'm sorry for using a metaphor, I ussually don't beat around the bush, It's just I don't know how to explain it any better than using a metaphor.



Again, I'm not complaining. I just have nobody to talk to about this...I mean I do, but I don't want to make them depressed to.


So anyways, one question. What do you do to light the of your life? What is your match box? Jeez, I hope you guys get my metaphor.

 

[ghantron]

Back packing man. society has alot of burdens and pressures that weigh on all of us (the disenfranchised and poor the most). A good week + long back packing trip is always a good way to get back to oneself. dont fall into the work-spend-shop cycle.

 

[bblzs]

First off, I would like to say I'm not bitching lol.

I remember when I was younger, I never had a sad moment. Life was just full of joy and no worries. Now, society and the world in general has turned me into someone I hate. Fuck, I really just want to be happy. I don't know how to go back to normal, It's like the flame of my life has turned off. And now that I'm in the dark, I have to blindly find the match box while constantly smacking myself agianst shelves and doors. I'm sorry for using a metaphor, I ussually don't beat around the bush, It's just I don't know how to explain it any better than using a metaphor.



Again, I'm not complaining. I just have nobody to talk to about this...I mean I do, but I don't want to make them depressed to.


So anyways, one question. What do you do to light the of your life? What is your match box? Jeez, I hope you guys get my metaphor.

First, get rid of all negative things in your life. That's what I had to do. Do a little soul searching, you'll figure out who you are and where you stand.
No worries friend.
The world is full of hate and negativity... it's sad. You can't let that bring you down.

Remember life is 10% of what happens to you and 90% of how you handle it.

 

[TruenoAE86coupe]

I would love to go for a hike, wife isn't really up for it, and with a 2 and 4 year old, well just doesn't seem relaxing.
Anyways i feel ya big time here, you can only have bill collectors call every (fucking) day for so long before it really gets on you.......
At this point my garden is my happy place, not a lot but its all i need for now.

 

[sso]

i was a miserable bastard for years till i met my wife, still am sometimes but much less.

someone that loves ya and loves ya true.

meeting her also helped me see that i allready had plenty of people in my life that allready loved me, though not to the same degree as my wife (half a day without eachother is too much)

 

[sso]

First, get rid of all negative things in your life. That's what I had to do. Do a little soul searching, you'll figure out who you are and where you stand.
No worries friend.
The world is full of hate and negativity... it's sad. You can't let that bring you down.

Remember life is 10% of what happens to you and 90% of how you handle it.

well, this is also alot of what i did as well.

just didnt feel i had any real reason to continue doing so till i met my wife.

 

[Hepheastus420]

Thanks alot guys, . This is very uplifting. I feel like I just need to breathe, everything is just negative though. But I'm glad to hear I'm not alone and that you guys have conquered this depression. Again, thanks soooo much. I gotta blast some bob marley and go on a bike ride....just drop everything negative, . Sorry for a wasted thread, I was just on the edge and had nobody to let loose on.

 

[TruenoAE86coupe]

I wanna ride, I wanna ride, I wanna ride
That damn honda commercial is killing me, fuckin below 0 snow everywhere and every other commercial i here "I wanna ride...." dammit! I used to have the balls to pull that bastard out and ride it around right now, now im too old

 

[eye exaggerate]

Thanks alot guys, . This is very uplifting. I feel like I just need to breathe, everything is just negative though. But I'm glad to hear I'm not alone and that you guys have conquered this depression. Again, thanks soooo much. I gotta blast some bob marley and go on a bike ride....just drop everything negative, . Sorry for a wasted thread, I was just on the edge and had nobody to let loose on.

...confront it. Don't avoid it. The only way to get a handle on something is to dig. Pain calls us to look at it, it wants to be seen. You give it a body, so to speak, so it can be worked out. Otherwise, it remains one of those nuances that doesn't go away. I hope you get my metaphor too, Heph.

 

[Monkeymonk840]

Dude feel the same way. There is no going back only forwards. In 07 I was about to retire, met a beautiful woman I thought loved me had a million friends and in an instant it was all gone and I was in a 6 x 8 cell for 23 hours a day. Got out and nothing has been near the same, been getting kicked around a lot and only seem to meet skanks. I feel like I don't know what I'm going to do or where I'm going to go. I miss the comforting inside. So I've cut out fuckheads, worked more and harder and keep myself moving forwards. Quit smoking cigs, am a halfass vegan, read, etc. Also have been expanding ops, breeding seeds, and am doin a seed review to sell on amazon. Oh quit hard drug use as well. I feel better for sure but am still continuing to search myself. It's a slow process just remain hopeful or if u can't pretend. "hang on to your hope my friend, that's an easy thing to say but if your hopes should pass away simply pretend that u can do well again" Simon and gar. If u ever want to chat hit me up homie I'm open

 

[a mongo frog]

start by smoking some sour diesel. should ignite the flame a little. then go on the bike ride. that sound like a great idea. sour diesel and a bike ride.
those 2 things are a great start. exersising (bike ride) should make the mind feel real good.

 

[thump easy]

start by smoking some sour diesel. should ignite the flame a little. then go on the bike ride. that sound like a great idea. sour diesel and a bike ride.
those 2 things are a great start. exersising (bike ride) should make the mind feel real good.

im growing ogeisle i nevor drove a bike do u think i can still get away with it?

 

[a mongo frog]

im growing ogeisle i nevor drove a bike do u think i can still get away with it?

well u skate, dont u? then yes thats good exersise.

 

[thump easy]

well u skate, dont u? then yes thats good exersise.

well okay i thought id be a smart ass it back fired damit lolz

 

[sso]

one step at a time, babysteps if you need to, sometimes you will take leaps and bounds as well.

just focus on the good in your life.

shit that makes you worry, i deal with it like this

"ok i gotta do this and at this time" and then just push it out of my mind till it comes time.

watch cartoons, disney or something.

watch comedies.

go to pretty places. somewhere uplifting.

go do something you like doing but havent done ina long time.


avoid thinking excessively about crap you cant do shit about.


live and let live, let go of crap in the past (its all crap)

dont judge yourself (accept you make mistakes and cheer yourself up with the thought that you do learn from them)

dont worry what other people think about you

you are the only person you are guaranteed to be living with for the rest of your life.

so be nice to yourself and worry most what you think about yourself.

you should think you are awesome, though, if most people think you are an asshole, you probably are

but if most people like you or think you are allright, then you probably are awesome.

..

even though, you are the single thing in your life that will always be there (even on the toilet )

life is pretty boring and pointless without other people, so be nice to the one´s you love and avoid the one´s you dont.

sometimes assholes gotta be dealt with and sometimes harshly, but they are best avoided and kept strictly out of one´s life.

life is simply too short for that shit.

if people have been assholes for years and they look like they are gonna keep it up for decades more, just cut them out of your life and let them know why (if you hope to have them again)

so in case they wise up, they can come visit. (good friends and loved one´s can be hard to come by and keep)

but in general

its like that song "always look on the bright side of life.."

the shadows have to be dealt with, but they should not be dwelt upon (dont stay in the shadows, illuminate them with your light (your mind and heart))

gotta step into the light to be in the light (lol, gotta work on the happy to get happy)

make a joke

watch a funny movie

talk to nice people, funny if available

have a party or go to one. (or have a gamersfest or something)

or if you arent social, just do the things you love!

its that simple.

do what you love.

 

[NUTBUSH47]

Everyone is soo caught up in the rat race that the journey is overlooked. It's the small things that make up that journey.. it's the walks,pets , friends family, smiles sunshine. Enjoy the small shit along the way because time moves fast.. We are all just dust specks moving through time. When I was 13, I was bowhunting and came across these odd stinky bushes that had long hairy worm like shit growing out of the buds. Really kinda scared me. Never seen anything like it. And there were hundreds of em. I never hunted that farm again. I don't think I have to tell you what they turned out being. But you see!!! I didn't stop to smell the flowers ...

 

[Monkeymonk840]

If I love heroin should I still do it? Lol I rock the beatles for positive music or bob works too. Have u done a lot of Sid? Or heroin or meth? They have depressing effects that linger. See how many peeps are here to help just don't ask for weed or they'll call u the law. Lol. I'd advise against smoking more weed but dude is on sour d has a great uplifting effect. Try sobriety.

 

[sso]

Everyone is soo caught up in the rat race that the journey is overlooked. It's the small things that make up that journey.. it's the walks,pets , friends family, smiles sunshine. Enjoy the small shit along the way because time moves fast.. We are all just dust specks moving through time. When I was 13, I was bowhunting and came across these odd stinky bushes that had long hairy worm like shit growing out of the buds. Really kinda scared me. Never seen anything like it. And there were hundreds of em. I never hunted that farm again. I don't think I have to tell you what they turned out being. But you see!!! I didn't stop to smell the flowers ...

yes, very old sage advise.

its the small things, the simple things.

Seemingly simple.


like, if you save up money to buy a really nice bed (sensible since we spend 1/3rd of our lives there)

its gonna perk up your life quite a bit, but if you were always alone in that bed it would suck.

same goes for the huge house.

might see this happy guy there, seemingly alone, but if you´d look closer, he has either got pets or is insane

simple things though perhaps not simple to learn.

you get what you give.

but you cant give pearls to swine, you gotta learn to recognize love and you begin by giving it (perhaps start small with pets lol)

you gotta learn to recognize love because some might love that you love them and take advantage of that, but not actually love you.

its easy to see though, they take and are perhaps nice about it, but dont give back.

 

[thump easy]

Everyone is soo caught up in the rat race that the journey is overlooked. It's the small things that make up that journey.. it's the walks,pets , friends family, smiles sunshine. Enjoy the small shit along the way because time moves fast.. We are all just dust specks moving through time. When I was 13, I was bowhunting and came across these odd stinky bushes that had long hairy worm like shit growing out of the buds. Really kinda scared me. Never seen anything like it. And there were hundreds of em. I never hunted that farm again. I don't think I have to tell you what they turned out being. But you see!!! I didn't stop to smell the flowers ...

shit your should have stoped n cut some flowers for me

 

[medicalmaryjane]

i hate to see you so down love. i wish i were closer so i could give you a hug. be insomniacs together... you will find love but first, find what you love. i feel lonely sometimes, i think about how light life was when i was young but we are adults & being an adult is a big responsibility LOL. i hate it. luckily, i still don't take things too seriously. i have dogs that keep me motivated. i work on losing a few pounds, doing things outside, playing with my dogs, working on projects that keep my mind going, drinking wine, going to happy hour, smoking the pot i grow, growing, cooking, fermenting things and so on. know what? a lot of those things are recent hobbies. you can get into somethin new whenever you want. keep dreaming!