ginwilly, the problem is some states, most recently, NC, has language that bans the legal equivalent which means those states need not recognize the validity of contracts purporting to establish a spousal relationship. For example, a married person is automatically deemed to be next of kin. It takes some pretty special circumstances to challenge a will in which all assets are left to a surviving spouse. Gay surviving spouses find themselves in probate court all the time because some bigoted family member who probably cut the deceased off decided to challenge the validity of the will.
Plus, I am not for making people jump through extra hoops simply because of who they fall in love with or whether or not they are attracted to men or women.
I am for getting the govt. out of it, but the reality is that they are in it. Under the current reality, there should be equal protection under the law.