at some point "taking" is needful.
if you only pay for roads YOU use, then the roads in urban centers will be flawless, but the roads in rural communities (where your food comes from) will be in disrepair.
rich communities will have lots and lots of well mannered cops with their minds on justice and justice on their minds, while poor communities will be lawless free fire zones.
rich kid's schools will be awesome, poor kid's schools will be dumps, worse than they are now (even without the graft and corruption that siphons off the federal cash for poor schools)
rich people will have well funded fire brigades, while poor folk's homes will burn.
society REQUIRES a little bit of sacrifice from those with much, to benefit those with far less, but it must be carefully controlled to ensure that those with much dont simply become an ATM machine for the populist demagogues and re-distributionists.
I see you've fired up your rationalization machine. It seems to go in a circle, perhaps that is why you are so dizzy. You claim to be for freedom and the first thing you do is endorse as part of this system, something that is anti-freedom.
All of the things that you want are possible thru voluntary interaction. Separating the "goods and services" from "bads and disservices" is an easy thing to do, but it CAN'T happen if you endorse and feed the present one, which is COERCION driven. It will only change when it is abandoned, not when it is only allowed to exist "a little bit". Coercion is like fungus, don't let a little bit hang around or it will inevitably grow. I submit as evidence, the world today.
Do you really think it is impossible to have goods and products UNLESS there is a coercive system ?
Before you can say 'Uncle Buck", I am not advocating free loaderism, I am advocating a free market, wherein if you want something, you pay for it, if you don't want something, you simply don't buy it and you aren't forced to pay for it. Pretty simple eh? Responsibility is an integral part of any just system, coercion, even "a little bit" is not.