tipsgnob
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your reputation is beyond repute...Ok, well if it's acting moral to expect honesty from others, then yep, I is
I give honesty, I expect it in return. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you and all that jazz
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Stoney McFried
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K, I'm gonna interject here.Lying to someone about fucking other people IS wrong.Because you aren't giving them a choice.It shows you really DON'T care about them.If you want to fuck someone else,then that's on you.But if you have a partner, they have a right to decide whether they want to be with your ass or not.I've never cheated.But I've been cheated on.It's no fun, finding out some of the nasty cunts your boyfriend has fucked, then going and getting tested for the next few months because you're scared every time your box itches.And don't say condoms protect you, because they simply don't, not 100 percent. Google HPV.Google herpies.Another thing I hate is someone bragging about fucking someone else's b/f or g/f.I think,if you think its such a great thing to bag someone else's mate,you got whats coming to you.And what's coming to you is an ass whooping.
jamiemichelle
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Mmk well I was speaking as being moral as a whole...like having a good moral character. You arent an angel and neither is 99 percent of the rest of the world. People lie for a lot of reasons; not saying its right, but it happens and Im not gonna go outta my way to pass judgement on people who do... nor will I sit here and just not respond to someone telling another they dont care about their family because of a sexual decision they made. Last time I checked, children have nothing to do with who their parents fuck and hopefully they know their parents loved and cared for them appropriately so maybe they wont be trippen about it as adults. Divorce sucks. It happens for hella reasons not just cheating.Ok, well if it's acting moral to expect honesty from others, then yep, I is
I give honesty, I expect it in return. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you and all that jazz
Children get over it. Adults get over it. People make bad decisions. And people lie. Sucks but shit its reality.
jamiemichelle
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and as someone posted some where else in here... if you suspect your spouse is cheating then your relationship already has issues. Just sayin.
Oh and btw unless your bf or gf was a virgin your "cunt" can itch anytime you dont have protected sex. This shit is funny as hell.
gogrow
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to add to this point... i know from personal experience (with my parents) that the gyno cannot by law tell the husband that the woman has an std... so if she chooses not to tell her spouse about it, then he has no way of knowing what kind of coffin he is putting his pecker in... (not being sexist saying only women cheat, was just easier to use her/she as it pertains to my story).... and this type of dishonesty is fucked up...
Stoney McFried
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That's true.But I didn't suspect.But I did have a right to be informed that he liked a lot of different pussy, and couldn't be faithful.I make this clear at the beginning of a relationship.Lay it out, then we both decide if we want the situation.But he lied.Which makes it worse.
jamiemichelle
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Yeah you def wanna be sure your partner and yourself are tested for stds...but what my partner has done in their sexual past is none of my business and frankly I dont wanna know.
Listen, Im not saying cheating is great, Im not trying to be a cheerleader for it or anything. Im just saying who has the right to judge a person/people for what they do. If someone makes a decision as an adult, then yay for them - they deal with the consequences.
Wikidbchofthewst
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When you are a parent your choices are different, aren't they? I'm not a parent, but I know that my mother changed a lot of her life when she had me and my brothers. Because while it wasn't our BUSINESS who she fucked, it definitely effected our lives, and she loved us enough to take us into consideration when she made her decisions. As she should have, because she was our mother.Mmk well I was speaking as being moral as a whole...like having a good moral character. You arent an angel and neither is 99 percent of the rest of the world. People lie for a lot of reasons; not saying its right, but it happens and Im not gonna go outta my way to pass judgement on people who do... nor will I sit here and just not respond to someone telling another they dont care about their family because of a sexual decision they made. Last time I checked, children have nothing to do with who their parents fuck and hopefully they know their parents loved and cared for them appropriately so maybe they wont be trippen about it as adults. Divorce sucks. It happens for hella reasons not just cheating.
If you have kids, and you don't consider them when you're considering cheating on your spouse...I don't even know what to say to that. I'm glad my mother considered me when she made her decisions.
gogrow
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my mom drug me around with her while she cheated on my dad.... i still have some issues about some of the things i was subjected to... not a fun life for a small child... when your decisions affect others, esp children, it is no longer just your business.... dad got the clap once too; im sure that wasnt fun
... if he had known, he wouldnt be fucking her at that time and probably would have ended the relationship.... honesty should be number one in a marriage...
Wikidbchofthewst
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Exactly! I got drug around too, but by the person who was being cheated ON, so that she could confront him and have ME there to make even more of a scene.my mom drug me around with her while she cheated on my dad.... i still have some issues about some of the things i was subjected to... not a fun life for a small child... when your decisions affect others, esp children, it is no longer just your business.... dad got the clap once too; im sure that wasnt fun
When it effects your kids, it's not just your business anymore, thank you gogrow, that's exactly what I'm saying. If your actions are going to tear apart your family, then your kids have the right to judge you for them, because it's THEIR family too! It's their family you're fucking up.
And it's not like I'm saying these people don't deserve forgiveness at some point, but yes, I will judge them, because it's very unfair to the rest of the family when one member does something so selfish.
gogrow
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oh yes.. i do judge her for it... i will call my mother a whore to her face; she knows its true... she tries to downplay how bad it was, but there is noway to know what it was like to be a 4-8 yr old and be torn between the two people that means the most to you in life... didnt want to say anything cause of mom, wanted to tell dad... so the only thing i could do in my confusion was to be hush, which in effect furthered the situation in favor of my unfaithful mother... it was a fucked situation and the reason i feel so strongly about fidelity and being upfront and honest with your spouse; no matter what... children should not have to be put in the spot i was put in.
jamiemichelle
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Yup my mom was a whore and here I am as an adult... over it. I dont sit and dwell on shit that happened years and years ago.
And ya Im sure its affected me as an adult... but everything you experienced helped mold you into who you are today. Im not in a relationship, or cheating or anything of the sort but yes Ive been married, yes Ive cheated (when we were separated but I still considered it cheating) and the only people it hurt were my husband and I. And now we are great friends and both are over it. Oh well shit happens I was young and dumb and I dont feel bad for it and thankfully he understands why I did it.
Im not gonna sit here years after my mom whored around and still hate on her for it (unless shes still being a ho.)
As an adult, parents should keep their children outta their personal lives to prevent the stress it may cause their kids overall.
If they didnt well shame on them...still doesnt change the fact though that if an adult makes a decision to have sex with someone else thats their own choice.
If someone witnesses their parents cheat then ya that has to suck and I have been in the position myself knowing a family member was cheating, but even at 13 I knew it was none of my business and I still knew they loved me- didnt question their love for one second because she always lemme know and showed how important I was.
And ya Im sure its affected me as an adult... but everything you experienced helped mold you into who you are today. Im not in a relationship, or cheating or anything of the sort but yes Ive been married, yes Ive cheated (when we were separated but I still considered it cheating) and the only people it hurt were my husband and I. And now we are great friends and both are over it. Oh well shit happens I was young and dumb and I dont feel bad for it and thankfully he understands why I did it.
Im not gonna sit here years after my mom whored around and still hate on her for it (unless shes still being a ho.)
As an adult, parents should keep their children outta their personal lives to prevent the stress it may cause their kids overall.
If they didnt well shame on them...still doesnt change the fact though that if an adult makes a decision to have sex with someone else thats their own choice.
If someone witnesses their parents cheat then ya that has to suck and I have been in the position myself knowing a family member was cheating, but even at 13 I knew it was none of my business and I still knew they loved me- didnt question their love for one second because she always lemme know and showed how important I was.
Seamaiden
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I'm not saying that I might lie to him (I have no more contact with him), I'm saying he deserves it. You've made an erroneous assumption in that regard. And, I'm saying that this guy in particular really deserves it (he actually deserves worse in my book, but hey, lyin'll do the job, too.
)You're making perfect sense! But, that's not where I'm coming from at all. He gets around plenty, one day he'll find someone who shall give him a royal dose of his own medicine. I figure there are other karmic ways in which he's cursed his entire life, too, and he deserves to reap what he sows.
True karmic justice would be his precious dick just dryin' up an' fallin' off. He is so very precious about that penis of his, too.A girl can hope, right?
It sounds to me as though you understand that humans are fallible, without condoning purposefully hurting someone else. To me, it's like a lot of other mistakes someone can make that include hiding something important from their partner, like... I don't know.. gambling? People can even be addicted to that, or shopping, and they know what they're doing is wrong, so they lie about it and I think that can end up causing a lot of pain as well. But, I don't think that the majority of people intentionally hurt the ones they love. The thing with this site is that it seems pretty intentional, especially if you were to sign up for their 6mo. Affair Guarantee (my invention).
Interesting, I stopped seeing a guy because I specifically didn't want my boys to see me "with a parade of men". That meant that unless I was serious about someone, they knew NOTHING about it. Mom's goin' out with some friends, and that's it. No coming over and meeting them, no CALLING me on the house line, no showing up at the house AT ALL. That one I mentioned in Mr. Howard Marks' thread, who took about a week to drive me insane.my mom drug me around with her while she cheated on my dad.... i still have some issues about some of the things i was subjected to... not a fun life for a small child... when your decisions affect others, esp children, it is no longer just your business.... dad got the clap once too; im sure that wasnt fun
I just realized that I should mention that this was AFTER I was divorced from their dad.
Wikidbchofthewst
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Ok, now THAT I can agree withI'm not saying that I might lie to him (I have no more contact with him), I'm saying he deserves it. You've made an erroneous assumption in that regard. And, I'm saying that this guy in particular really deserves it (he actually deserves worse in my book, but hey, lyin'll do the job, too.
You're making perfect sense! But, that's not where I'm coming from at all. He gets around plenty, one day he'll find someone who shall give him a royal dose of his own medicine. I figure there are other karmic ways in which he's cursed his entire life, too, and he deserves to reap what he sows.
A girl can hope, right?
It's kinda hard, because one part of me is very tit-for-tat. Do something to me, I'll do it right back. When I was a kid I had a hard time understanding why that didn't work for the golden rule.
But now I know if someone does something wrong to me I just have to hope that what goes around really comes around and they'll get theirs later.
If it's really bad I'll have to handle it tit-for-tat, but that's reserved for more serious things.
Wikidbchofthewst
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Then again, not always serious things...sometimes I can be rather spiteful.
Guess it depends on who does what
Guess it depends on who does what
Seamaiden
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I tend to be the opposite most of the time. My grandmother always said that everyone has to go to the grave with their actions, and that's just not a burden I want to bear. But, I do have bad thoughts. Sometimes very bad thoughts.Ok, now THAT I can agree with
It's kinda hard, because one part of me is very tit-for-tat. Do something to me, I'll do it right back. When I was a kid I had a hard time understanding why that didn't work for the golden rule.
I used to believe that, but now I don't. I've seen too many really bad, awful people never get their comeuppance, never pay for how they've hurt others, get away with so many things that are just wrong. And then there are those who play by the book, are just good, honest people, and the most horrible things happen to them. It makes me feel very cynical. So then I make myself feel better by having those bad thoughts again.
I've never quite gotten that far, emotionally... well, except for the first hubby who liked to hit. Had to nip that shit in the bud (read: retaliate and make him at least think twice). D'oh!
gogrow
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you were 13.... knew a little bit about the world... i was 4... and i was the alibi... it does leave a lasting impression... yes im over it, and yes she is still a whore (like fuck for drugs whore)... i would say our situations are a little different; so please dont try to make me out to be a whiny bitch...
loke
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heh interesting site.
but i personally think the world would be a better place if there were no cheaters in existence!
oh woe, for the dramas of dishonest perpetual skirt and trouser chasers their unbridled lust wreaks havoc upon all love that is sacred.
save a home, kill a cheater!
but i personally think the world would be a better place if there were no cheaters in existence!
oh woe, for the dramas of dishonest perpetual skirt and trouser chasers their unbridled lust wreaks havoc upon all love that is sacred.
save a home, kill a cheater!
jamiemichelle
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I wasnt making you out to be a whiney bitch and trust me when I was a kid a lotta stuff happened to me (earlier I mentioned my Mema raised me cuz my Mom was a fuck up - like child abuse, malnutrioned til I was almost dead, left alone as an infant,dudes galore, seen her do coke regularly) so I apologize if you took it that way. I'm saying as an adult you look at things from a dif perspective than you were as a kid. I think the things I saw my Mom do when I was young made me into a better person and a better mother today. I don't still hate on her for what she did because it doesnt get me any where. People make mistakes and at the same time Im not lowering my emotional state at this point of my life because of anyones mistakes but my own.
Wikidbchofthewst
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I can agree with that. As you get older you see your parents differently, you can actually see them as people, rather than just your parents. It's kinda weird.