Anyone's spouse shut down your passion for cannabis?

Nickp113 said:

Just a little venting, I'm a 31 year old husband with a new baby. I'm a legal MMJ patient in CA. I've been passionate for cannabis for over a decade, with it growing extremely strong over the last 1-2 years. All I want to do is grow, all I think about is growing. I'm consumed by it. I finally expressed this to my wife and she shut it down without even blinking an eye. It really sucks when the person you love with all your heart won't let you pursue your dream. I have a great job, and want to grow on the side, mostly for hobby, but deep down I'd eventually love to get into the industry. Especially since it will most likely be legal here within a couple of years. Is it bad that in the back of my head I've even considered ending my marriage over this? That's how passionate for the plant I am. Anyone out there been in a similar situation?

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well, I gotta say that you might want to re-evaluate your priorities and get a good understanding that you are a part of a family, and it is your responsibility to do what is best for your family, and not for you. The idea of ending a relationship so you can grow weed is dumb. Do you really want to give up half of your childs life, watch her/him grow up through pictures on facebook, so you can have a few plants in the basement? You can go into a store and buy all the pot you need. In 18 years, your kid will be grown up and living on their own, you can grow all you want after that. Your wife has enough going on to not have to deal with that, and I'm sure you understand that. Being pissed and venting is all good, but I'd suggest thinking long and hard. Divorce changes childrens life in every way. Things happen in marriage, and many end up splitting, but its pretty silly to do it on purpose over something like growing weed, especially when you live in Cali, come on now.

Have a nice holiday, take the time to enjoy your family.........there is nothing more important.

I've been through a few women over it.So then I started dating guys.Sure as shit they were just as bad as the girls.

Get rid of her!!! Only joking! However I got rid of my 7 yr long relationship to a lawyer. Oil and water don't mix. Sure he was happy when I worked as a commodity broker but was I? Sick of niceness being confused with weakness. Tell her it's on the cards and be honest.

Marriage is about compromises dude. Feels like I have been married all my life... but it's just been the last 25 years. Your wife is all about the family unit and protecting it. That's her job. You are this risk taker, the man that goes and hunts the next meal. You want to take a risk that is unacceptable to her RIGHT NOW. A risk to the family unit. Give it time and be consistent about what is important to you. As you compromise and give her what she needs she will do the same. Before you know it you will have that grow.

^^^^ I have to agree with the above post. Most women don't take the risks I that i have (I don't have kids). My ex must've been the woman in the r/ship in that respect due to his job.

prosperian said:

Marriage is about compromises dude. Feels like I have been married all my life... but it's just been the last 25 years. Your wife is all about the family unit and protecting it. That's her job. You are this risk taker, the man that goes and hunts the next meal. You want to take a risk that is unacceptable to her RIGHT NOW. A risk to the family unit. Give it time and be consistent about what is important to you. As you compromise and give her what she needs she will do the same. Before you know it you will have that grow.

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dude i hope your not implying that women in the kitchen shit. thats fucking gross women nothing more than a baby maker who is supposed to be at home with the kids is the worse idea MAN ever created.

edit- man should be in the kitchen cooking for the kids and wife after he gets home from "work"

Nickp113 said:

I'd totally say no to being a stripper lol. But me gardening, and her taking her clothes off for money are two completely different things. Plus I know she'd never even consider it. And I'm not considering leaving quickly, just wanting to be with someone who will support me in anything I decide to do. We've been through a lot together, and she's the mother of my child. But to know that after being together for 5+ years, and this is the only and I mean only time I have ever really expressed my feelings on something like this worries me. I want to spend my life with someone who's down for me, and anything I want to do. You know what I mean?

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There is noone out there that will support you 100% of the time.

Do you have any idea how many times me and my husband shoot eachother down?? lol. People in a relationship are gonna disagree and frankly, having a grow op, even for personal use IS A BIG DEAL!

UncleBuck said:

you can't fuck a plant, and the plant won't be your partner in life. leaving your wife for a plant seems to be an excuse of some sort, otherwise you are insane.

not to mention your new kid. you're gonna ditch him to grow a plant? maybe grow up instead.

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I agree, very fucked up.

I hope OP didn't say to his wife he was thinking of divorce over this.. BECAUSE that would be a big flashing neon sign that says "HE is not committed!"

kinddiesel said:

you need to find a different place to grow , the stuff you grow stinks, and people will say im wrong . if you smell it all day its like paint fumes will get thc out of the smell , and if you have ozone generators or co2 generators going thats horrible for a new born , i dont care if you have carbon filters all that, i suggest , put it into a garage , , any thc will strongly affect a new born studies were performed to prove it, canabis lovers will disagree with me , this is my opinion only, your the only one that can , make the proper decision,.

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You can't get thc in your system from smelling a plant. Agreed on the ozone generaters tho.

Something else is wrong with this relationship besides growing. If not he wouldnt be discussing this. I see a divorce coming soon one way or the other.

he'll end up with the plant, so keep the wife. she'll get over it. its just a plant. ive got dozens of random plants i can put on the porch at anytime( its still semi winter). she really has to just let it go. there are tons of people growing everything. did you know its illegal to grow peanuts in most states? so would she ditch you because you grew peanuts. it really is the same. same goes sugar but its a permit issue not a legal one.

silasraven said:

dude i hope your not implying that women in the kitchen shit. thats fucking gross women nothing more than a baby maker who is supposed to be at home with the kids is the worse idea MAN ever created.edit- man should be in the kitchen cooking for the kids and wife after he gets home from "work"

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We all play roles. I do the cleaning, cooking, shopping, general care taking for the kids, big projects around the house, pay the mortgage and all bills... She provides the lovin. Oh, yeah and she's the babymaker too! Whatever makes the relationship work, just have to find the balance and do your part.

prosperian said:

Marriage is about compromises dude. Feels like I have been married all my life... but it's just been the last 25 years. Your wife is all about the family unit and protecting it. That's her job. You are this risk taker, the man that goes and hunts the next meal. You want to take a risk that is unacceptable to her RIGHT NOW. A risk to the family unit. Give it time and be consistent about what is important to you. As you compromise and give her what she needs she will do the same. Before you know it you will have that grow.

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Great response.

The fact of the matter is, I too seem to jump to conclusions to the extreme. I would never divorce over not being able to grow. I think just the principle of her not supporting a passion of mine is what gets me. But hearing from some of the women, and experienced vets on this post I realize she is just protecting me and the little man. You guys are all awesome! I will grow this beautiful plant.... One day but for now probably just invest with a close friend at his property. Probably better off that way anyways. Thanks again everyone. ✌From Cali.

silasraven said:

dude i hope your not implying that women in the kitchen shit. thats fucking gross women nothing more than a baby maker who is supposed to be at home with the kids is the worse idea MAN ever created.

edit- man should be in the kitchen cooking for the kids and wife after she gets home from "work"

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Bingo!!

But we all know, Ya can't make a ho a house Wife!!!

My ex smoked when we got married and after 15 years wanted to quit and me to quit too. I said I smoked when we met and I wasnt quitting. Not long after our 16th anniversary we got divorced because she wanted me to quit and she was a cheating whore. Im so much better off without her and eventually Ill find someone who can be faithful and likes herb as much as me.

whenever a gf of mine tells me i'm too passionate about cannabis to the point where they either are jealous or threatened, i get rid of them. simple, relatively stress free and cost effective.

Nickp113 said:

The fact of the matter is, I too seem to jump to conclusions to the extreme. I would never divorce over not being able to grow. I think just the principle of her not supporting a passion of mine is what gets me. But hearing from some of the women, and experienced vets on this post I realize she is just protecting me and the little man. You guys are all awesome! I will grow this beautiful plant.... One day but for now probably just invest with a close friend at his property. Probably better off that way anyways. Thanks again everyone. ✌From Cali.

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in the past, i tried to accentuate my passion of cannabis, the finesse needed to actually grow certain types, some people aren't interested in your chosen pastimes and simply see a threat or potential danger, if you grow your own and smoke your own, what's the big fucking issue? right?

This would be one way out of my life