Child Support Rant
- Thread starter Erniedytn
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Send them an interest bill. They would certainly charge you interest.
Ladyvamptress
Active Member
Good lord Ernie, you've went through a lot with this. Now I'm not saying that you're a bad guy... yes you made some mistakes that provoked this chain of events, but if the state ddin't wanna give you the change to clean up your act and/or jsut temp take your kids away, then I agree with you... that's THEIR problem after that. When the kdis were legally adopted to another family then it should be the new family to support the children, not you. I didn't read every page in here cause my back is killing me, but your last post suggests that this matter is straightened out. I'm glad if it really is.
As for the statements being made saying that men ALWAYS get screwed by the women... that's bullshit. I will agree that SOME women us the kids as an excuse to get money for other things than their kids. But not all women are piss poor mothers like that. I've been fighting with the system for 3 years. Now I'm fighting the system to NOT get money!! Me and my ex decided we wanted a family and all, I ended up pregnant with our daughter and he then decided (when I was 4 months pregnant) that he'd rather treat me like shit, cheat on me, and that he didn't wanna be a father any more. Well, I'm sorry... I don't believe in abortion and I think at 4 months it was a lil too late anyways. There was no way in hell I'd have my daughter and put her up for adoption either. So I just told my ex to just not worry about it. Now I was a first time mother and I had problems in the pregnancy that prevented me to work. So I went and got on welfare. I didn't know by doing this that I'd then have to sue my ex for child support. As I said, this was all a first for me. So after a few months of getting medical help and such from the state, they come to me to sign papers on suing my ex for child support. I told them I didn't want to and they said that if I didn't, then they would cut my help and I'd have to pay back on the help I already got. Now if I could do that, then why would I even need them for help to start with. >.>' My ex won't work... he's worthless, he told me that he will never work cause working wasn't for him. He must love living off his family. So they keep trying to find him (he keeps moving around so he don't have to deal with child support issues) and he moves from family member to family member ever few months or he'll find a female that he'll date, just to use her as long as he can. So I'm left to deal with the child support people, I still have to go to court dates, I still have to deal with all this bullshit!! I want nothing from him. I just want him to take the damn paternity test, sign over his rights, and let my ex husband adopt her as his daughter. It's clear my ex wants nothing to do with her and my ex husband has been a father to my child for the last 3 years. I know if he does come in to court and do what I'd like him to do... then he could possibly go to jail cause he does owe money from the last 3 years.. but that's cause HE's the one that ran and all... if he would have just signed over rights when she was born (I asked him to come to the hospital the day she was born to do so and he never showed up)... then he'd have no worries right now.
Might I add that at one point in time, he had all the money to pay things off up to date from a settlement after his dad died and he passed that money out to his friends and wasted it on things that he don't even have now. >.>'
Ok, who point of this is to show that not ALL women want money from men and not ALL men get screwed when it comes to child support. Mind you, even though I didn't want money from him... even if he never paid, I'd still let him spend time with his child too... all I ever wanted was him to be in her life a lil here and there so my child didn't feel like something was wrong with her.
As for the statements being made saying that men ALWAYS get screwed by the women... that's bullshit. I will agree that SOME women us the kids as an excuse to get money for other things than their kids. But not all women are piss poor mothers like that. I've been fighting with the system for 3 years. Now I'm fighting the system to NOT get money!! Me and my ex decided we wanted a family and all, I ended up pregnant with our daughter and he then decided (when I was 4 months pregnant) that he'd rather treat me like shit, cheat on me, and that he didn't wanna be a father any more. Well, I'm sorry... I don't believe in abortion and I think at 4 months it was a lil too late anyways. There was no way in hell I'd have my daughter and put her up for adoption either. So I just told my ex to just not worry about it. Now I was a first time mother and I had problems in the pregnancy that prevented me to work. So I went and got on welfare. I didn't know by doing this that I'd then have to sue my ex for child support. As I said, this was all a first for me. So after a few months of getting medical help and such from the state, they come to me to sign papers on suing my ex for child support. I told them I didn't want to and they said that if I didn't, then they would cut my help and I'd have to pay back on the help I already got. Now if I could do that, then why would I even need them for help to start with. >.>' My ex won't work... he's worthless, he told me that he will never work cause working wasn't for him. He must love living off his family. So they keep trying to find him (he keeps moving around so he don't have to deal with child support issues) and he moves from family member to family member ever few months or he'll find a female that he'll date, just to use her as long as he can. So I'm left to deal with the child support people, I still have to go to court dates, I still have to deal with all this bullshit!! I want nothing from him. I just want him to take the damn paternity test, sign over his rights, and let my ex husband adopt her as his daughter. It's clear my ex wants nothing to do with her and my ex husband has been a father to my child for the last 3 years. I know if he does come in to court and do what I'd like him to do... then he could possibly go to jail cause he does owe money from the last 3 years.. but that's cause HE's the one that ran and all... if he would have just signed over rights when she was born (I asked him to come to the hospital the day she was born to do so and he never showed up)... then he'd have no worries right now.
Might I add that at one point in time, he had all the money to pay things off up to date from a settlement after his dad died and he passed that money out to his friends and wasted it on things that he don't even have now. >.>'
Ok, who point of this is to show that not ALL women want money from men and not ALL men get screwed when it comes to child support. Mind you, even though I didn't want money from him... even if he never paid, I'd still let him spend time with his child too... all I ever wanted was him to be in her life a lil here and there so my child didn't feel like something was wrong with her.
Erniedytn
Master of Mayhem
Yes I have been through alot with this...but as you stated...it WAS self provoked. I'm just glad it's over.
I really feel bad for your situation now because if you don't sue him for the child support they will turn on you like a pitbull, and you will then be the bad guy...I wish you all the luck in the world.
RKM.....I wish I could charge those bastards interest, but we all know thats a one way street...
I really feel bad for your situation now because if you don't sue him for the child support they will turn on you like a pitbull, and you will then be the bad guy...I wish you all the luck in the world.
RKM.....I wish I could charge those bastards interest, but we all know thats a one way street...
Ladyvamptress
Active Member
Thx Ernie. I think I've pretteh much just given up... I'll be able to work in the next two months, so the way I see it is that if they want their money, they will have to do it on their own cause I'm out. As long as I'm not on their help... they can't make ME the bad guy anymore. But I thank you. I hope one day you are able to get your kids back (though I don't see how at this point) or at least get to spend time with them and watch them grow up.
Zekedogg
100% Authentic A$$Hole
Aren't you a woman? How can you be a bad guy?
kizphilly
Well-Known Member
all i know is if u have to pay child support pay it cause when i was a kid i watched my mom struggle working two jobs cause my dad never paid child support maybe every 5 years we would go to court get a lil money and that would be it and i understand ppl cant afford to -pay thats a diffrent story but my dad owned his own buissness at the time and had alot of money then and i never fogive him for that
Ladyvamptress
Active Member
I donno myself. Everything is always MY fault. I offered my daughter's dad every way out of paying child support I could, but he jsut kept saying that they couldn't make him pay... When he was yelling that I wouldn't let him see his child (which was untrue, just a way for him to try and bullshit the system), I sold the only car I had for me and my child so I could take her to see him (he lives in TX and I live in WV). Like I said, I never wanted his money, I only brought it up to protect him from fucking his life up in the future. I am being made to sue him by the state for the medical services they have provided for our child and I'm the bad guy cause I HAVE to or I have to pay the state back. I'm sorry, but I'm the one raising our daughter, he's never been there, I'm the one without a car and jobless cause I can't find a stable ride to work. I can't pay for babysitters and I have no one to help me out in that department... the more help I get from the state makes it the more my daughter's dad will have to pay back, so I'm trying to not ask for too much help for HIS sake and I'm the gold digging bitch here in his eyes. >.>'
So hun, you tell me how I'm the bad guy cause I have no clue.
Side note, there are men out there that have cusody of their kid(s) and the mother is a worthless piece of shit that don't pay and she gets the same treatment that the wothless fathers get. it is a two way street, but as I stated before, there are also SOME women out there that use the child(ren) as an excuse to get money and live off the male... but men do it too, I know this one guy that has 2 kids and his mother has them all the time, gets them what they need and he's getting money from the kid's mother and using it to live off of.
Ladyvamptress
Active Member
That's not right. >.>' Unless you own some sort of back child support or have to pay back welfare or some other service from when you didn't have the kids, but if you've always had the kids and such, then you shouldn't have to pay anything... you should be getting some money from their mother.
'I'd look into that the next time you can cause that really don't sound right to me and maybe it's a mix up.
I read this whole thread, and all I can say is Dayumm! 
Glad it worked out for you in the end Ernie.
Theres plenty of women who purposely get knocked up knowing that they will get child support and Gov't assistance. They biologically want a kid anywayz, so might as well exploit some dude with a job.
Not saying all women, but a considerable percentage.
Keep your dick in your pants... and watch your GF take her birth control pills.
Also, doesn't hurt to get a DNA test if you have doubts.
And at the same time, if it didn't work out with your old lady, Pay your Child support.
Pussy is expensive, and many times not even worth it...
Glad it worked out for you in the end Ernie.
Theres plenty of women who purposely get knocked up knowing that they will get child support and Gov't assistance. They biologically want a kid anywayz, so might as well exploit some dude with a job.
Not saying all women, but a considerable percentage.
Keep your dick in your pants... and watch your GF take her birth control pills.
Also, doesn't hurt to get a DNA test if you have doubts.
And at the same time, if it didn't work out with your old lady, Pay your Child support.
Pussy is expensive, and many times not even worth it...
Randodred
Active Member
I mran no problem with the closet grow for me ya think as long as I pay??
I'm getting letter Abt a case is now open
jacksmuff
Well-Known Member
Why would you ever give up 100% custody of your kid? Is the closet cfl grow more important to you?