deserate for some solid advice...

bluntmassa1

bluntmassa1

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PKHydro said:
Weird, I read a post from you back in april about how your wife thinks your bipolar and i instantly thought that you were this woman's husband. After reading this I'm still unsure. You can't be that big of an asshole, so I'm hoping that this is a joke.
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Lol, No I've only been married 3 years been together 6 but where still together.
 
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farsyt

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I have not implied my husband is dangerous... If so please point it out. Very possible in my frayed headspace I could have phrased something wrong that could have been misinterpreted as such... but definitly not a dangerous person.
I have not run away
I have not ABANDONED my daughter but there is such things as school and stuff which taking her out of for a "timeout" was not the cleverest idea. She starts her exams in a couple of weeks and she has been working so hard at her school work so that is not something we do NOT want to fuck up for her after all her efforts.
She is with her animals which she loves deeply and that is important.
She knows her mom and dad are only taking some space so that there can be a break for her too.
My husband is a GOOD dad and she IS safe and therefore not being messed around more than necessary
It was made very clear that this time and space is necessary. For the benefit of ALL of us
My husband agreed and supported this MUTUAL decision.
I have spoken to her every day and she even though she knows its hard she can hear the break is helping me... and hopefully her dad
He and I are communicating via email as it is easier for us to put our thoughts on the table... read, absorb, reply.

And yes there is lots more to this of course. I openly admitted I am not entirely innocent... so far from perfect. I have my flaws and I have obviously fucked up too... been angry too but have always been big enough to admit to and tried to apologise where I was wrong.
But I never ever gave my husband reason to doubt my loyalty and dedication to him and our marriage.
 
Flaming Pie

Flaming Pie

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farsyt said:
I have not implied my husband is dangerous... If so please point it out. Very possible in my frayed headspace I could have phrased something wrong that could have been misinterpreted as such... but definitly not a dangerous person.
I have not run away
I have not ABANDONED my daughter but there is such things as school and stuff which taking her out of for a "timeout" was not the cleverest idea. She starts her exams in a couple of weeks and she has been working so hard at her school work so that is not something we do NOT want to fuck up for her after all her efforts.
She is with her animals which she loves deeply and that is important.
She knows her mom and dad are only taking some space so that there can be a break for her too.
My husband is a GOOD dad and she IS safe and therefore not being messed around more than necessary
It was made very clear that this time and space is necessary. For the benefit of ALL of us
My husband agreed and supported this MUTUAL decision.
I have spoken to her every day and she even though she knows its hard she can hear the break is helping me... and hopefully her dad
He and I are communicating via email as it is easier for us to put our thoughts on the table... read, absorb, reply.

And yes there is lots more to this of course. I openly admitted I am not entirely innocent... so far from perfect. I have my flaws and I have obviously fucked up too... been angry too but have always been big enough to admit to and tried to apologise where I was wrong.
But I never ever gave my husband reason to doubt my loyalty and dedication to him and our marriage.
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I apologize.

It sounded like your daughter was afraid to speak her mind because he may lash out with words or hands. If you meant he was just irritable than that js different.
 
bluntmassa1

bluntmassa1

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Well if the guy don't want to be with you what can you do? I'm sure you can find someone else half the dudes on here don't get no beaver just don't look in bars I beat the shit out of the last guy my mom met at a bar. The way I met my wife was fucked though I loaded a slug up with weed and dope picked her up brought her to see her man in a prison visit he slugged it up his ass like 5 times all while I was fucking her but they weren't really together. :bigjoint: I'm just trying to figure out what to tell my daughter when the time comes. LMAO, "Your mother was a mule but we fell in love." lol
 
neosapien

neosapien

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Just kidding. Did you guys think it was me? Aww I got you fuckers good! I guess that was kind of in bad taste though.

@farsyt from what I've read of your version of events your husband sounds like a psychopath and I think you need to look at it as just a new chapter in the book of life.
 
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farsyt

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WHATFG... thank you for the link.
Have found some good advice and some folks are helping me steer onto the right course.

I really have appreciated all your words and thoughts. Thank you everyone. :)

Overall am feeling a touch more in control... apart from crazy chest pains, cold sweats, nausea and slight wobbliness.
Have not managed much sleep yet, still not much food... but getting a grip.
Even managed to break a little half smile or two earlier.

Have a few plans for the day. My friend has given me some really awesome pictures - trippy as all hell and right up my alley - and a huge box of colored pens and paints.
I'm sure that doing some creative stuff will help put more things into perspective...
 
Singlemalt

Singlemalt

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farsyt said:
WHATFG... thank you for the link.
Have found some good advice and some folks are helping me steer onto the right course.

I really have appreciated all your words and thoughts. Thank you everyone. :)

Overall am feeling a touch more in control... apart from crazy chest pains, cold sweats, nausea and slight wobbliness.
Have not managed much sleep yet, still not much food... but getting a grip.
Even managed to break a little half smile or two earlier.

Have a few plans for the day. My friend has given me some really awesome pictures - trippy as all hell and right up my alley - and a huge box of colored pens and paints.
I'm sure that doing some creative stuff will help put more things into perspective...
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Please don't start drawing cute rainbow unicorns
 
sunni

sunni

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farsyt said:
I won't let on who it is... Keep guessing all you want. But I am for real. A desperate wife willing to do anything to save something she would rather end her own life than see it be just another statistic. Sounds stupid but fuck I'm sad
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i know who it is... and you cant have like 4 other accounts .
 
sunni

sunni

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ill give my suggestions.

give him some distance for now, hes obviously struggling with some serious issues,
seek out counseling for yourself,
no one can tell you what to do, advice is nice but ultimately you need to figure out what the right step and direction is for your own marriage.
weight out the pros and cons of each route you could take and make your own decision.

working on yourself is always number 1 , especially for your daughter.
 
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