All hps (high pressure sodium) require a ballast, it is not just a matter of getting a bulb and sticking it in. There is a lot more to it than how many lights do i need per plant. If you put in an hps you are going to have a lot of heat to deal with. Read on here for a few days, read everything you can, then ask what you couldn't find as all this info is on here 1000 times.
If you "think" its a female, how do you know? Do not upload pictures from your phone odds are it has your location tagged on the picture, so we will all know where you are. Get an older digital camera take some pics and upload those.