Heart broken, gotta shut down my grow!
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space_weaseal
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Even if you set down your son, and explain the severity of the matter if someone finds out, it could turn out bad for you..Dont get me wrong im not trying to say he's a bad kid or will intentionally get you busted, but man he is 16, and kids like to brag...He would tell his best friend in the whole world (and that friend promises to never tell), and all it takes is a minor dispute over anything stupid, "at that age it could be over a girl, videogame, or whatever" and guess whos going to jail, and poss losing your kids..
Man go with with your gut feelings on this one...You have way too much to lose...
Man go with with your gut feelings on this one...You have way too much to lose...
space_weaseal
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Sorry man i do agree with alot of things you have to say, not not on this one...
Its not about lying to them, but protecting them...
lying to protect is lying. my sons 12. he understands. he knows what stays within the home. he doesn't tell his friend about other private things. he has so far made a decision, on his own, that until he is older he does not want or need to try marijuana. that may soon change. if it does i will expect him to come to me with his honesty as i did for him. you'd be amazed at how intelligent kids really are when you sit down and talk to them. once again my son is fully educated. he has been taught that pot is NOT evil it is not something that should be hidden in the closet and lied about. he has been taught that their are those who don't understand this and will cause problems for you. he understands all sides. i could have lied and let him learn about it on the playground.
knowledge is power. the power to say no.
space_weaseal
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fdd2blk
I do respect how you handled your situation and your views on this one..I do not have kids so i cant realy know how i would handle it myself, but thats a very dicy situatation. "Im just a parinoid bastarad when it come to all this"..My sister is one of my best friends, and i trust her with my life same with my best friend, "which i have known for over 20yrs, and he is a grower", and buy and smoke with both of them..They are always over, and i still have not told either i grow, and never will. I live by the Golden Rule: TELL NO ONE, "EVER" and that way if the shit hits the fan, i have no one to blame but mysel.............................................................................................................................................................................
I do respect how you handled your situation and your views on this one..I do not have kids so i cant realy know how i would handle it myself, but thats a very dicy situatation. "Im just a parinoid bastarad when it come to all this"..My sister is one of my best friends, and i trust her with my life same with my best friend, "which i have known for over 20yrs, and he is a grower", and buy and smoke with both of them..They are always over, and i still have not told either i grow, and never will. I live by the Golden Rule: TELL NO ONE, "EVER" and that way if the shit hits the fan, i have no one to blame but mysel.............................................................................................................................................................................
Guitarantula
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As i said, to me, having any 16 year-old kid with knowledge about me of that magnitude is not good. No matter how many times you explained it to your son, man, it's hard as hell for a 16 year to keep something like that from a best friend. That happens, my a neighbor kid, 16 years old has the power to send me to jail. As the other poster said, and I have seen this many times, my son and his best friend have many a squabble, even coming to blows. NO WAY would i trust my son not to tell this info to a best friend. Can't you just see in your mind's ey, they are up late, My son says, there are some things I don't tell you, the friend says "come on, I would never tell, ever", son say, well, promiss me on your Mom's grave. "well, My dad grows pot in his closet". Boom, the friend tells another friend, he tells his Mom,= cops at my door. My son is a great kid, he would never intentionally get me in trouble, but if you put yourself in that position then I am afraid you might just pay for it dearly one day. Not because your kid would get you in trouble, but it's called human nature. A 16 year-old kid is just that, 16 years old. I am shocked you would suggest to me to put my grow and freedom in the hands of a 16 year old kid, my son or not my son.
I have decided on a grow box and purchased most of the stuff today. My son already knows I smoke because I know my brother told him that he smokes, and the way he said "I want to see the tomato plants", he knows, but it's as if he doesn't want to know, and I don't blame him. I think it is simply respecting your child by not lowering yourself in their eyes. My son's 16 year old mind doesn't need that kind of baggage on it, and I just don't agree with putting that info on it.
I have decided on a grow box and purchased most of the stuff today. My son already knows I smoke because I know my brother told him that he smokes, and the way he said "I want to see the tomato plants", he knows, but it's as if he doesn't want to know, and I don't blame him. I think it is simply respecting your child by not lowering yourself in their eyes. My son's 16 year old mind doesn't need that kind of baggage on it, and I just don't agree with putting that info on it.
Mr. Bud
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I'd like to just point out, chances are that. Unless you're home 24/7 sitting watching your plants. Chances are that your son already looked in there while you were gone.
I don't mean to assume anything about your son, but I'm just saying that a stereotypical 16 year old kid is curious and obviously if you had the first situation as described early where your daughter had said it was a plant. He's probably already seen it.
I just mean, if when, I was 16 and had found out that my dad was growing pot in the closet, I would of helped him.
My dad use to take my computer tower as sort of a punishment against me and put it in his room. Keep in mind the door was locked and had a dead bolt on it. It took me over 2 weeks of yanking his keys to hand file the keys down to be and so it'd work. (Keep in mind i was 14-15 at the time = no car = no copy of key). Which the only time that I would do it when was he was in the shower.
Anyways, after spending an extended period of time by the door handle of his room, I noticed something. He would take a single hair and place it over the door handle to know if i had messed with the door. if the hair was gone when he got home, he'd inspect his room to know if i had fucked with anything.
Yea. anyways, After I had made the keys and had been doing it for a couple months, his gf caught me and i got the fucking belt.
lol
thats my short story for the day.
anyways,
my 2cents
I don't mean to assume anything about your son, but I'm just saying that a stereotypical 16 year old kid is curious and obviously if you had the first situation as described early where your daughter had said it was a plant. He's probably already seen it.
I just mean, if when, I was 16 and had found out that my dad was growing pot in the closet, I would of helped him.
My dad use to take my computer tower as sort of a punishment against me and put it in his room. Keep in mind the door was locked and had a dead bolt on it. It took me over 2 weeks of yanking his keys to hand file the keys down to be and so it'd work. (Keep in mind i was 14-15 at the time = no car = no copy of key). Which the only time that I would do it when was he was in the shower.
Anyways, after spending an extended period of time by the door handle of his room, I noticed something. He would take a single hair and place it over the door handle to know if i had messed with the door. if the hair was gone when he got home, he'd inspect his room to know if i had fucked with anything.
Yea. anyways, After I had made the keys and had been doing it for a couple months, his gf caught me and i got the fucking belt.
lol
thats my short story for the day.
anyways,
my 2cents
won't think twice to fire up a smoke and slam a shot of whiskey though. that's all cool. it's legal.
my dad stood in the drive-way of his house telling me i used my son to help cultivate my dope. he's sooooooo wrong. he had a glass of jack daniels in his hand. stood there and told me how pot was so evil. i'm 41 years old. i was there visiting. my sister had some questions. she is a nurse. i was trying to answer a few when all hell broke loose. "We don't speak of that here." wtf? i'm 41 my sister is 43. my parents lied to me as a child. led me to believe all the reefer madness. didn't make a bit of difference. may have made it worse.
i love these comments about the stereo-typical 16 year. what exactly is that? gansta? skate-punk? jock? underneath all that is a young mind. don't fuck with it.
my dad stood in the drive-way of his house telling me i used my son to help cultivate my dope. he's sooooooo wrong. he had a glass of jack daniels in his hand. stood there and told me how pot was so evil. i'm 41 years old. i was there visiting. my sister had some questions. she is a nurse. i was trying to answer a few when all hell broke loose. "We don't speak of that here." wtf? i'm 41 my sister is 43. my parents lied to me as a child. led me to believe all the reefer madness. didn't make a bit of difference. may have made it worse.
i love these comments about the stereo-typical 16 year. what exactly is that? gansta? skate-punk? jock? underneath all that is a young mind. don't fuck with it.
nowstopwhining
Too many brownies
exactly
space_weaseal
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Hey its simple "dont put yourself in a position where you have to explain your action to anyone"..If you cant grow in a safe enviroment you have no business growing at all, but hey, too each there own....None of us can sit here and tell the man what to do, because he knows whats best for him and his family..Everyone here has different views, and thats all cool, but i personnelly think its a poor idea to let your kids know about your grow....My veiws have been stated and im done with this one, because this could just turn into a shit storm over semantics...
Dont feel to bad..I was in the flowering stage my white berry plants were busy smelled awesome with my steatlh hydro kit, my mom ended up selling the house and i had them well hidden so when buyers came i had 24hrs. Well, my realtor came no call nothing, I wasnt home to turn the lights off and it was a cop off duty that was looking to buy. So..he didnt call anyone execpt our real estate company and he couldnt show the house...man I came home and didnt know it at the time but I could have called my friend and he would have taken them anyway I pulled them out..smelling awesome and burnt them...that was about 2,000 down the drain. 
So, we moved and im just waiting til my room finishes getting painted and new carpet and then its on. I feel your pain..
So, we moved and im just waiting til my room finishes getting painted and new carpet and then its on. I feel your pain..
Token
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i don't know how well you and your kids get along, but my brothers and I found my dads stash when where kids i was only 5 when we found a j on the table and smoked it, but when your dad is a hippie and you grow up around him and his friends hitting the bong and growing weed you don't really notice anything different then a cigarette.
alright ima just throw my 2 cents in...you called your son a good kid for the things he does..but to your knowldge he doesn't blaze..so if he did would you call him a bad kid...one thing i have noticed amogset growers an smokers is when kids are around they get scarred..what i dont understand is if you "love" the green why haven't you been educatiing your kids about it an the fact you use it...what i think parents forget is the first rule an thats honesty with your kids....peace
Guitarantula
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You are not thinking clearly. Stereo typical kid is not refering to what kind of music they listen to, not whether they are Goths or something, it means SIXTEEN YEARS WORTH OF MATURITY!! SIXTEEN YEARS WORTH OF EXPERIENCE!!, 16 YEARS TO UNDERSTAND THE POSSIBLE CONSEQUENCES OF TELLING EVEN YOUR BEST FRIEND!! A 16 year old is just that, 16 years worth of experience, maturity, and understanding cinsequences. As i said, I don't want ANY 16 year old kid having such knowledge about me and what I do, son or no son. there is a reason 16 year olds have more car accidents, there is a reason they get in more trouble than 40 year olds.
so are you going to quit smoking it also? or just hide it better?
