Why not try a 250? A guideline is 50w/sq ft of HPS for good growth and yields, 250 will give you 42.66w/sq ft, which is close. I wouldn't recommend a 400 for that small a space, too much heat.
You will still need good ventilation with a 250, you can quieten fans in a number of ways, build a box to enclose it and fill it with packing foam to deaden the vibrations, mount the fan on rubber to do the same, and if that don't work, get a fan speed controller. If you turn it down to 80% it will make a lot less noise as it's not operating at it's limit constantly.
Hope this helps!