Hi Dank and friends.
I have an idea that might help you to learn watering.
Get a bathroom scale. Fill up a same as you are using sized pot with dry soil. Record the weight.
Water in 2 qts of water. That's all. Record the weight.
You now have a rough baseline of saturated and dry. Bearing in mind that a growing plant will change your baseline, this should get you into the ballpark of soil moisture sweet zone until you learn to listen to your plants.
I often water mature flowering plants with only about a qt and a half. Use a circular pattern to ensure the water is distributed evenly.
A couple questions.
You are using pre amended soil? Have you thought about watering either just h2o or only coconut water or aloe added, not using ferts in watering but instead top dressing on the regular and allowing the bacteria, worms, bugs and fungi to create the ferts in house?
Do you have a thriving earthworm community in your soil? If not, I highly recommend red wigglers.
I've only been at this for 4 years, went full on organic living soil about a year and a half ago, love it, haven't looked back.
It's good, with this method, to worry less about the plant and more about the soil health. Also larger containers will be able to support a more diverse and resilient community of helper organisms.
I'm not sure if I've seen you pop into my journal or not, trying to record what I do, when i do. It's here-
https://www.rollitup.org/t/budget-no-frills-led-bs.975849/#post-14472356
If you have not already read the pinned living organic soil thread in the organics section here that's a great compilation of many organics practices and techniques.