Life blows. Honest advice needed.
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tangerinegreen555
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Stay Safe!
Everybody is safe till they fuck up. And it's almost always the last person an earth you'd expect to have something.
All in saying is condoms don't stop Hpv from spreading so even tho you think you're being safe and you are being safe Hpv doesn't care haha
Yessica...
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Holy shit - I get it!
If I have sex, I’m going to get HPV. Fine. Done.
Let’s talk about better things now, k? I think 10 posts about how I am going to get an std no matter what I do is enough…
I guess I’ve just been really lucky my whole life!
Anywho - I’ve lasted until 34 with no std’s. I’d like to keep it that way!
So @BygonEra - back to you.
You are very cute. You gonna break up with the boyf?
Do you love him?
outlier
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You'll learn to accept it over time. You'll also learn to deal with (and even perhaps manipulate) people's reactions. Shame we live in such a superficial world. Sounds like you have a decent guy. Stick with him until you get your head straight, don't make rash decisions in this mental state. Let him know you're struggling. Honesty is key to any good relationship.Lol, how'd you guys find my pictures floating around? I thought I deleted them all... I felt sketchy posting them shortly after I decided to. Ha.
You're right. I would totally date a bald guy, but probably only if he shaved his head bald or had regular age-related male pattern baldness. Why? Because I want kids. I don't want my kids to be fucked from the get-go on a genetic level because both parents have hair-loss issues at a young age. Maybe that is a double standard, but I think it's somewhat selfish of people to procreate knowing that there's more than a 50% chance that child will inherit something that will negatively affect their life. A receding hairline wouldn't bother me in the slightest, nor would a baldING guy.
And sunni, thank you.Unfortunately about the growing back thing, it won't. I had a scalp biopsy done and my alopecia is scarring meaning my follicles are dead and destroyed. I tried Rogaine and had minimal success. They don't even know what kind of alopecia I have. I went to a hair-loss specialist in another state who said she'd never seen anything like it. But she did say hair transplantation is a possibility, but I don't have enough donor hair that is stable. So when they're able to graft other people's hair, maybe. Until then, I'm bald as hell lol. But I'm slowly learning to accept it.
You should be using your condition to your advantage. Being upfront with a guy when you meet him is instantly going to filter the total dickwads you just don't wanna be associated with anyway. If he's great looking and you just want a fling, don't tell him. Take off your wig just after you're done with the deed... lol
Guys like that are too predictable. There's no way they'll know you have a wig unless you tell/show them. Use it to your advantage!
Holy fuck yessica sorry for giving a flying fuck about cancer when you have been going on about having sex with random people off tinder
Forgive me for giving. A flying fuck about your health
Yessica...
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Woah
You don’t need to get upset.
I was just saying that I know about the risks of sexually transmitted diseases. I know about hpv. I know about a lot of that stuff.
I even took a university course on sexually transmitted diseases. I have seen the pictures. I have read the textbook.
I just like to have a little fun on RIU. Talk freely about fun things.
This is not a big deal. Just relax man.
Hookabelly
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From they way I read it @BygonEra wants to end the relationship NOT b/c of looks, but more b/c or other issues (his lack of employment) that would in the long run destroy the relationship
@BygonEra I give you huge credit for posting this and being accepting of the replies. @curious2garden gave some sage advice.
Guys: for you losing hair isn't as big of a deal. It's more acceptable for men to be bald. It's not the same for women
Bygone you're young, but learn to rock this look. Trust me as you get older if the hair doesn't come back (which it probably will) it won't be as much of an issue. Fuck superficial people. Better to know that right away than later. Your head is doing you a favor in that arena. A very dear friend of mine is undergoing chemo right now and is bald as a baby. she's single and taking it in stride.
You can do it my friend. But you've got to hold your head hight and totally embrace it for it to work and be convincing. When you love yourself and your lovely bald head, you can be truly free.
@BygonEra I give you huge credit for posting this and being accepting of the replies. @curious2garden gave some sage advice.
Guys: for you losing hair isn't as big of a deal. It's more acceptable for men to be bald. It's not the same for women
Bygone you're young, but learn to rock this look. Trust me as you get older if the hair doesn't come back (which it probably will) it won't be as much of an issue. Fuck superficial people. Better to know that right away than later. Your head is doing you a favor in that arena. A very dear friend of mine is undergoing chemo right now and is bald as a baby. she's single and taking it in stride.
You can do it my friend. But you've got to hold your head hight and totally embrace it for it to work and be convincing. When you love yourself and your lovely bald head, you can be truly free.
Alienwidow
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I totally fell for a girl just a little while ago that had no teeth. I dont know why she had no teeth but she had fake teeth, like all of em. She unfortunatelly started dating some douch thats fat and is going nowhere in life before i got to ask her out. why do pretty girls all love douch bag guys?You'll learn to accept it over time. You'll also learn to deal with (and even perhaps manipulate) people's reactions. Shame we live in such a superficial world. Sounds like you have a decent guy. Stick with him until you get your head straight, don't make rash decisions in this mental state. Let him know you're struggling. Honesty is key to any good relationship.
You should be using your condition to your advantage. Being upfront with a guy when you meet him is instantly going to filter the total dickwads you just don't wanna be associated with anyway. If he's great looking and you just want a fling, don't tell him. Take off your wig just after you're done with the deed... lol
Guys like that are too predictable. There's no way they'll know you have a wig unless you tell/show them. Use it to your advantage!
Yessica...
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Probably hung like farm animals...
outlier
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I'd probably have a better chance of explaining the meaning of life than trying to attempt that one... lol
But it is a very good point. I know what you mean.
Has to be something to do with opposing forces attracting one another we see so frequently in science (weather pressure systems or just pressure in general, magnetic fields/polarity etc...). Thoughts speech and actions are energy. Down to what level that is influential and what influences they have is anyone's guess. Way beyond our level of thinking at this point in our evolution.
Common sense kicks in eventually. Just depends on how many times you can keep knocking yourself down really. And how late you've realised it. For some that may be right up until their death bed. Unfortunately, you can't force the issue. If you love something, set it free. Yer know
tangerinegreen555
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Timing is everything. Can't control that shit.
Bublonichronic
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Yes, I also invented "da bomb" and "outy five thoudy" your welcome
whitebb2727
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I will elaborate a little further. Looks is low on my list.
I married a woman that is generally low maint. Baits her own hook and will help clean and butcher a deer.
If you base a relationship on looks you are bound to be miserable.
Base it on your core values, beliefs, and interest. Well now, you indeed may find something very special. A best friend, a sole mate, a person you have full trust and faith in. A relationship that will stand to the test of time.
Yessica...
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Well said sir!
I'm not a huge fan of make up. A little bit, sure. But I like the make up free look a lot too.
Natural beauty is nice.
Yessica...
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He was probably most attracted to your personalities first too...id be a liar if i said what first attracted me to my husband wasnt his looks
it was , i wish i could put up a photo hes really pretty. lol
but his brain kept me and how he is with others, hes compassionate, and well educated and nice overall and funny!
(Tadders)
lahadaextranjera
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Please let's not forget Sinead O'Connor. Reputedly the most attractive bald celebrity of the late 80's.
I know a girl with Alopecia, she's extremely attractive and confident and got married recently. She's also a swinger! So no confidence issues there. She's a great girl and extremely popular. Intelligent also, speaks 5 languages and runs her own business. I wish you could meet/know someone like her.
Rock it Bygon, you'll be fine! Look how beautiful Sinead is.
lahadaextranjera
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My bf isn't a douche bag! Lol