Hi all,
So.. I'll preface this post with saying that it is wholeheartedly my intention to post this to a group of 95% men who can (in my experience) be pretty douchey and fear of hurting people's feelings isn't on the top of the priority list. I want honesty, not sympathy.
So anyways, that being said: Would you ever consider dating a chick who lost all her hair and wears a wig?
I was diagnosed with alopecia about a year ago. I have since lost 90% of my hair and wear a wig. I previously had beautiful, long, thick hair and it suddenly started falling out in clumps in the shower. I was mortified. I feel like I might as well have my vagina lasered shut as well because I feel like so much less of a woman. I feel hideous, and my confidence is gone. Only a few people know at this point because I essentially became a hermit and started wearing a wig about 6 months ago. I started a new job and no one there knows. I'm in a relationship with a guy that I don't think will work out for the long term. I'm 25, almost 26, and I'm really afraid I will never find a guy my age (who isn't totally bald or otherwise really unattractive himself) who would accept me. I'm not sure if any of you are aware.. wigs are extremely uncomfortable, expensive, and I can't do normal shit I used to be able to do. I can't go swimming, I panic on roller coasters, going to the gym is a huge fucking hassle... I literally think about it constantly. My sex life is sad at best and my relationship sucks. The only GOOD thing about my relationship is that my hairloss doesn't bother him at all... he still thinks I'm beautiful, and that's why I'm still holding onto this relationship. But there are SO many deal breakers that I'm so worried about our future (and honestly can't picture it). A few months ago, when shit hit the fan, we went on a break. I was talking to a guy who approached me at the bar for a while. He was REALLY attractive and had a great job. He seemed really into me. I decided to be upfront with him and told him about my hair. He immediately cut off all communication. It really fucking hurt, but I expected it in the back of my mind. Since then, I've been really thinking that my chances of finding a man who can even be attracted to me are pretty slim. I'm not shallow, and my friends even think I'm "too attractive" for the guy i'm in relationship with now (not anymore, now that I'm fucking bald). I really do try not to let my lack of confidence show, but it's going to be a really long fucking process. It's so, so hard. And I'm holding on to an essentially abusive relationship for fear of being alone for the rest of my life.
So really, I would love to hear some honest opinions, and I very much expect to hear some "I could never date a bald girl" responses, and that's what I want to hear. You guys don't know me, nor do I know you, so this is something I can't ask my friends or family or a support forum, obviously.
Thanks. Sorry for the longass post.
