3. After 20 years in a relationship, there can't be much attraction left (I had a 30 year relationship, and after the first 10 years she wasn't attractive to me), she will have put on a lot of weight and sagging flesh, I'm amazed you can still get it up for her, well done. But at age 65, will have to agree with you, I've had a woman in my bed nearly every night since age 23 (you started younger than me), but unlike you, with me it wasn't always the same woman.
Wrong. "Can't" is a real big word, Holmes. And, it most certainly wasn't always the same woman, LOL - there's a lot of years between mid teens and mid thirties.
We started in our 30's, math sez we're now in our 50's. After reading the superb books by the tragically late, great Neil Peart, we were astonished to learn that he, in a very effortful and challenging process, completely relearned to play the drums despite already being heavily regarded at the best in the world.
My mate was so impressed that she, despite being very proficient in the womanly arts, emulated The Professor and relearned most everything, right down to the perfect foot massage. The blowjobs, fantastic before, are now bordering on incredible. Her culinary skills, plenty serviceable before, are now of artiste proportions. That's just for starters.
It's a truly beautiful thing when people continually evolve, and tragically few manage that. Stagnation and complacency seem to be the rule as people fritter their lives away staring into sad, tiny smartphone screens. Yeah, we get old and flesh sags, but that's life. The most important sex organ remains between the ears, not between the legs, and the pains of aging can be greatly offset by the delight of truly connecting with and getting to deeply know another, a process requiring years of mindful attention.
Blowing a big load into a lady you actually have deep respect for is a glorious feeling.
4. Female sexual response (excluding the first year of the relationship), you give them money and they reluctantly fuck you for it ......... not really that much of a miracle IMHO. Now if they provided you with a house and spending money while you sat at home drinking/lunching with your pals all day, and wanted sex with you every night, THAT would be a miracle!
Yikes! Pity your ride has not gone very well, and by female sexual response I mean the physiological response. Having one orgasm after another rendering one unable to even walk for a while is extremely impressive to me. It's a blast to behold. What can be better than staccato explosions of sheer ecstasy? Miraculous? You bet your ass!
Your understanding of female sexual response is best described as horrific. Or, perhaps, whore-ific. It need not be that way.
When starting out, we didn't have much. I worked hard. She worked hard. We pooled our resources, abilities, and effort and succeeded. She treated me great when we were struggling and continually evolved for, as of today, 19 years, 11 months, and 20 days.
Words can't capture how grateful I am for her.
You've but one life. Settle for nothing less than a fantastic match. I almost stupidly pissed away my life on the wrong girl for the wrong reasons. I shudder now thinking about it. Thank goodness I came to my senses.
Oh, and I've never been in the same room with a reluctant fuck. That would be awful and I'd decline to partake without exception. I've seen nothing other than rabid enthusiasm to both give and receive pleasure.
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