My girlfriend flipped out

Kage said:

okay, get this, my BF won't smoke and says i can't smoke either
what the fuck? i care a lot for him, and we've both promised each other a lot of stuff, but when i started smoking he starting bein a little bitch
what the fuck should i do? I've been lying up and down the past 6 months that i don't touch the stuff and such, but now I'm starting to grow and I'm worried. like, we're really getting serious, and he's told me it's him or the pot. thing is his litle sister was raped by his pot head step dad AND uncle when she was like seven, so he's so pissed at everyone that smokes now.. what do i do? he really just needs help, i honestly don't think it's all his fault....

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sounds like it will be hard to change his perception of weed. but i honestly stick to my guns when i say that everyone has needs which must be satisfied by following thru with your desires. it's not just about your desire, its about your freedom to pursue your desires and not always wonder 'what if?'

when a lover, not even a parent!, tells you NOT to do something a warning flag goes up. they are demanding control over your life. i will never give that way to another human. I'll listen to their argument and make my own choice. and i would rather live alone then have someone demonstrate control over my decision making.

people, another person CANNOT tell you what to do. and the fact that they are trying to means that they do not respect your individuality and competence. even if its wrapped up in a "i'm worried about the legal issues" blanket. i live by a moral law, the legal law is wrong. just be smart!

i guess this is a very libertarian stance. but i really feel that this life we live is gooddamn short! no one should deny anyone anything that would make them happy; unless it infringes on someone elses rights or happiness.

he's said if the topic comes up again then it could be over. he won't talk, he won't listen, all he fucking does is get pissed off. .......

Kage said:

hey, heh, didn't notice the new post. nehow, yeah , this is a big thing. i mean, honestly, we've been planning to get married after I'm outta college and shit....

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Yea lying will just come back to bite you in the ass.
Let me know how it goes

Kage said:

hey, heh, didn't notice the new post. nehow, yeah , this is a big thing. i mean, honestly, we've been planning to get married after I'm outta college and shit....

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Then thats it! Say you wanna save the money you spend on it on a ring for her... This is what you gotta do...
Be like, look baby... I didnt wanna tell you, but Ive been trying to save my money in many dif ways and I want to make the day I propose special...let me do what I gotta do to make my money and I promise it wont change me.

Lol, that should win her over.

so then, what if he suggested a "don't ask don't tell policy"? i mean, i asked him to smoke with me and he got offendd and hung up. very immature, imo, but at any rate, after that he just said that he'd never ever do it and not to ask. oh, also, he's in college to go into the FBI... that'sw another angle he uses. it could ruin his "dream job" opportunities

uno problemo i am her
lol

Kage said:

he's said if the topic comes up again then it could be over. he won't talk, he won't listen, all he fucking does is get pissed off. .......

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Sounds like he has a lot of personal issues that hes taking out on you.... I say DUMP HIM unless he wants to be with you for who you are... You are not the person that hurt him in the past and you love and treat him good right? Fuck him for trying to compare you to someone he dislikes. Dudes come a dime a dozen and you are may more likely to find a man thats ok with you blazin it up then a a guy trying to find a chick who accepts it.
No dude is gonna control what I do, or try to act like Im a bad person or could be a bad person because of it. Would he rather have you getting drunk, poppin pills or be on a chemical antidepressant/pill/anti-anxiety pill from the doc?
Dudes trippen. Sounds to me like he is a waste of your time.

buuuuuut seeing as this is an online forum and i'm not who i say i am i could be who i say I'm nnot so you could take this as your reply is a great idea and all but i already tried that line and she said she didn't want it bought with "drug money"

i am on chemical antidepressants. he says they're "tested and approved" ... that's, again ,another issue. I'd rather my pot than my prozac...... you're hiting all the issues perfectly. thanks 4 your help

Kage said:

uno problemo i am her
lol

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mmm my bad I was still on the rampage about the dude... skip that my advice for you is above.

Kage said:

buuuuuut seeing as this is an online forum and i'm not who i say i am i could be who i say I'm nnot so you could take this as your reply is a great idea and all but i already tried that line and she said she didn't want it bought with "drug money"

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huh? I didnt say you were selling it to buy a ring, said you were trying many dif ways to save money and you didnt wanna spend it on weed anymore when it could be going to better things.

okay, I'm a dude, now that we're actually talking about thi. I'm just very careful. I'll say I'm a girl again in 2 weeks, so it's all good. nehow, i've got a plan. I'll marry you and leave her, coool? lol, but seriously, thanks for your help (oh, and I'm careful acuse I've already been "caught" no legal action was taken tho, just got a long talk from some upper guy in the courthouse in my county. cheif of police, i think. lol

man this is a shitty situation. i would just come to an agreement that you wont go down "THE PATH" haha weed is a beautiful thing and should bring you closer not further apart. and you never know. maybe you can teach her a few things about takin care of others......

oh, lol ,okay. forget all else i have said.

yeah drew, that's what i've tried, but she makes it very difficult. i mean, i spend half my time angry at her for some derogatory generalization about potheads she's made. top her, we're all stupid and are simmply killing rain cells. she honsetly believes that being high is merely the shutting down of the brain....

yea you should just beg her to let you finish your grow...

yeah, she doesn't even know I grow yet. she just hates that i smoke. growing is an entire different universe. besides, i beg no bitch. well, for weed. maybe for tail... lol, but seriously, i have bawls, and I'm not giving them to her.

why did u tell her in the first place? she prolly told a few of her friends already, while complaining about you

dude what the fuck first youre a chick, now youre a dude???

whatever

sorry tash, didn't mean to throw you